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I know that sounds weird to say, and probably sounds redundant here in a yuri guild, but I think I don't like girls. I'm not talking about sexuality, I mean socially.

Every time I meet a girl, I can usually figure out what her potential flaws may be within the first time of talking to her, even vaguely, and then I automatically start to dislike her. But before I start to look like a b***h, my prediction is usually correct.

I met a girl and she was talking about how she has over 200 pairs of shoes. It's not that she has a fetish, it's just that she doesn't like to wear dirty shoes and she likes to have a pair of shoes for every day.

My first thoughts were "Oh god... she's shallow." Haven't liked her since.

And she confirmed to me the other day that she was shallow. She told me I wouldn't get anywhere in life if I didn't dress classy.

This is a common trend with girls I meet. I have 3 female friends, some acquaintances, the rest are guys.

Anyone else like this? =/

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It's not necessarily contradicting... I think I'd call it true nonconformity, or something like that.

I'm glad I'm not alone x.x

I was trying to think about it the other day. I tried to make sense with it. Is it me personally, or is it just how my female traits react to other females.

I mean, we made the term "frenemies" which is basically when you're friends purely to keep yourself close to your enemy, thus protecting yourself from them, or you both acknowledge that you don't like each other, but neither of you say anything just so you can ultimately get up in each others business and gather dirt on them when the days comes that you two do battle it out.

I came to the conclusion that many girls do that. I'm not saying it isn't possible for girls to be friends, but it seems like more often than not, girls are always going at it like cats and dogs, or they act like the best of friends together, but once the other isn't around, the other is bitching about her.

I guess I am saying, maybe all of this is natural, like animal female competition, to point out a girls flaws, and pick out the ones you definitely won't like, even before truly getting to know them, like an instinct. And maybe since I am not exactly on the girly side, and I am truly not into other girls petty crap, that I ultimately dislike most girls that I meet.

I realized it when I ended a friendship of many years. At first we were really good friends, but then I became close to her boyfriend as well, and she started to look at me as another girl, so then tension formed between the two of us. It had been years, but even after they broke up, she was still cold towards me for still being close to him (not dating him, just friends). I struggled to stay her friend even though I knew I should just forget her. But she truly meant something to me, we had been through a lot and we had never actually had any drama between the two of us, except for one incident thanks to another selfish lying girl. But.. I then came to the conclusion that she was only keeping me around in an attempt of dragging me away from him. And then when one night, she found out I was hanging out with him and we ended up going to the same place she was that night, and then she decided she was going to erase me from her life. I guess she took it as "You lose, he wins." But the fact that she would let that happen makes me feel that she never even treasured me as a friend.

It doesn't end there, I have met MANY girls who have sabotaged others and even me, to turn people against them/me, or to simply get something they want, be it attention, a guy, or whatever.

I am the girlie type. But I don't think everybody is the same. I think is just a matter of how you've been raised and how you start to understand the world around you. Is true, that is very hard to have a best friends girl because it may start at one point a rivalry.

I can see me and my girlfriend, which at this point pisses me off with all that "I'm better then you" attitude. My sole conviction is that there are not better or worse, we all equal each other in a way or another. If I know better math, maybe you know better literature or your manners are more "exquisite" then mine (don't take it literally, is an example).

Maybe I go to the extreme and that's my "dreamy" way to see the life, because when I see some really STUPID STUFF everyday and wonder how far can humanity go, all my "dreamy vision" ends in smoke. Bleah! I rant too much! I'll stop... Sorry!

I agree girls can be just down right brutal but I think it's which girls your meeting. I've meet some of the most amazing girls who are not superficial and I didn't have to go seeking them out to find them.

I've sometimes had the same opinion on guys that you've had on girls so it does go both ways sorta.

You're right Jenise. Girls usually have a much lower self esteem compared to boys, especially in the teen years where peer groups and pressure can really change you, whether in a good or a bad way. Sometimes, it can even transform you into something you're not as often seen in chick flicks, just because girls are often afraid of what people will think or say; we're very self conscious, thus, we go along with the demands of others to please them, and sometimes, that isn't a good thing at all, especially if the people around you are pushing you to do something forbidden by your parents or are against your principles and beliefs.

Meh I'm pretty sure who I am. I've always been honestly me, and if someone has a problem with it, I just don't worry about them. I have no one to impress. If they're to like me, they gotta like me.

I don't think it's a good idea to generalize the women population because of some bad experiences with women or anything.

Most of my female friends I've either clicked with in an instant, others I've befriended after having the same classes year after year, some I've met by bumping into them on the bus and some I never thought I'd be friends with in the first place!

It really just depends on your personality, are you the type of person to give someone a chance or the time to change your impression of them?
Are you willing to overlook some of their personality flaws to be able to get to know them on a personal level?
And are you willing to overcome your first impressions and presumptions about that person to take the effort to get to know them?