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 Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2005 3:49 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 9:14 am
I'm sorry if this sounds like criticism, but why should I love myself? Is it really possible to 'love' yourself? Because earlier I was thinking 'what is love?' and I came up with
- Feeling happy when they are happy and feeling sad when they are sad
- Caring about them, wanting them to be well
- Being interested in what they have been doing and what they want to say
- Wanting to be around them and really enjoying being with them
- Thinking they are a good person, and a good friend
The only ones that would really work are the second one and the last one. But again, why should I care about myself, and why should I htink I'm a good person? I'm not unhappy with myself, so it's okay, right?
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 2:37 pm
Well, you certainly must love yourself, don't you? If you don't love yourself, then who will? If you're down and with noone to turn to, you have to love yourself to make yourself happy again. It gets you through the day. You're not always around people that love you, so the love has to come from somewhere other than other people. You're right, love is those things, but love is many things, right?
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 4:37 am
I hated my body. Recovered anorexic, ex-dancer, loving boyfriend, but alas....small breasts, large thighs, large butt, I was NOT happy.
I asked a close friend of mine how to fix that. She said to have some passionate sex with someone who likes my body. Now, I've been with Evan for two years, and we both want too, but the parents would find out.
So she said to...errr...watch a porn.
I was highly embarassed, but I did it, and it worked. Alot of the girls in the movie, hell I looked better than they did. Give, they were usually wearing something skimpy and leather, but I learned that the smaller breasted girls get the better sex anyway.
Now that the self esteem problem had been cured, I got onto intellegence. I fixed that by watching alot of game shows. It kinda worked. Well, then my father bought some Tetris lottery tickets. (Oregon lottery.) You play Tetris for money. It made me feel REALLY smart cause it's what I'm best at hands down. Of course, that was only a temporary fix.
I PERMANENTLY fixed it by actually really trying in school. I worked hard to pay attention, and eventually it came natural to me. When my GPA was doubled, I felt REALLY smart, and best of all, listening STILL comes natural to me and next year, my senior year, will be really better.
Also, I got my drivers license, and it helped alot too.
THATS how I learned to love myself.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 11:33 am
M is for M+Ms I'm sorry if this sounds like criticism, but why should I love myself? Is it really possible to 'love' yourself? Because earlier I was thinking 'what is love?' and I came up with - Feeling happy when they are happy and feeling sad when they are sad - Caring about them, wanting them to be well - Being interested in what they have been doing and what they want to say - Wanting to be around them and really enjoying being with them - Thinking they are a good person, and a good friend The only ones that would really work are the second one and the last one. But again, why should I care about myself, and why should I htink I'm a good person? I'm not unhappy with myself, so it's okay, right? I agree with Dar. Love is many things to different people. To some people, love is acceptance. Take my love for my brothers for instance: I accept them. Am I interested in what they do or say?? Not all the time. Am I happy when they are? Hahaha. No. Do I want to be around them? Maybe when they aren't burping/farting so much, burning food, watching porn online, etc. xd Good people? Maybe deep down. Good friends? Uh...no. Will they have my back though? Yes. LOL. So you see...you might have love for yourself this way. There are millions of ways to love someone...there are even more ways to love yourself. wink
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 11:43 am
Shaoblane I hated my body. Recovered anorexic, ex-dancer, loving boyfriend, but alas....small breasts, large thighs, large butt, I was NOT happy. I asked a close friend of mine how to fix that. She said to have some passionate sex with someone who likes my body. Now, I've been with Evan for two years, and we both want too, but the parents would find out. So she said to...errr...watch a porn. I was highly embarassed, but I did it, and it worked. Alot of the girls in the movie, hell I looked better than they did. Give, they were usually wearing something skimpy and leather, but I learned that the smaller breasted girls get the better sex anyway. Now that the self esteem problem had been cured, I got onto intellegence. I fixed that by watching alot of game shows. It kinda worked. Well, then my father bought some Tetris lottery tickets. (Oregon lottery.) You play Tetris for money. It made me feel REALLY smart cause it's what I'm best at hands down. Of course, that was only a temporary fix. I PERMANENTLY fixed it by actually really trying in school. I worked hard to pay attention, and eventually it came natural to me. When my GPA was doubled, I felt REALLY smart, and best of all, listening STILL comes natural to me and next year, my senior year, will be really better. Also, I got my drivers license, and it helped alot too. THATS how I learned to love myself. I'm loving this tale of self-discovery. You sound like you truly have learned to love yourself (not to mention really boosting your confidence 4laugh ), and I'm really glad you shared this with us. You were pro-active and made things happen in your life that made you feel better. You took action to improve your self-image. I'm really inspired to do the same. I have my eye on doing certain things in life (some to make money, some to make friends, so to make myself a better, well-rounded person), and to do those things I need to be motivated, energetic, out-going...some of the things I am far from right now. When I woke up this morning and re-calculated my finances (as I do everyday sweatdrop ), I felt like crying. I owe so much money that when I get my paycheck, I don't have enough money to eat healthily, and I don't have enough to use for "fun" things, and I don't have enough to go to school like I want to. It's enough to make me want to curl up and die sometimes...But after chatting a bit online and getting some things off my chest, and reading this and hearing some good news from someone else I know...I'm a bit more motivated to keep going. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 12:59 pm
*hugs lexy* yes, sometimes things get to just be really miserable. But then that's when you need love the most. you need to say to yourself that it's worth it, whatever is holding you back you'll try. and yes, know that you've always got friends here.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 3:12 am
Ah, I see. A different kind of love. Not what i think of as love. Love as what I think of as liking. Yeah, having that for myself might be good. I'm working on it. wink I think I am okay... I need a lot of working on though lol. Kinda like a pretty dress that doens't fit properly.
But I sitll don't see why anyone has to love me. But I'll be quiet now, I don't want to trample what's making you happy.
The Lexy One - no-one, other than perhaps obsessive fans and stalkers is interested in everything someone has to say. I meant most of the time.
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