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 Posted: Sun Dec 27, 2009 6:55 am
As life progresses problems emerge. There isn't always a clear way of solving it beaming at you. Or there are multiple ways of solving the issue but each may come with their own Scylla and Charybdis. I find how someone handles a scenario, usually under extreme pessimism (reference anyone know?), to have a great statement on their maturity.
How do you usually deal with what seems an all around bad situation to be in?
You can give general statements, or personal experiences (doesnt have to be too personal, or you can be somewhat vague about it obviously), but the experiences are favored, for they allow a more poignant answer.
If this belongs in Personal Problems, move it of course, but I'm not asking for help so much as I'm asking for a discussion on how one deals with their own issues. Self-help if anything.
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Posted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 4:03 pm
I guess I like talking about my problems to someone that I can trust. Which now-a-days...well they're not to many that can be counted as trustworthy.
I try to avoid fights at all costs, because I think fighting solves nothing.
and if it's a problem at school, I talk to a teacher or the principal, or whatever, to get a higher authority to take care of it so that I won't have to go to jail...because when I get angry enough...well...I tend to get as angry as the Hulk lol. and besides if you so much as punch someone at my school, they take you to court the next day.
I guess another way I deal with my problems is take it out on the Twi-tards in the entertainment section...
Or I draw pictures to take my mind off of something...drawing my favorite people usually helps me.
Or you could play games...fighting games are the best in these cases, lol.
and sometimes I just like being left alone and I know alot of people tend not to believe in God, but I like praying, it helps ease my mind.
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Posted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 9:04 pm
Yeah trust runs pretty low, but I might just be particular because I tend to be very wary of people. I'm just too accustomed with people being selfish and out for themselves. Though when I do come across someone trust worthy, and I can count those on my hand, I do enjoy discussing situations with them, so I can relate.
Erm, fights in the verbal sense I try to avoid. So disputes I guess, but I actually like physically fighting as long as it's mutual. I find it cathartic. As much as I'd find a good game of tackle football or a round of wrestling to be cathartic.
I rarely have problems at school, I guess I'm charismatic or I'm told sometimes, so maybe that's why? But when there is a problem it's usually very quiet and dealt with discreetly when need be. I like to keep it that way.
Hah, you seemed so cute and innocent, really the Hulk? How?
Well I don't draw much but I can relate to that as far as writing goes. I enjoy prose.
Ahhhh yesss! Sometimes when I just want to relieve stress I'll just play a game where I can shoot someone's head off where it doesn't require much thought or effort. Or like tekken/mortal combat/capcom where I can just slice someone or bash their head in. Otherwise it'll be a puzzle game that I can get lost it, lately that's been meteos ds, that a friend recently got me for Christmas.
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Posted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 10:09 pm
Yes, latley I have found this out...even best friends are back stabbers, I thought I could trust mine but she let me down big time...she was so stuck on herself and her oppinions that she wouldn't listen to anyone else that cared about her well being so she turned her back on me and eventually started ignoring me completley and when I confronted her about it, she said she felt like I was smothering her...how when I only talked to her less than 5 minutes a day because she was to busy being and @$$ hole...sorry for the rant........I'm still pretty sore over what happened...we're not friends anymore. I actually blocked her on myspace it got so bad.
I don't mind fighting as long as it doesn't have the words go to jail at the end of it....they're like that here.
and ask for the hulk...you know the saying the quite ones are the ones you have to watch out for? When people piss me off, I tend to get strength from some place...that I'm not sure where...I once takled a boy and he went flying/fell and slid for about 10 feet and he got back up to takle me and I didn't even budge...he never ticked me off again.
and you appearantly havent seen the fights I've been in on the Entertainment section >_< I've been involved in some epic ones...
I like writing too...I'm actually working on 3 book ideas...but when I'm mad I can't tend to focus on many words because the one I just heard echo's in my head to much.
I try to fight battles too in school...well I am in college...This group project I was in completley left me out of everything even though I had asked them about a million times...and I had prepared a slide show to show behind us a we presented our project then 5 minutes before we presented it...I asked what am I supposed to read? and they basically told me thaey already knew what they were doing, and that I could do "whatever" with the slide show when they were finished.
So since I made the slide show off of what they were doing, wtf was I supposed to present? so I got to do nothing...
then break came...the teacher had told me that what happened would've failed me... so I brought to his attention what had happened and held a conference with the group, I showed him my slide show and I ended up getting a 70 on it...which is better than what it was before the slide show...he basically thought that I did nothing until I showed him that...and truthfully I was the one that had even found the research they had presented....so yeah...
he said I would be luck y to get a 50, before he seen the slide show...
if that was so, I would have lost my scolarship and would have had to drop out of college.......... so yeah...
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 6:27 am
Yeah I'm actually very careful who to call a best friend these days. It's like an honorary title haha. No problem about the rant, it's good to vent. Hah, reminds me of the quote of the year between my friends a couple years back. "It's not official 'til it's on myspace."
That's pretty uptight, if I were to send someone to jail it would have to be because they severely threatened my well being or a loved one's.
Ah haha, i have a similar story but it was more out of an ask-for-it-then-get-it thing. I don't remember much of the details but whenever I'm around the two people i was with who saw it it tends to come up. I was walking out of spanish class in like seventh or eigth grade and I was with two friends and my then boyfriend. This guy whose extremely tall, bulkly, and an annoying perve ad nauseum, was being just that again and I said I would kick him in the face, mind you I'm very short, and he's at least three or four heads over me. Then he says so it, completely oblivious to my grave tone. So I crescent kick him upside his head, and my friends were like whaaaat? Couldn't stop talking about it for the rest of the year. I left for college a year early, but I still hear he still tries to bother everyone else, like pantsing them and just being an overall a**, but he's had a new regard for me ever since.
I hate group projects, if theres a choice I will opt out of it. Though some classes like Communication will have it be a big portion of the grade and it's inevitable. In those situations I'll be very strict with the group and withhold any information with those i deem undeserving and bring it to the professors attention if it becomes necessar. Usually my word will stand because I tend to bring a presence to the class. If I'm not carrying the class then I'm competing with the person who is. That's real garbage though, hopefully if you ever get a group project it'll turn out better.
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 10:29 am
@Sadism Oh how i agree with you Group projects are a bother you see let me give you a glimpse of my past i was in 2nd grade and they assigned some menial 2nd grade assignment well my ADHD got in the way of everything back then so when ever we would be assigned one when the students did not get that ADHD Does not mean retarded or anything remotely close. So ever since no one would ever listen to my ideas and the teachers always let me work alone. Now i am a 9th grade Introvert.
@HouseMDFan I had prepared for you a Sherlock Homes speech of were your strength comes from but, i forgot that the only way to tell if you are trully the thing i think you are it takes close observation of your regular life. So for now i will not become a psycho stalker and i have no idea were you are in the world so for now i hope its not what i think it is.
Well I hope this is any good
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 10:37 am
DPMEP OCP 45 @Sadism Oh how i agree with you Group projects are a bother you see let me give you a glimpse of my past i was in 2nd grade and they assigned some menial 2nd grade assignment well my ADHD got in the way of everything back then so when ever we would be assigned one when the students did not get that ADHD Does not mean retarded or anything remotely close. So ever since no one would ever listen to my ideas and the teachers always let me work alone. Now i am a 9th grade Introvert.
@HouseMDFan I had prepared for you a Sherlock Homes speech of were your strength comes from but, i forgot that the only way to tell if you are trully the thing i think you are it takes close observation of your regular life. So for now i will not become a psycho stalker and i have no idea were you are in the world so for now i hope its not what i think it is.
Well I hope this is any good Don't worry I am a normal human being...I think it's called an adrenaline rush that makes one act in such away >_< either that or I am really just crazy...although according to Glenn Beck, his fans are called "Sick Twisted Freaks" so I guess that's what I am. lmao.
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 10:43 am
SuchSweetSadism Yeah I'm actually very careful who to call a best friend these days. It's like an honorary title haha. No problem about the rant, it's good to vent. Hah, reminds me of the quote of the year between my friends a couple years back. "It's not official 'til it's on myspace." That's pretty uptight, if I were to send someone to jail it would have to be because they severely threatened my well being or a loved one's. Ah haha, i have a similar story but it was more out of an ask-for-it-then-get-it thing. I don't remember much of the details but whenever I'm around the two people i was with who saw it it tends to come up. I was walking out of spanish class in like seventh or eigth grade and I was with two friends and my then boyfriend. This guy whose extremely tall, bulkly, and an annoying perve ad nauseum, was being just that again and I said I would kick him in the face, mind you I'm very short, and he's at least three or four heads over me. Then he says so it, completely oblivious to my grave tone. So I crescent kick him upside his head, and my friends were like whaaaat? Couldn't stop talking about it for the rest of the year. I left for college a year early, but I still hear he still tries to bother everyone else, like pantsing them and just being an overall a**, but he's had a new regard for me ever since. I hate group projects, if theres a choice I will opt out of it. Though some classes like Communication will have it be a big portion of the grade and it's inevitable. In those situations I'll be very strict with the group and withhold any information with those i deem undeserving and bring it to the professors attention if it becomes necessar. Usually my word will stand because I tend to bring a presence to the class. If I'm not carrying the class then I'm competing with the person who is. That's real garbage though, hopefully if you ever get a group project it'll turn out better. I think that guy just got owned razz But I wish that I had an option to do my own project... I would really do it. I am more of a loner than anything, and I work best that way. appearantly everyone thinks that I am the teachers pet though...because I'm one of the smartest people in the room...which is the reason they wanted me in the group in the first place, but I had to leave early one day, and they got pissed that they had to paste my research on the board. "We shouldn't have to do all of the work." I'm thinking, It takes three of you to do that? I have to go home and paint this s*it and make a power point by myself and you're complaining??? I worked on it all day. Literally.
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 2:50 pm
DPMEP OCP 45 @Sadism Oh how i agree with you Group projects are a bother you see let me give you a glimpse of my past i was in 2nd grade and they assigned some menial 2nd grade assignment well my ADHD got in the way of everything back then so when ever we would be assigned one when the students did not get that ADHD Does not mean retarded or anything remotely close. So ever since no one would ever listen to my ideas and the teachers always let me work alone. Now i am a 9th grade Introvert.
@HouseMDFan I had prepared for you a Sherlock Homes speech of were your strength comes from but, i forgot that the only way to tell if you are trully the thing i think you are it takes close observation of your regular life. So for now i will not become a psycho stalker and i have no idea were you are in the world so for now i hope its not what i think it is.
Well I hope this is any good Yeah I always prefer independent work, but you might want to work on some group skills to avoid headaches when it's mandatory. Just a suggestion, you don't at all have to heed to it. [;
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Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2009 2:54 pm
HouseMDFan25 SuchSweetSadism Yeah I'm actually very careful who to call a best friend these days. It's like an honorary title haha. No problem about the rant, it's good to vent. Hah, reminds me of the quote of the year between my friends a couple years back. "It's not official 'til it's on myspace." That's pretty uptight, if I were to send someone to jail it would have to be because they severely threatened my well being or a loved one's. Ah haha, i have a similar story but it was more out of an ask-for-it-then-get-it thing. I don't remember much of the details but whenever I'm around the two people i was with who saw it it tends to come up. I was walking out of spanish class in like seventh or eigth grade and I was with two friends and my then boyfriend. This guy whose extremely tall, bulkly, and an annoying perve ad nauseum, was being just that again and I said I would kick him in the face, mind you I'm very short, and he's at least three or four heads over me. Then he says so it, completely oblivious to my grave tone. So I crescent kick him upside his head, and my friends were like whaaaat? Couldn't stop talking about it for the rest of the year. I left for college a year early, but I still hear he still tries to bother everyone else, like pantsing them and just being an overall a**, but he's had a new regard for me ever since. I hate group projects, if theres a choice I will opt out of it. Though some classes like Communication will have it be a big portion of the grade and it's inevitable. In those situations I'll be very strict with the group and withhold any information with those i deem undeserving and bring it to the professors attention if it becomes necessar. Usually my word will stand because I tend to bring a presence to the class. If I'm not carrying the class then I'm competing with the person who is. That's real garbage though, hopefully if you ever get a group project it'll turn out better. I think that guy just got owned razz But I wish that I had an option to do my own project... I would really do it. I am more of a loner than anything, and I work best that way. appearantly everyone thinks that I am the teachers pet though...because I'm one of the smartest people in the room...which is the reason they wanted me in the group in the first place, but I had to leave early one day, and they got pissed that they had to paste my research on the board. "We shouldn't have to do all of the work." I'm thinking, It takes three of you to do that? I have to go home and paint this s*it and make a power point by myself and you're complaining??? I worked on it all day. Literally. Hah you could say that. I'm sad that I cannot do it anymore though, I'm not as flexible. I need to work on that a bit. Hah, everyone thinks I'm just an a*****e when there's an obvious answer and I'll be a little peeved that no one sees it. Especially when it's on the board. I hate lazy incapable people. You should pick your group next time. >.0
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Posted: Sat Jan 02, 2010 4:13 pm
I don't really have any friends in the room...and I don't want to get stuck working with all boys, but I have a choice, because the only other 2 girls in the room are the people that I was in a group with.
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I wanna drop outta chemistry just to avoid that 0_o
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Posted: Sun Jan 03, 2010 9:47 am
If that's an option I'd take it. Especially if there was another science available, and I needed a science credit, like physics or bio.
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Posted: Sun Jan 03, 2010 10:30 am
well about how i handle problems
ever since i was born i was the kind who'd run away from everything as a solution then as i grew up i came to realize that running away is no solution that after soetime the problem catches you when you have no stamina left to run so now i face any problem and try to solve it and i accept the consequenses what ever they are
about working in groups yeah that's a b***h and this year the class is divided into four groups with tasks and i either end up doing everything then someone else takes the credit for it or i end up doing nothing because they want all the work for themselves (for some reason) and then get blamed for it i wish i could create my own group and iam the only member, well it's only six more years till college crying crying crying (let's hope that we won't need groups in college)
as for getting angry iam generally a very very calm person but when anyone pisses me off then i turn into a very very scary person because it takes a lot to piss me off and the thing that ticks me off the most is stupidity and injustice to my friends and i'm a very mean person (not proud of it) but i am never mean to anyone unless they deserve it
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 2:59 pm
Sorry to break it to you hun, it's very unlikely that you'll not have a group project in college.
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 4:57 pm
I agree, I am in college, this is where this happened to me at. sad it's a shame people this age are still stuck up jerks, they're very immature.
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