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 Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 10:14 am
So. There's this person whom i want to met more personally, but this person has a massive introversion.
I, myself am introverted... But this person is like 10x more than i am. I do look into the eyes while this person escapes with the sight... things like that. And it's really difficult to talk with this person about just things... I know this person is probably bored to death with my topics, but this person doesn't tell me what are the things that finds interesting... So i don't have a clue as to what to talk with this person.
And i really want to get to know this person better, but i am kinda lost here... Any advice?
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Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 10:47 am
I hope I can help with this, I'm massively introverted.
If you see them every day, memorize what clothes they wear, and especially any rings, necklaces, bracelets, earrings... If one day they're wearing something you've never seen before, ask them about it, like where they got it or who gave it to them.
Ask them questions like "Did you see That 70's Show last nite?" or "Did you see ER last nite"? The type of show they watch usually tells something about them, and if they watch the same shows as you, you guys can talk about that.
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Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 11:14 am
Instead of bringing up topics, try asking questions. Especially if you have something in common, such as class, this can be an easy way to start talking to this person, you can eventually move on to other subjects, like TV, movies, music, hobbies, etc.
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Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 11:36 am
well, what i know about this person is that doesn't watch TV, likes art but does not know about artists, doesn't talk about whatever is going on the head, and likes to answe yes/no questions... seems to disliketo explain things and repeating.
always wear a hoodie or a sweater, i've seen like 3 changes... does not wear jewelry and is rather plain looking
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Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 5:29 pm
Write this person a note! That helps most introverted people, who prefer to think long and hard about a response rather than having to come up with something after being confronted.
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Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 5:43 pm
I'm normally pretty introverted myself, so yeah, the note thing sounds good to me. I'd go with that, because I often can't think of things to say when someone might try to engage me in conversation. The note really would give them time to come up with a response.
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Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 7:35 pm
!! the note idea is awesome!!
i'll have to try it tomorrow!
biggrin !
thanks!!
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Posted: Fri Jun 17, 2005 4:22 pm
Zadkiel !! the note idea is awesome!! i'll have to try it tomorrow! biggrin ! thanks!! Let me know how it works! I just took a class that included strategies for teaching to different personality types, so I'm curious as to whether they actually do work!
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 5:22 pm
[Kudzu] Write this person a note! That helps most introverted people, who prefer to think long and hard about a response rather than having to come up with something after being confronted. I agree, I'm a LOT more outspoken and talkative when I'm writing an email or a post like this. Small talk really weirds me out, and I hate trying to strike up a conversation. Just because I'm not saying anything doesn't mean I don't like you or I'm bored or have nothing to talk about. It's just that nothing of importance that I think other people would be interested in comes to mind at the moment. I'm very introverted myself, and people who've just met me and people who've been my friends for a while know me as two totally different persons. If I don't know someone, well, I don't know what they want to talk about. If they're friends of mine I know they don't think I'm a complete freak and I'm more likely to come up with something to say.
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