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The subject line's a little ambigious, but that's what the post itself is for!!

Ok, so my question here is, would you let someone using an illegal drug, or a drug used for pleasure instead of medical purposes, decide if you'd ask them out?

Example: If you're a guy and you're interested in a girl, but you find out she's using E, or some other drug, would you not go out with her? Or would you go out with her? etc. Would you let it affect who to or not to go for?

I don't want to get mixed up in that stuff. Unless he's starting a 12 step program or something, I don't think I'd even consider a romantic relationship.

Well, since I am accustomed to recreational drug use then I know what to expect as opposed to people who just listen to what their mother tells them... For me it would depend on the drugs, as certain ones are huge non-nos in my book, like heroine, and it would also depend on their lifestyle, that is, whether they had a life and drugs, or whether their life was nothing but drugs, which would also not be good.

Cigarettes are fine by me. Even if I decide to quit, that wouldn't change my decision. Josh swore to me that he would quit and make me quit if we found out that I was preg.

Doing anything else "outside of the box"... absoutely not.

As far as drinking, I went from "every weekend" to "very rare" since we went out as a couple. I *might* .... get smiroff for my birthday.

I accidentally pushed no, not yes. I meant yes. Anyway, I wouldn't, because well, if it's something like that it's usually an important part of the person's life. If it's something like cocaine or heroin, it's no automatically. People who do those things like that are a little messed up. But things like cigarettes and marijuana, still no. It's pretty much just unappealing, and that's about it.

I say it would depend on frequency of use.

If it's just a social thing and nothing major, like say, a joint while at a party once every few weeks, that's fine.

But if they have to use it daily or they'll soil themselves from the severity of the withdrawal symptoms? Err...No thanks.

meh. nevermind. she won't see ppl she meets over the net, so forget it.

If I am into someone, I am into them for many reasons, I occasionally do drugs, but I could do them again, or not do them, and nothing would change for me. So, if I am into someone, and they do drugs, moderately, or frequently, the whole package of the person is waht attracts me, and I wouldn't hold biased against someone for simply one thing if there were enough positives to it off. I don't just date people to date them...I am passed that situation...like having casual friends...I don't really go for that either...either we're tight or we're not tight....If I see someone I care about, a friend, family member, or a love intrest destroying themselves with anything however, I change my tune really fast...my current relationship is one of the deepest feeling...and it has bigger issues then drugs....and I wouldn't ever give up on that for a heart beat.