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 Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 5:33 pm
ok so I was wondering how to continue on normal day conversations...
I have a social disorder and I'm kinda awkward
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Posted: Thu Jun 17, 2010 8:34 am
Have you tried asking people questions? It gets them to do most of the talking, plus they feel better because you sound interested in their life.
What sort of symptoms do you get from your social disorder?
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 4:13 am
I have a social anxiety disorder. I never realized it but, I am afraid of talking too! Even when I am alone. eek I won't ever talk out loud unless it is my only option. Really I'm not scared of people or being around them. Just the talking part. Trying to make myself talk right now. Won't do it.
I especially fear phone conversations.
Anyway how I bring myself to talk to people...
I started with one person I would talk to (family is a great choice). And soon with him I didn't realize I was talking or making a conscious effort to sound right (not awkward-i dont have speech problems just can't follow or mimick social cues)
When you start talking to other people bring them into conversations with that person you can talk to.
Eventually try talking to some one on your own.
"Hey. I'm Hazle.(unless they already know your name)" they will usually respond with their name. "what's up?" if they answer with anything other than "nothing" talk about something they are up to that you relate too. and it should go from their same as online conversations.
Starting with questions works too. Look for "conversation pieces" like tattoos...or interesting pieces of clothing. (not just nice looking ones otherwise the conversation goes "Nice pants" "Thanks" the end. and you look insecure for complimenting people for no reason and believe me it is a bad habit to try to break)
People are less judgmental than we are on ourselves.
People may notice you are awkward or out of your comfort zone... but more times than not they will accept it and still like you. The occasional person that poinst out to me that I don't seem on the same page as everyone else rarely gets me down (only if i thought i was on the same page as that person) but people who judge arent worth befriending anyway.
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Posted: Sat Oct 02, 2010 6:45 pm
My simptoms of S.A.D. is that when I talk to people i get this andranaline rush would make me feel icky afterwards. I can answer phones or talk over the internet but when it comes to people in person, i start developing options. Like if someone was to ring the bell and its either my father/brother's friend i wouldn't open the door. Sometimes i forced my self to speak louder behind the door telling them they aren't here if they aren't. if they are i'll just get them. This other problem I have is that when im around my friends im still feeling that shy nervous feeling. Sometimes i would hide in my room (made friends with brthers freinds) when they come to visit. Sometimes when someone say something insulting i may not help but break into tears and all people want to say about dont cry and you're not weak and stuff. I wish i can explain but somehow i know they wont understand. I don't cry for fun it cant be helped and i hate crying. Some part of me talking is from people making it worse for me to speak. I know that if i speak i would be in a lot of trouble. Other thing is that i hardly raise my hand in class or talk aloud because i start sweating and having to rush home to shower. crying
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