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 Posted: Wed Mar 04, 2009 10:07 am
I've been going on dates since January, and they've been either total weirdos or really awesome. The only problem is, the really awesome ones I ALWAYS make friends with, then I make such good friends with them, I can't look at them romantically without going "Ew, I can't do that..". It's not that they are ugly, it's just like...uh...
hm...example..
Oh!
It'd be like a straight friend thinking about doing something with his best friend that is also straight.
I've been single since September. T____________T;; I can't seem to lift this curse. I don't really understand it. I'm not picky. The friends that I make want to date me but everytime I think about them that way it feels odd. x___o
I dunno what to dooo. ;A;
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Posted: Sun Mar 08, 2009 11:14 pm
It sounds like you have a preconceived notion about romance vs. friendship that is blocking you from seeing female friends as attractive women. Most people find that the best possible romantic mate is also a very good friend. (I married my very sexy best friend.) You say that you aren't picky, but there is obviously something going on in your head, especially if you are attracted to a girl BEFORE getting to know her, but not after.
You might want to get some counseling if you can't get over the "friend" thing. Maybe it's an unconscious defense mechanism to prevent girls from getting too close and hurting you. A good therapist could help you figure out what the block is.
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 10:45 am
It's not so much as I don't wanna be hurt as it is to I don't wanna lose them as friends if something were to go wrong. I could care less about what happens to me in the end, I just don't want them hurt or feel like we can't be friends anymore if something were to happen.
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 12:10 pm
You are going to have to look before you leap. Not every person is a great beauty in side just because they are beauty outside. Get to know the person inside and than worry about the outside. My ex made comments to me I carry with me the rest of my life now. He called me a wouthless waste of space, ugly piece of trash and should have never been born. He found him a woman that made him so happy.
Jokes on him she has already cheated on him 3 times and he even caught her in the act. She is a achoolic and use drugs, she even has beaten him up. But she is the best woman he has ever might. She want even let him see his daughters. I think he has just misjudge both woman.. So please look inside as well as outside before you mark someone off your list.
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 12:13 pm
Hay try taking them out on a friend date. so called dutchtreat where she pays for herself and you pay yours. You are not putting any cations on the date or eachother. Have fun.
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Posted: Tue Mar 31, 2009 7:03 pm
Maybe you need to start slowly progressing from friend to romance. C.L. Blue Eyes makes a very good case for a "friend date", something simple. See if your friend has any interest in being "more than a friend" before you progress.
It's especially hard to tell the difference between initial attraction, sexual tension (lust) and true love when you haven't experienced a lot of relationships. It won't ruin your friendship if you kiss someone and realize that there isn't a real spark between you. It happens.
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