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Mystress_Gin Vice Captain
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 Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 9:21 pm
Hi gang, Mystress_Athena here... duh!!! I am writing this with mixed emotions right now... This has been a hard week for me, as my son just sworn in for Active Duty in the Army. He flies out tomorrow to Fort Hood Texas crying I know that he needs the dicsipline and the rigors of routine to get him on track, the not knowing if he is going to be sent overseas to the wartorn Iraq is tugging at my heartstrings... I know it is too early to worry about him, but as you know sometimes the unknown is more scary than the known.... He will be gone for 3 years for that is what he signed up for. I am going to miss him so much.. I know he is 21 and he is now a big boy and Lord only knows that the majority of the gray hair on my head has been caused by him..But this is turning out to be a bit harder than i thought it would be.. especially since I have no clue as to what is going to happen.... I will keep you posted as I find things out... Thanks for being a sounding board for me....
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 12:29 pm
 *huggles*
first of all... im so proud of your son for picking togo into the military..seriously its great for young guys to actually start a life and get places.
Three years is certainly not forever and generally they do get leave (depending on what he signed up for..)
And just if its easier for you to think about it as if hes off at college then do that. If he just signed up and hes going for his basic..that is a rough a time on every one. I know my husband had a rough time being apart from me during that time. In fact they tried to crush him a few times saying that he wouldn't see me for at least two months after his basic..just to get at him. (course that did result in him having a break down and had him crying to me on the phone >.< and he NEVER cries ) but he did get to come home for five days after basic. Then he got posted and we got a place to live together in January so ..it wasn't so bad. That was two months apart , then a place to live on base together. It was a fair trade off, he also got two weeks off for Christmas.
Now, i know in the states basic is 8 weeks no contact with the outside world..which i can only imagine probably crying everyday about. I know I cried allot when Adam was in the field and couldn't have his cell on him. (in canada their allowed to keep their cells and personal items. I know in the states thats not the case at all)
My husband went away a boy in my eyes for basic and came home a man. I was really impressed with the level of confidence that he was given and he was everything I ever wanted him to be.
His mom also had a incredibly hard time as well but, we both got through it and both agreed it was the best thing to ever happen to him.
Have you looked at possible support sites for moms of soliders? I belong to a few for wives but, I'm not the topical military wife so i don't tend to get allong great with military spouses. I try, i do..its just ..their very different in their relationships then i am with my husband.
Also, remember..if hes single hes going to be making a great pay check and a stedy one as well, then ontop of that he has benifits. I can't imagine anything better for a young guy. I know the guys who live in the shacks here on base..jeeez they make good money cause they have no bills period. They just basically play around with the money they get every two weeks. lol.
Anyways, basically what im trying to say is. I know its hard to be separated. I personally don't know what its like to have a son or daughter in the military however, I'm just trying to help you think of all the positives because that always helped me when I was missing my husband. Its great on a resume down the road, or if he stays he can retire at 45.
I know the threat of him going over seas is incredibly scary. I know adams mom would be a mess.
I don't know..what im trying to say, sept im here if you ever need some one. <3 I know it can be hard on any end of the spectrum of all of this.
ohhh my husband just told me. depending on what job hes doing in the military it could take up to two years before hes fully trained in order for him togo over seas. So theres hope there ^.^
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