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Murkytea

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 7:33 pm


Some friends of mine are having some relationship and keep coming to me for some advice, however I have never been in a relationship and therefore can't give it to them.

The problem is that one of them is keeping a secret that is taring them apart. That same person also keeps flirting with other girls without noticing and latter regretting it.

To better explain...

girl it's affecting
tiger of snow
girl it's affecting
tiger of snow
girl it's affecting
-my name- is it ok to keep a secret from some one when you tell them if they were to find out what it was you wouldn't want to be with them any more. or you would break up with them and then you say you will tell them but then you don't and it's been 2 months and you still haven't

Tell me, have we not encountered this situation before... Course to me it seems like we have done something vary similar. Honestly, I'm not the one to come to with relationship problems but if you give me the permission I can find out other peoples opinions, excluding names of course.

No it's ok it's just the thing -boy's name- isn't telling me it really hurts because it seems like he doesn't trust me to tell me or something I know it is really hard for him to tell me but it really hurts to wait I've cried about it and I don't know if I should confront him because a few people ya yes and a few say let him tell you and it's been 2 months since he said he would tell me and I am just getting sad, upset, confused and frusterated.
I tell you now, you need to use punctuation... It's hard to read what you've typed.
As for the current situation, I know what it is that is being said. I know the problem because the last incident with it I got involved, remember. Personally, if I were you I would have punched him in the mouth for lying / keeping secrets, or started some s**t about it. But your not violent or mouthy so neither one of these solutions help you... Like I said, I can get the opinions of some other people I trust and I wont mention your names. Some of these people are adults so they might actually have some really good advice.

Would you deal with it or end it? Could you ask them this.


Any advice would be greatly aprechiated and thank you in advance.

PostPosted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 11:29 pm


Secrets only drive people apart in a relationship... if you keep secrets then eventuley the other person WILL find out... and it will be three times as bad when they do because you kept it a secret and lied...
I went through the same kind of thing with my ex once... we did end up breaknig up for other reasons, but if they truley love you then they will stick by you. If not then it wasn't meant to be. I say she stops lieing and hideing, grows a back bone and tells him. It may break them up, but is it better to have a relationship based on lies?





Oh, and I love your quiz... it's not a yes or no question, yet thoes are the options ^_^ LMAO I love it.

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Murkytea

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PostPosted: Sat Jan 06, 2007 6:00 pm


Shinys
Oh, and I love your quiz... it's not a yes or no question, yet thoes are the options ^_^ LMAO I love it.

Shhh, your not supposed to know.. ninja 'tis a secret!

and thanks for your input on the situation. I appreciate it!
PostPosted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 12:53 am


tiger of snow
Shinys
Oh, and I love your quiz... it's not a yes or no question, yet thoes are the options ^_^ LMAO I love it.

Shhh, your not supposed to know.. ninja 'tis a secret!

and thanks for your input on the situation. I appreciate it!
Any time. ^_^


Oh, and ok... ninja I didn't say that... nobody saw it.! blaugh

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 4:27 pm


I think she should either demand to know, or break up with him. The truth may hurt, but lies and doubt are much more painful.

Yeah I know this is a bit late, but I'll catch up sooner or later! xd
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