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 Posted: Sun Oct 05, 2008 11:52 am
I've had to deal with two behavioral problems with my two and a half year old daughter, Raelin, and advice would be great.
First Problem: Spitting
My daughter has started spitting. She will spit into her hands, or allow the moisture to simply roll down her chin and chest. She will also spit out her drink. She has done so onto the carpet, back into my or my husband's cups, onto empty dinner plates as we finish our meals, and once, she spit chocolate milk through the screen of an open window.
We have start making her sit down whenever she eats or drinks, no more walking around with a sippy cup and a cookie. While spitting is not a daily thing, she has spit her drink out onto the carpet right in front of both me and my and my husband, so I don't think this will help too much, we are just trying to exert some control.
Second Problem: Vomiting
I've heard of children getting so upset that they vomit. I've been told that I did it once or twice when I was little, but my daughter has taken it further. She will get upset when she doesn't get something she wants, or when my mother has to leave, or I leave Raelin with my husband. She will get so upset that she starts coughing. She then forces the coughs so hard that she vomits.
I know this is done for attention, I just have no idea how to give "negative" attention to deter this behavior without getting angry and I really need advice on how to rectify this.
Whatever advice you guys can give would be GREATLY appreciated.
Thanks.
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Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 9:56 am
In terms of "negative attention," children do not treat it any differently then positive. Attention is attention to them. My best advice for that is to ignore it and not make a big deal out of what your daughter is doing. Clean her up and go on with your day. Whenever my son does things like that, I force myself to breathe and think about how it is just a phase and someday it will stop.
My son is about the same age as your daughter and also doing the spitting thing, so I'm inclined to think it's just one of those disgusting things that toddlers like to do and eventually outgrow. (He'll spit in his hand and smear it everywhere...on his face, on whoever is closest. Just spit and let it dribble down his chin and neck...now when he drinks anything he repeatedly spits it back into his cup before drinking it all up...etc.) He seems to do it less for me as I do not make a big deal out of it, I tell him calmly that it is disgusting to spit and I'd like him to stop and clean him up. When my husband comes home, it's another story: it annoys him and he can't just ignore it and Ethan does it constantly once Daddy comes into play. Especially in the car. xp
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