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I have decided to do something good after all this drama. I know it was fun, but since its the end of the year, let's stop the drama and just concentrate on having fun!Being talked about can be so hurtful. Here's how.
shame
Even if the rumors aren't true, the victim may not be able to live them down for years. And if they happen to spread online to even more people, the pain will only be magnified.
Even if the rumors aren't true, the victim may not be able to live them down for years. And if they happen to spread online to even more people, the pain will only be magnified.
embarrassment
Gossip can change other people's view of the victim. So even if you know you should take a rumor with a grain of salt, others may believe its true - and abuse the person as a result.
Gossip can change other people's view of the victim. So even if you know you should take a rumor with a grain of salt, others may believe its true - and abuse the person as a result.
loss of respect
The victim can feel angry because someone betrayed their trust - and humiliated everyone knows their business. It's hard to be confident if you know people are talking about you.
The victim can feel angry because someone betrayed their trust - and humiliated everyone knows their business. It's hard to be confident if you know people are talking about you.
Reader - Reading this made me realize how easily we all pass along gossip without considering who we might be hurting.
Break the Habit.
if you gossip, this is how to quit!
step 1: stop and think.
The next time you hear a juicy rumor that you want to pass along, ask yourself, Is it true? Could it hurt someone if I repeated it? Just remembering the consequences is powerful enough to zip your lips.
The next time you hear a juicy rumor that you want to pass along, ask yourself, Is it true? Could it hurt someone if I repeated it? Just remembering the consequences is powerful enough to zip your lips.
step 2: speak up.
When you're around other people who are gossiping, do the right thing. Tell them, "It's not fair to talk about someone unless we were there - how do we know what really happened?"
When you're around other people who are gossiping, do the right thing. Tell them, "It's not fair to talk about someone unless we were there - how do we know what really happened?"
step 3: apologize.
If you get caught spreading stuff, be brave and apologize to the victim's face. Just say, "I'm sorry I hurt you - I didn't mean to get caught up in the drama." They'll feel less alone.
If you get caught spreading stuff, be brave and apologize to the victim's face. Just say, "I'm sorry I hurt you - I didn't mean to get caught up in the drama." They'll feel less alone.
Spread the Love.
The only was to truly balance out the negative things we dish about is to say something positive - and hope it spreads fast! Everytime you say something mean, say something nice about a person. Voila!
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