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I don't know if I count as A-sexual, actually. I never want to have sexxorz with anyone for my whole life. When I started liking yuri I kept talking to my friends about random pairings and stuff and my friend asked me if I was Bi-sexual or whatever and I said no and she said that if I dont have crushes on the same gender then im straight. Now thats just stupid. The thing is, I really like yuri and even yaoi and I keep calling pairings cute and thinking some people are sexy or whatever but I wouldn't, you know, do stuff with anyone.

I stopped having actual crushes and stuff several months ago. Whenever I think of someone romantically, I always imagine them with someone else instead of me. I never want to be involved in a romantic relationship or anything sexual but I like yuri and stuff like that and I sometimes make sexual jokes about characters. So do I count as A-sexual?

I think that there several attributes that could contribute to your problem. Maybe you're afraid 2 hurt someone you truly care about people tend 2 feel bad about themselves if they are or are about 2 hurt a friend or best friend.
Maybe it's just as simple as you not liking anyone at all. That would be hard 2 believe, however, because all people want 2 feel loved and 2 be loved. That's just how we are ("we" being all living beings). You may not feel smitten towards someone, but you you probably want love and affiction, right?
Or maybe you just need some time (I have no idea what your age is btw sweatdrop ).
You joined this yuri guild, right? Why don't you try, yopu know, finding a girl you like. That's mainly a hypothesis, but it's worth a shot if you are more that willing. I'm sure in do time. you will feel passion for someone. Don't give up on love! I didn't, anyway.

If you're curious about asexuality I'd suggest checking out AVEN. I'm not a member of the site but I've lurked there and there seems to be a great support network and lots of information available about asexuality. I'd recommend looking at the FAQs and forums for starts.

And yeah, labels can be limiting and putting people in boxes isn't always useful, but it can be comforting to be able to put yourself in a group with other people so that you can relate to the world that way. I know a lot of people don't like labels, though. Personally I like using them as quick identifiers but it's probably best not to put too much importance on them. With that said, I can relate to wanting to have a label, so I don't think that's a bad thing.

Anyway. Now that I've rambled about the label aspect...The basic definition of asexuality is not feeling sexual attraction, so if you fit that definition it is likely you are asexual. You mentioned not feeling romantic attraction--asexuals usually use labels for their romantic orientation in addition to their asexuality...basically put anything you'd put in front of -sexual in front of -romantic. So like, some asexuals are heteroromantic, homoromantic, etc. If you are asexual and feel no romantic attraction, you are aromantic. Although, back on the subject of labels, if any of this isn't how you feel comfortable identifying yourself, then don't. I can't tell you how you feel or identify, so this is all just general info to help you figure it out. Hope it's helpful : ) Good luck.

I agree with maki. Just let life run it's course and you'll know for sure soon enough. biggrin