The Venting Junkyard Thread

[Waltz for Luma]

I originally got him Assassin's Creed, but I had a feeling someone else would get it for him so I went out and bought Mirror's Edge. It worked out, because more than one person wanted to get Assassin's Creed for him.

I'm not ready to make babies, but it's exciting and frightening that 23 isn't "too young" to have one in a lot of people's eyes. 21 still sounds like you might've been knocked up, 22 sounds like you have no career goals, but 23... now there's an emerging adult.

I fall into the "22" category. xP

But I'll probably just add 1 year to all of those age categories when I turn 23.  

[Aeolusis]

Geez that worked out great than. cool

I really wouldn't know about the too young bit as I've been dealing with my brother's kid(s) since I was 15.
My brother had his first at 19 with then girlfriend and now wife.
It's kind of scary that I could have kids right now if I wanted to, but I'm in no way ready or responsible enough for kids. emo

But you could always [borrow] a baby for a while to see how you'd do.
Have any friends or family with kids/infants that's relatively close?  

[Hey Pasta]

So I feel like walking death, I have a manly voice due to my sore throat, I spent most of the day crying because my entire family is in Washington right now and I'm still on the central coast and I get to have Christmas by myself, and all in all I wish the holidays were over already. ._____.


...on the bright side, I had my boy convinced that his present actually came from a hobo until he got it opened the entire way and saw what it was (Captain Hammer t-shirt).  

[Aldo]

damn it dad, stop coughing your lungs up and then smoke anyway. That's no way to get healthy.  

[Waltz for Luma]

@Jenny - *hugs* That really sucks. You're welcome to visit me for the holidays. Hell, I would visit you if you're feeling lonely. I'm only a few hours away. <3

@Tom - I'm around people who don't try to have babies or get married until they're about thirty, so being pregnant in my early 20's sounds incredibly young to me. There are so many things I want to experience without kids in the way.



Also, Merry Christmas to those of you who celebrate. :]  

[Aeolusis]

Aivi you're the sanest person I know. gonk heart
Just about everyone in my generation that I know has either kids from accidental or otherwise or wants to have kids.
I think if I was ever ready for kids it'd be late 20's early 30's.

Merry Christmas as well to everyone. cool  

[AirisMagik]

Aeolusis

Aivi you're the sanest person I know. gonk heart
Just about everyone in my generation that I know has either kids from accidental or otherwise or wants to have kids.
I think if I was ever ready for kids it'd be late 20's early 30's.

Merry Christmas as well to everyone. cool

28+

No sooner.

Having children because society expects you to is just silly.

And preferable to just have two. One male, one female, and life is complete.

/dances


Merry Xmas. ;O~


I have a freaking GPS navigator thing.
No more getting lost and realizing that mapquest/googlemaps/whatever have the shittiest directions possible.

"LOL WHAT DO YOU MEAN SLIGHT RIGHT...
AND ANOTHER SLIGHT RIGHT?...
WHAT? THIS ROAD NEVER APPEARED. FAIPFHASPIFHASFKAS"

Last time, though, I figured they wanted me on a "highway", so, even though the road was "M-34", and I actually needed to do a SLIGHT LEFT to stay on it, I had a feeling it was the road I needed.
I was totally right.
Go me.
But I was pissed and called the house to figure out where I am/etc...

Oh well.
NO MORE
!  

[Waltz for Luma]

I want to be 30 at the latest when I have my first kid - it's not just that society expects me to, it's that with how quickly our society changes 'cause of technological advances, I don't want there to be a huge generational/cultural gap between between me and my kids.

It's frustrating to see my friends with parents like 40 years older than them, still thinking women should be in the kitchen or not knowing how to communicate with email. When you don't "get" those things, you don't "get" your kids and their interests. And I don't want that gap between me and my own kids, I want to be able to understand and relate to them.

I don't really care what sex my babies are, but I found a Vietnamese boy's name that I love, meaning bright and smart.  

[Lady Pyre]

Sirius Silverstar

It's frustrating to see my friends with parents like 40 years older than them, still thinking women should be in the kitchen or not knowing how to communicate with email. When you don't "get" those things, you don't "get" your kids and their interests. And I don't want that gap between me and my own kids, I want to be able to understand and relate to them.

Agh... tell me about it. My mom's notions on sex and relationships are so backwards. I'm always telling her "You grew up in the 60's and went to college in the 70's... your generation started the sexual revolution. How are you such a prude?" Well... apparently she valued her family's values over those of her peers, and considering she was closest to her grandma who is 98, that's godamned Victorian. gonk

Of course, seeing as I recently learned how much my grandmother bucked tradition... All these years, I thought she never remarried after she divorced my mom's dad. Well, she did. To somebody 30 years older than her. Apparently they kept their own places and were pretty independent until his health started going down and he went to live with her. I KNEW him. He was the sweetest old man. But everybody just told me he was a close family friend and my grandma was taking care of him. I just found out yesterday that he was actually my grandpa when I came across a letter addressed to my grandma, but with his last name on it. What the hell? neutral  

[AirisMagik]

Sirius Silverstar

I want to be 30 at the latest when I have my first kid - it's not just that society expects me to, it's that with how quickly our society changes 'cause of technological advances, I don't want there to be a huge generational/cultural gap between between me and my kids.

It's frustrating to see my friends with parents like 40 years older than them, still thinking women should be in the kitchen or not knowing how to communicate with email. When you don't "get" those things, you don't "get" your kids and their interests. And I don't want that gap between me and my own kids, I want to be able to understand and relate to them.

I don't really care what sex my babies are, but I found a Vietnamese boy's name that I love, meaning bright and smart.

I'd prefer before 30, and no later than 32, more on the side that it's harder to conceive, especially for women.

40 is too late, imo.

@Pyre:

VICTORIAN!

Gasp, cover your ankles.  

[kerminatrix]

it's not THAT much harder to conceive. women in their 30s have babies healthily all the time, and have been since, oh, forever. it might be harder to get accidentally knocked up, though, because by 30 you should really know how to keep from being impregnated if you don't want to be.

no kids for me until at least 30. i've got s**t to do. plus we're too poor right now to take care of another human being - particularly since we'd need to take better care of it than we take of ourselves at the moment. i mean, kids need, you know, proper nutrition. they can't have a pop-tart and call it a day. and what i mean by "at least 30" is that it's not even under discussion until then. once i'm that age, i'll consider it. but if the same factors are in play that are in play now, well... kids will have to wait.

if i choose to have a kid or kids, i want to provide the best possible environment for them - what parent doesn't? - and with the current state of affairs, i couldn't do that. it would be irresponsible and unkind to the kid to bring them into our life the way it is now. if i never feel i'm able to give a kid the care and upbringing it needs, well, better not to have one than to have one and ******** it up.  

[Hey Pasta]

Airis - my mother was 34 when she had my older brother (her first), and she had four more kids after that...when my baby sister was born, she'd just turned forty. Granted, there's definitely a bit of that generational gap that Aivi was talking about, but it's not that awful. *shrug* Maybe it's just 'cause I have more of the same values as my mother than any of my siblings.
Personally, I really want to adopt...but not for like another ten years.

Aivi - thank you, I would love to visit you or have you come here. <3 Unfortunately, I have to work...bah. =(



I got such a gorgeous coat for Christmas. <3  

[Sevi Rais]

I'm kinda in the same boat as you Pasta, only I'm with my dad and with nowhere to go. :/ We're thinking about going to the horse races at Santa Anita tomorrow just to get out of this house.

Every year around Christmas we find someway to visit our family to exchange gifts. This Christmas, however, my grandma and grandpa visited to take care of my aunt and her kids. This year they decided to not only fail to get a hold of us on Christmas but did not even visit our house until yesterday night (only so they wouldn't be in a house full of kids at a party). They left this morning (or afternoon) to go to Arizona with my aunt, uncle and the 2 kids.

And I was all " neutral ".

My grandma said she tried the house phone but she's knows that the answering machine doesn't work. All 3 of our cell phones were downstairs, now why didn't she try that? :/ Or they could have swung by for half an hour just to hang out. I CAN understand the need to leave as quickly as possible to beat traffic but I really don't think they tried every possible way to contact us. Do they seriously care? ugh.

Makes me want to return their gifts. Not even joking. I already gave my grandma and grandpa their gifts but still.....

Anyway. Very miffed about that. Then my brother left to see his gf and I TOLD him to take the bag I bought her and he forgets, of course. wtf. Why are people so forgetful today? I dunno.

Anywaaaay....I've had a worse Christmas than this but today wasn't so bad. I got a lot of good gifts! I love my shirts!! And I also got the game Disagea that was recommended to me in the Duct Tape. xd I've never played it so I'm going to go play it now~

After I take a shower. haha

I hope you feel better Pasta. sad <3  

[Lady Pyre]

AirisMagik

@Pyre:

VICTORIAN!

Gasp, cover your ankles.

Ahaha. It's not quite that bad. I don't show a lot of skin, anyways. I did have some tank tops I had to stop wearing becasue I gained a little weight and my grandma started calling me "Pam Anderson," though. gonk

I just mean... I think she would seriously crap if she found out a guy had even touched my boobs, yet alone if I had *gasp* premarital sex. Which I probably will. Because I kinda think marriage is an outdated notion as it is. I really can't see myself getting married at all. I used to say "not until I'm out of college." Then it was "later than 30." It's just going to keep getting pushed back. <.<

And kids? Oh God, no!  

[Pixiedevil is Dead]

I have a twin cocktail floating in my ovaries so I've got a healthy fear of child birth. I don't know why my family has so many twins, but I'm not about to put my frail body through that any time soon. gonk Damn twin genes hitting me from every possible angle!!! crying I'm going to avoid it at all possible and adopt if I really want a kid. (I say that now when I'm single) So far every man I've been with has been more of a birth control helper than a baby maker. The bisexual aspect make me lean more towards adoption as well.