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 Posted: Mon Jun 23, 2008 12:13 am
My boyfriend just moved to Nevada- Las Vegas to be exact. He went to live with his brother, and is now looking to join the air force. If he gets what he wants, then I won't see him for eight months. Even when he gets back, he'll have to stay in Nevada because that's where the base is. There is a navy/marine base in San Diego, but nothing to do with the Air Force. That also means he'll be deployed right away, because he'll be in active duty for at least four years.
My mother would never let me go visit him, and he doesn't have a car nor the air fare to come visit me. At least not at the moment.
Ho hum.
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Posted: Mon Jun 23, 2008 11:13 am
If he does join the military, the USAF would be the safest, assuming he's going for enlistment (as opposed to commission). I'd suggest he get a guaranteed job, so he knows he won't get trained in, say, maintenance of old airplanes only used by the USAF because they are too out of date for civilian use.
Now, I don't know if your relationship is strong enough to survive being separated for that long. You two sound young enough, though, that investing in a career is more important than staying together: if you break up, you have time to try again with romance, with each other at a later date or with someone else.
If you do break up, though, the worst thing you can do is send him a letter while he is Basic Military Training. That's a hard enough experience without adding that to it, yet it happens all the time. It's non-confrontational to the person sending the letter, and some people find they can exist alone for the first time while their partner is away on training. I heard them called "Dear John" or "Dear Jane" letters when I was in BMT.
So good luck to you two whether he joins the USAF or not. If he does and you decide to break up with him, wait until he's graduated BMT and is in Tech School, or his first 'real' base. And once he makes the rank of A1C he should be good to get a car, if he's good at budgeting, or at least the occasional round way bus/train ticket.
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Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:01 pm
Yes, that's pretty sound advice.
We probably will break up if we can't see each other, but for now neither of us is looking for another relationship anyways. He's going to focus on being admitted and going through training, and I have my own plans for the next few months. I think this is just one of those 'wait and see' things. Maybe we'll just go on a 'break' for a while. We all know the implications of 'breaks' and long distance relationships, so I'll just wait for now.
When he gets called to go into training, we'll decide then. It doesn't make much sense to have both of us wait only to break it off right when he gets out of training.
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