PrincessLeela
wow, can I join this discussion? I am on the other side...My oldest daughter is from a previous marriage and there are some issues we are having with her and my now husband...
Especially since our youngest came along. He is soo different with the way he treats our own daughter and I can see my oldest wanting that same love and attention from him.
She is a good kid, but she has ADHD and Asperger's syndrome so it has always been a challenge. Her real dad is a bum and not in her life at the moment. I find my husband had always been hard on her.
We just had an incident with her and my husband and he is so mad at her he wont speak to her. It is so stressful.
It's just such a challenge to be in a mixed family. For both sides, and the children.
My ex boyfriend had 2 girls, so I have been on that side of things too (the step parent) and I understand how challenging that can be as well.
I'm just venting also!
Especially since our youngest came along. He is soo different with the way he treats our own daughter and I can see my oldest wanting that same love and attention from him.
She is a good kid, but she has ADHD and Asperger's syndrome so it has always been a challenge. Her real dad is a bum and not in her life at the moment. I find my husband had always been hard on her.
We just had an incident with her and my husband and he is so mad at her he wont speak to her. It is so stressful.
It's just such a challenge to be in a mixed family. For both sides, and the children.
My ex boyfriend had 2 girls, so I have been on that side of things too (the step parent) and I understand how challenging that can be as well.
I'm just venting also!
I know what you mean Princess. I have a 9 year old daughter from my previous marriage and her dad is not around much. I feel like she would really love more attention from my fiance, but it is not there right now. He can be quite closed when it comes to showing emotions. He is nice to her, but does not really make any effort toward a relationship with her. Sometimes it bothers me because I have spent alot of time with his two kids and put myself out there much more. I guess that is what most moms do anyway.
I had an incident recently with his oldest daughter (involving some insults about me I found on her gaia account) that caused a huge problem. It's resolution was not going well, with us not talking and her seemingly afraid to be in the same room with me. It was so uncomfortable. I ended up having to make the first move- I guess that is what we grown-up have to do sometimes stare
This may sound bad, but it feels easier to forgive my kids when they mess up than it is for me to forgive his. I am trying to grow at this point in my life and work on being more understanding and forgiving.
