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Yes, Kage! You will become rather infamous for starting the chain of The Topics...serious business.

Honestly, being a lesbian myself, I don't see what the huge problem is about dating bisexuals. The phobia of dating a bisexual may stem from the fact that some, if not few, girls do date both a guy and a girl simultaneously. And because of that, they are seen as promiscuous by many. I have to say that I know and have met bisexuals who are seriously cuddle phreaks (<3) and honestly don't want to have sex as much as say, myself. Really, if I could tell not only the lesbian community, but every community, to seriously stop the biphobia, I seriously would (actually, I think I will; nothing is stopping me). They want love just as much as us and ******** deserve it!

It shouldn't matter whether the person is bisexual, lesbian, etc., what matters about the person is their personality in my honest opinion. I know how it feels to be assumed to be a bad person just because of a characteristic (me for my outward appearance); wrongly assumed upon by another who doesn't even know you.

And yes, my grammar today is choppy-ish. I'm feeling really...touchy and picky and...blech. Dx So, forgive me.

Maaaybe, Ms. Cuddlebutt. ;] Lubbles j00~.

Whoa, we're veering off topic here. If we want to spend more time dicussing cuddling, best create a new thread or take it to the Tangent Thread.

There's nothing wrong with cuddling, Len's just teasing. I don't really know, though, if cuddling versus sex drive has anything to do with it. As Len said, though, it could be a fear that the bisexual person may be more promiscuous or more inclined to be so, since they can't "commit" to people of one sex.

However, biphobia is sometimes not even entirely conscious. A lot of girls don't consciously think that a bisexual girl will cheat on them, even--like I said, one thing I've noticed is simply fear that the person will follow their relationship by dating someone of the opposite sex. This seems to be a huge slap in the face, but I can't figure out why.

Even for me, it's kind of something a little unconscious. For some reason or another, I think it's really cute if a girl is only attracted to other girls. This doesn't really make much sense to me since I'm bisexual myself, so it feels like an odd almost-double-standard.

I think one of the reasons some lesbos will avoid bisexuals is the idea. Well if I were to date this girl, fall in love and such. Would she leave to be with a man because that is the more acceptable??

Also then there is the ignorant view of "people just claim to be bi, they simply should choose on and stick to it." These of course being two I can think of, and amoung what is most likely many others.

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Honestly speaking,
I prefer not to date bisexual.No offense though! sweatdrop
(Although I prob won't object much if that's the way my girl wanna live 3nodding )

It just that,
I think it can be complicated when you date someone who is bisexual...

(One of crazy thought I have:
"A" is a girl and she is dating "B"
"B" is dating "A" and "Z"
"Z" is a guy and dates "X" beside "B"
"X" is a guy and dates a girl named "C"
---keep going and going eek )


also,
as you(Kage) said genders don't matter right?
Well, I'll be (at least) a bit jealous if my girl share intimate relationship with someone else than me...don't care whether it's a girl or a guy. Nobody likes to get through a heartbreak ...

Another possibility,
Not all people are strong and manage to fight to live their life with the constraint of society's expectation.
I'm not saying bisexuals will give up their love for girls because some social stuff...
but the possibility that they will is there.
And it is so much easier to assume lesbian won't swing that way as much as bisexuals girls because they can't help loving someone other than women.

Well, I think the phobia is sometimes due to experience. My girlfriend has been with a bi chick before me and was cheated on. And her ex had slept with a man and even before they started dating she had slept with a guy after she had confessed to my girlfriend that she was in love her. Though I consider myself bi, I feel a huge slant of women, so people seem to see me as more of a "lesbian".

And the fear of a bisexual chick leaving a chick for a guy...I think a lot of relationships feel that way, be it a straight couple or between two males and I have a feeling I know why. It's the insecurity that they weren't good enough and possibly even in bed, if the relationship had gone that far and intimate. One would think "was my performance not good enough that you had to leave me for the opposite gender of their current relationship"? Of course, reality is really for the most part untrue in that standpoint, but love is a very sensitive matter and many are scared of being hurt, especially when it could be so personal.

Those are my thoughts and experience on the matter anyhoo.

I know that my personal biphobia is based mainly off of experience. Most of the girls in my area that claim to be bi are either trendwhores, sluts, or only doing it for the attention. Obviously, I know this isn't true for every girl, but it's hard to tell whether any specific girl is actually bi, or just trying to fit in...

Plus, I had quite a bit of trouble coming to terms with the fact that I'm bi. I claimed lesbianism for the longest time simply because I didn't want to be associated with what I consider to be the typical 'bi' chick. I still don't like people knowing that I'm bi. I'm afraid people will think I'm just claiming bisexuality because I want them to think I'm 'cool' x_____x

The point is, I'm still trying to get over my own internal biphobia. I'm not quite ready to force myself to let go of the biphobia I feel towards other people, no matter how illogical it is >___<