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 Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 8:27 pm
My boyfriend has pissed me off for the first time in our three year relationship. I have discovered he is a really judgmental person and its really driving me crazy. He seems to be throwing out friends but thats not what really pissed me off. I'm going to leave out names for this, sorry if it gets confusing.
We have this friend who hit a really rough patch in her life. She started doing drugs but has since cleaned up. While she was starting that faze, her now ex-boyfriend accused her of cheating on him and broke up with her, which I think made her depressed and get into more drugs. Lovely.
Well because of this incident, my boyfriend now hates her and wont speak to her. (His best friend is the one who thought she was cheating)
Now my boyfriend is in a band that had a concert tonight that me cousin and I were going to. My cousin is very good friends with the girl my boyfriend hates. My boyfriend calls my cousin and asks if she's going to the concert. She tells him she is and he tells her "Don't bring that girl, she's a pill-popping c**t."
Why did he feel the need to put my cousin in that position?
He put her directly in the middle of this whole situation for no reason. My cousin didn't want me to get mad at her for fighting with my boyfriend and also wanted to defend the girl so she had no idea how to react.
She told me about this tonight and was really worried about it. I reassured her that she's my family and I'm on her side. Now she's scared that he's gonna hate her after I talk to him about it. He put her in such a bad spot, it's really making me mad.
Does anyone have any ideas on what to do?
I don't like drama and this is pissing me off too bad to think straight >.<
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Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 9:26 pm
I'd tell off my bf for putting her in that position. That's not acceptable with enemies, let alone friends.
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Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 9:44 pm
Tell him to keep it together, if he has strong feelings like that to at least keep it to himself.
If he doesn't like her, why would he want to make everyone else feel like that they should too, just because he doesn't like her?
If she is cleaning up her act than that should get recognition, if he keeps beating her down wouldn't that make her more down?
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Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 10:06 pm
If he had any balls he would man up and try to help her instead of calling her a "pill-popping c**t".
Now the question stands, Do you really know your boyfriend within the three years you have been with him? If not, what else is there that he has not shown to you.
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Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 8:04 am
Spiritless Girl: I have been thinking of that, but I don't want to completely destroy our relationship on his first offense. Though this is a bigy, he can't be messing with my family. ~_~
Nems`: That is a solid point! Isn't the saying "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"?
This girl has shown weakness, he shouldn't try to take her friends away...
Darkened Shadow: Thats the part of this that has been worrying me the most.
When I started dating him, he was one of the most accepting people I know. Now it seems like anyone he doesn't like is a lying druggy or a thief.
(He'll sit there and bash musicians saying "They stole this sound or they copied this" if he doesn't like them. )
He seems to take one mistake someone made and never let it go.
I wonder what he'll do to me if I make a mistake or do something he doesn't like...
(That makes him seem violent...O.o; He's not one for physical attacks.... I could take him anyway and he knows it XD)
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Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 8:11 am
It makes sense for him to dislike this girl, because he felt like he has to take the side of his best friend, who probably said many worse things to him than you know. I would talk to him about how he's changed, and take great offense if he said 'this is how I always was', because that means he's been lying to you for three years or more. Definitely defend your friends, and support them when they're in need.
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Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 7:04 pm
If I were in your position, my first reaction would be "I am dropping this bigoted ********. D<".
Then again, you are not me, so your reaction may be different. If you want to have a more reasonable approach, tell him to back off. It isn't any of his concern. If you want to stand up and take charge so everyone knows that you don't take any bullshit, drop him like a hot coal without any warning. Because that is how I roll. cool
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Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 12:06 am
Alatariel Surion If I were in your position, my first reaction would be "I am dropping this bigoted ********. D<".
Then again, you are not me, so your reaction may be different. If you want to have a more reasonable approach, tell him to back off. It isn't any of his concern. If you want to stand up and take charge so everyone knows that you don't take any bullshit, drop him like a hot coal without any warning. Because that is how I roll. cool Ala, you're cold as ice cream, but just as sweet. heart
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Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 4:47 pm
wow tough position
tell him off 4 doing that i guess
ur cous must feel bad nd frustrated
so jst mess with him a lil
lolz
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Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 5:31 pm
O.o
I thought I'd never see the day. You guys are so good together.
He has no right to say that stuff to you or my WIFE! I wonder what he thinks of me nowadays. I would bring it up that you think he's changed and what not.
I'm sorry my dear, this is a big no no, putting your cousin in the issue.
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Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:20 pm
He shouldn't have used the c word. I HATE that word. How'd you find out what he said exactly?
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Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:22 pm
JazzieWolf Alatariel Surion If I were in your position, my first reaction would be "I am dropping this bigoted ********. D<".
Then again, you are not me, so your reaction may be different. If you want to have a more reasonable approach, tell him to back off. It isn't any of his concern. If you want to stand up and take charge so everyone knows that you don't take any bullshit, drop him like a hot coal without any warning. Because that is how I roll. cool Ala, you're cold as ice cream, but just as sweet. heart What a coincidence -- I just had ice cream! 8D
Yes, I can be cold, but personally I do not take kindly to people saying rude things about a friend who needs help, and then brings in family. D:
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Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 5:31 pm
I'm going to talk to him about this on Thursday because I will actually see him. I want to actually see how he reacts...
(Also, I wanted to cool off a bit, I'm PMSing like no other... to the point I noticed it biggrin
He doesn't need the full wrath, he needs someone who wont flip out and leave the room with him confused :nods: )
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Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 5:32 pm
bbangel281 O.o
I thought I'd never see the day. You guys are so good together.
He has no right to say that stuff to you or my WIFE! I wonder what he thinks of me nowadays. I would bring it up that you think he's changed and what not.
I'm sorry my dear, this is a big no no, putting your cousin in the issue.
I can only think of one person who doesn't like you... and he doesn't count as a human anyway XD
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Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 4:31 pm
YesterDaysNews bbangel281 O.o
I thought I'd never see the day. You guys are so good together.
He has no right to say that stuff to you or my WIFE! I wonder what he thinks of me nowadays. I would bring it up that you think he's changed and what not.
I'm sorry my dear, this is a big no no, putting your cousin in the issue.
I can only think of one person who doesn't like you... and he doesn't count as a human anyway XD
lol Damn straight he doesn't. a**. >.>
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