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Soz Ive been thinking about this for a while and just now remembered I wanted to ask.

How "out" is everyone? (To the ones that are gay or bi)

And who have you outed yourself to?
How did they take it?
Have you ever been afraid of telling someone because they might not love you anymore/shun you/not be friends with you anymore?

Im out in the sense that those I want to tell, those that figured it out, or those that I thought I could trust.

My main family knows, and I guess they just deal with it. At least my mom loves me. Not to say the rest dont, but she just understands me more. n-n
Friends my age know.
And then some people at my work know.

Now I dont know if my outer family knows, but whatever, I dont really see them that much to care anyways.

This just really got to me the day that I came home from an outing with my lover, and an old family friend of my family (understand? xD) was there and having a bbq.
Beforehand, my mom had told the family's mom (Dee) about me.
(She pretty much just said, oh, how did you handle it? My mom said that she just loves me as I am. n-n That kinda made me upset that Dee asked how she "handled" it. Its like, how else? Every parent should love their kid as long as theyre not harming anyone. :/ ) ANYWAYS.
Apparently my best friend when we were growing up (Jessica) had a bf (who is like, 10 years older than her -gag-) And has had a kid with him, blah blah.
And my mom introduced MY LOVER to Jessica and this bf, as her "significant other".
Now this in and of itself does not bother me, but the fact that when she introduced Chris to them, it was my FRIEND.
...
See the problem?
I want it to be, and this is Chris, Katies significant other.
Because she is.
Weve been together for 6 years now, and to any straight couple, people would consider them already married.. because 6 years is very committed.
Even more so committed because most of that is a long distance relationship.

And then theres some friends I have, one is a couple my parents age, whom I have known ever since I was little.
Theyre catholic and all that crap, so Im afraid of what they might say.
I cherish our friendship, and then if something like this would make them not like me.. I guess theyre just.. shallow.
I really hate to think of them like that because I cherish them. ;-;
And then this one lady I work with, that Ive gotten close to.
Im not sure if shes religious, but shes great fun, and it would break me if she didnt accept the fact that Im gay.

Now that Ive shared about me, how about you?
(Oh and feel free to give me advice, Im practically begging for it in the way that I wrote it anyways.) xP

Oh my Natsuki of little words.

xD

And yeah I know it shouldnt really matter, but people pretty much just assume people are straight.
Its like the default option for humans. neutral

College is makin you smrt. n-n

Normal, pretty much only in the sense that they cant reproduce.

Unless anyone else can find something not "normal" about gay people...

With that logic, yes, "fixed", barren, single, or people who choose not to have kids are also not normal.

So if they dont see themselves as not normal, we therefore, are normal as well.

3nodding

My argument = FTWWWWWW 4laugh

Dont you psycho-analyze me.

Ikezu.

And yeah, their argument about us being the downfall is filled with uber fail.
Like they say, the statistic that 10% of the world is gay..
Therefore the other 90 is mostly straight..
Yeah, and then there being billions of people..

I really dont have to do the math any further than that. neutral

Are you calling me a freak? lol. ^_^
Juuust kidding.
(I's "barren" in case you were wondering what my ramblings were about.)
ANYWAY!!! Back on topic!
I'm pretty much not out. I think that some people know, but they don't KNOW and I am also on a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. If someone were to straight out seriously ask me, I wouldn't lie, but I usually don't go around wearing sandwich boards proclaiming my sexuality.

Everyone pretty much just knows with me. My family pretends not to know, but I don't really care. All of my friends know, and my coworkers, etc. I don't make an effort to hide it, so it's pretty much whatever. I do have a habit of talking about my crush a lot, though. XD;;