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I'm a firm believer in monogamy myself, but if all the people involved in a polygamy are in agreement, I have no right to tell them how to handle their relationship.

However, cheating is completely wrong. I really don't like people that cheat in a relationship. At least in a polygamy all people SHOULD be in agreement to such a relationship. I see nothing wrong with that, though I will never do that.

But cheating is wrong. I never cheated, nor will I. I will never be part of a polygamist group either.

I don't consider it a thing of the past, but polygamy is just fine. Who says you can only care for one person at a time? It just works out better for most people to devote time to one significant other.

haha, you mean like a Harem of sorts? XD

I can see the *logic* behind polygamous relationships. As humans we sometimes fantasize, and have uncontrollable urges which are natural, but rather than deal with it in a 'cloak and dagger' sort of way some people forego the 'secret motel room in the next town over' and just bring everything out in the open. For some people it could work out.

With that said, however, I agree with all of you in that monogamy has been such a big part of our society and way of thinking that it is very hard for anyone to make a polygamous relationship work properly. As of right now it's just not the way we've been programmed.

Of course, with society as it is and being 'open minded' such a big fad now I can see more and more people making an effort to make such a dynamic work. I would suspect, however, that all parties involved--either collectively or individually--would need a very strong emotional support base, and a good therapist!

As beautiful as relationships are they can still be quite bothersome and painful! And having just one partner is hard work enough, imagine having two or more! It would really take the cooperation of everyone involved, and everyone would have to be keenly aware of the situation that they each belong to everyone else and not just one person.

Now, in answer to my own question, I also do not think monogamy will ever disappear. But I do believe that in the future--maybe not in any of our lifetimes--polygamy will become as normal an option as monogamy. As we humans collectively evolve emotionally and spiritually we might be able to make such a paradigm commonplace. Likewise, of course, with same-sex marriages. Those two things together will eventually become an accepted and maybe even celebrated reality.

Would I ever be in a polygamistic relationship? I can't say. Right now I'm still having problems finding one woman to be my partner. But who knows what the future holds? While I won't be actively shopping around for polygamists I'd certainly think the situation over very carefully if ever it is presented to me.

yeah, polygyny is definitely the more rampant version. I think, though ,that at some point there will be *close* to equal acceptance! Well, maybe...prolly not in our lifetime.

razz I just think it'll be a somewhat natural progression as time goes by. The level of open mindedness, the closeness of the world through new methods of communication, etc. etc.

Ah intolerance, you are one of my biggest traits. I'm so intolerant of so many people it would be easier to list all those people I actually approve of.

See, I think it is when heat becomes truly uncomfortable and inescapable that you start to get angry and insane human behavior. And heat is coming for all of us.