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 Posted: Tue May 05, 2009 9:38 am
Each week I'll be posting a topic for all of us to discuss.
This week's Topic: Gay Rights
Previous topics: TBA
Make sure to stay on topic, and although your opinions are valued, try not to get out of hand or be rude to one another.
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Posted: Tue May 05, 2009 9:50 am
It goes without saying that everyone should be treated equally, but yet again the church is doing everything in its power to keep the GLBT community from obtaining something that already belongs to us. As Americans, it's our right to be able to live our lives without having the church stick their noses in and tell us that it's immoral. Granted, not all churches are like that, but I'm speaking as a whole. I'd say 95% of the churches out there promote hate and/or discrimination against homosexuals.
As most of you know, my boyfriend is serving in the Army, and is currently deployed in Iraq. He's doing his part to protect this country, but he still isn't allowed the same basic freedoms other Americans have. As of right now, I have no rights. I can't live on base with him if, I won't be notified if something were to happen to him, and we can't even let it be known publicly that we're in a relationship. By that last part, I mean I can't even put on my myspace, Gaia, etc. who he is or put pictures up of him. I can't have any proof of the two of us. I can't have pictures of us holding hands, kissing, even touching his face could be used against him. Letters, phone calls; all of it can be used to kick him out if someone wanted to.
We basically have to live our lives in secret until he leaves the Army. If me and him lived together, and he was caught in bed with me, he'd be arrested and sent to federal prison. I just can't even begin to describe how pissed off it all makes me. It's stupid, and unnecessary! It makes me feel like I'm less than a person, like I have no right to be with the person I love, like I'm hurting him by being with him because if the two of us are found out he'll be in a lot of trouble. Many people think the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy protects him from most of that, but the truth is, it doesn't. All it would take is one PFC to report to the higher-ups that he has proof that my bf is in a homosexual relationship, and that'd be it.
Phew... so that's what I have to say on it right now, what are your thoughts?
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Posted: Tue May 05, 2009 4:02 pm
That "don't ask, don't tell" law pisses me off! It always has! It's just so f***ed up! D:<
I'm glad that we've made SOME progress. A long time ago, sodomy was illegal (and what I don't get is who in the hell's business is that?) and if someone found out if you were gay, or found you in a gay bar, no matter where you were in the U.S., you could be arrested.
But even with people who are acceptable of gay and bisexual people still find it wrong to be transsexual. It pisses me off when someone finds out that a girl has male genitals (or vice versa). They'll be like "Oh my god! It's a man!" No it is not!! scream Some people's hormones are messed up before birth, and their brains are masculinized but they're given a female body (and vice versa...)
It's tough for me, because I'm both transgender (ftm) and bisexual. I don't broadcast it to people, but if they ask, I would tell them, because I won't say that I'm a girl... because I'm not. My parents both know about it and they're pretty cool about it, but my mom wants to tell my grandparents, and they are church-going people, christians, and I really don't think they're reactions will be positive.
I just want to be treated like a regular boy. Why do I have to work so hard for what others take for granted? cry
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Posted: Tue May 05, 2009 6:49 pm
*hugs*
I'm sorry hun but some people just refuse to see how great someone is just because they can't get it to register in their minds. There's nothing wrong with you, in fact you seem like a very nice person (and im a huggy person so i hope you dont mind 3nodding )
For people that want to be with someone of the same sex or opposite or even both.. I don't see anything wrong with that. People are people we can love, hate, be intimate or abuse. I think that when people are looking for someone being physically attracted to them is only apart of the battle, there's also someones personality.
Oh and I would like to add something that i've noticed. Just because someone is gay or bi, it doesn't make them a whore. They have their preferences too. talk2hand
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Posted: Wed May 06, 2009 6:37 am
I think out of everyone in the GLBT community, Transgendered people have it the hardest. Where gay people have very few rights, transgendered people have no rights at all. I have a lot of friends that joke about tran people, saying stuff like, "It's man though, right?", and I'm like "Yeah, technically they are a man, but they don't feel like one." To me, if someone wants to be referred to as a woman/man, then I have no problem respecting their wishes.
Like sky said, just because we're a sexual minority, doesn't make us whores. It doesn't help that a lot of the people in our community like to perpetuate that stereotype. It's funny how the gay people straight people ever meet are the ones that are the minority of the gay community. They meet those people, and think "Wow, this must be how all gay people act!" and based off that assumption alone, they hate the entire gay community because of that one person. I think we need to do our best to educate others about us. All their hate is, is fear of the unknown. Most of them don't really know GLBT people, so they don't know that we're just regular people trying to make it just like them.
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Posted: Wed May 06, 2009 4:02 pm
Yeah, I don't know how I'm going to do it, go through life trying to follow my dreams when everything is against me, but I just am. Sometimes it depresses me that I may never be seen as a normal person, but I'm hopeful that someday there will be a time when everyone calls me "sir" and "he" and "young man", instead of "she" and "missy" and "girl". cry and I can be completely comfortable in my own body. I guess I just have to trust that the gods know what they're doing...
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Posted: Wed May 06, 2009 5:38 pm
I feel almost the same way. It's like, I'm not accepted by general society, and I'm not accepted by the gay community. Sometimes I feel so alone, like no one knows how I feel. I can't walk down the street; holding my bf's hand without getting death glares or worrying we're going to get jumped. I can't get married to him because the place we live doesn't acknowledge marriage between two men. We can't have children, and we can't adopt because the government sees us as unfit parents just because we are both of the same sex. I can't even go and donate blood because to them, my blood is tainted.
It just feels like the whole world is out to get me, and sometimes, it scares me. What am I going to do? How can I live life this way? Everything is just so complicated with my baby being in the Army because he'll be in stationed in another state, and I can't raise enough money to move there with him. It's just so... overwhelming... sad
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 4:37 pm
Yeah I've heard of times when transgender people are jumped by a whole bunch of people and are forced to show them their genitals, and if they're the wrong ones, they will beat them to a pulp, sometimes even to death. eek burning_eyes gonk It makes me so frickin scared. That's why I don't want anyone to know except people who are close to me, but I also don't want to admit to people that I'm a girl, because it's like showing weakness, all this time I'm saying "I'm a boy! I'm a boy! scream " and then I go and call myself a girl. It would make me feel like s***. It's already bad enough when other people do it. Especially when they already know. I hate that the worst. But I hate when people ask me so many questions about it. It makes me feel like a freak.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 7:30 pm
Unfortunately some people are morons. Noone deserves to be treated that way regardless of who you are or how you were born or what you choose. (Minus murders etc.) I'm not gonna lie and say that I haven't made mistakes saying things that hurt people I know and care about. But hun if your a dude then that cool *hug*
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Posted: Fri May 08, 2009 9:27 pm
Hey, The (G)uild of (S)heer (A)wesomeness. The initials are GSA. I was wondering if you did that on purpose? Because that's really cool...
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Posted: Sat May 09, 2009 4:11 pm
Sky_Pentacle Unfortunately some people are morons. Noone deserves to be treated that way regardless of who you are or how you were born or what you choose. (Minus murders etc.) I'm not gonna lie and say that I haven't made mistakes saying things that hurt people I know and care about. But hun if your a dude then that cool *hug* thank you......
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Posted: Sat May 09, 2009 6:59 pm
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Posted: Sun May 10, 2009 8:52 am
s4ru_r0y Hey, The (G)uild of (S)heer (A)wesomeness. The initials are GSA. I was wondering if you did that on purpose? Because that's really cool...
Yeah, I did, hee hee ^^
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Posted: Sun May 10, 2009 1:17 pm
Robbie Relentless s4ru_r0y Hey, The (G)uild of (S)heer (A)wesomeness. The initials are GSA. I was wondering if you did that on purpose? Because that's really cool...
Yeah, I did, hee hee ^^ Great touch....
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Posted: Sun May 10, 2009 7:11 pm
s4ru_r0y Robbie Relentless s4ru_r0y Hey, The (G)uild of (S)heer (A)wesomeness. The initials are GSA. I was wondering if you did that on purpose? Because that's really cool...
Yeah, I did, hee hee ^^ Great touch....
Hee, thanks! ^^
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