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 Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 7:03 pm
Anyone feel strongly enough to say you're willing to stay this way for life if circumstances do not improve?
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 8:00 pm
I'd have to say it depends on the circumstances, but at the moment, I'm happy the way I am.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 9:47 pm
I am anti/non/a-sexual... So that is a yes for me. My parents do not like it... but I can't help how I feel about it. But I don't care, it is my life... not theirs.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:36 pm
For me it's more of the fact that I'm just unwilling to be with someone else's... well... I'm not willing to cope with left.... ov...er... nevermind. It would be mean to say this.
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Posted: Thu May 27, 2010 8:32 pm
Circumstances weren't bad for me, but even if they were I would have to say no.
Plus I'm not a virgin anymore so this is all hypothetical now.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 3:17 am
If you mean "You're going to lose your virginity in this life because you settled for less to lose your virginity" then I have to respond: "Hell the ******** no!"
I've got high standards, what can I say?
I feel that I deserve a decent dude, damnit. D<
I've been through some buuull CRAP.
After surviving that s**t, there'll be HELL to pay if I don't at least find "The Love Of My Life" and have hot, kinky sex with him!
Or her!
Whoever the heck it is that I fall in love with! D<
All I know is, I've made my mind up since a long time ago: I am GOING to be happy!
Whatever it takes! >w<
Also, Free Arsenal.... so you want to get with a virgin... XD
I see what you're saying now...
I am kind of both ways on it. If it was up to me, I'd love it if the guy was also a virgin, but I think I'd be okay with a guy that has had less than five/four sexual partners. ^_^;
I don't want to risk a disease, right? >_>;
It's your choice, dude. ^_^
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 8:21 pm
(Responding to this with a short answer probably is not possible for me.)
In my world, circumstances will not improve. Please don't ask me to explain it - I don't know how. I'm not at all sure how to put the certainty into words. I do know that I will be this way for the rest of my life. My only regret is, well (and I must be honest), not ever being in love. It seems like such a beautiful thing as love is worth feeling, but, I do not think that everyone was meant to fall in love and have a family (by 'everyone' I mean 'me' - I don't want to speak for others.) What I am pretty certain of is that I can't love anyone else, partly because I can't love myself. It's strange, because everywhere I go and everyone I talk to - or hear talking - they always speak about a relationship they are in, or a person they like, or their spouse, or their wedding, or a wedding they went to, or a date they went on, or a baby shower, or relationship troubles. It never ends, and I can't, for the life of me, help but think about how much they take these things for granted.
Can someone tell me - do they know - what it would be like to live in a world where such things just are not possible?
How can they...have that stuff (for lack of a better word) so easily? How is it they are seeking and are actually sought after in turn?
I'm sorry, I don't meant to turn this into a rant. I'm just befuddled by it all. I guess what I would really like to know is: what is it like...living in a world where you believe love is possible?
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Posted: Sat Jul 10, 2010 2:36 am
Meh, chastity is the only achievement I've ever had, so I could roll with it to the grave if I had too. Plus it's overrated to lose your virginity in this society. The only reason I would ever want to lose my virginity is-- and I'm gonna sound a bit cliche`d here-- for absolute, complete, 100% love. Hopefully with another virgin. Maybe I'm just picky, but I should think that I have that right.
(I would have loved to have had a long deep rant, but at this late hour I'm lucky to be able to write this...)
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Posted: Sun Oct 24, 2010 7:45 pm
Idyr of the dead Meh, chastity is the only achievement I've ever had, so I could roll with it to the grave if I had too. Plus it's overrated to lose your virginity in this society. The only reason I would ever want to lose my virginity is-- and I'm gonna sound a bit cliche`d here-- for absolute, complete, 100% love. Hopefully with another virgin. Maybe I'm just picky, but I should think that I have that right. (I would have loved to have had a long deep rant, but at this late hour I'm lucky to be able to write this...)
I agree on the love thing. That's about the only reason to be that intimate with someone anyway (at least in my opinion.)
I once heard something interesting, and kinda weird - you know, of people could merge their soul with anothers' soul, it would be even more intimate than sex. Obviously people can't just go and 'merge' their souls, when they want to know who a person really, truly is. The best thing they can do is to get close physically, and I guess that's what sex is (I'm just spit-balling here, of course.)
I also once read a quote that went something like: "Love is when you get as close to a person as you possibly, physically can and it's not close enough."
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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2011 4:16 pm
FreeArsenal For me it's more of the fact that I'm just unwilling to be with someone else's... well... I'm not willing to cope with left.... ov...er... nevermind. It would be mean to say this.  Mean, yes, but not that much. Truth, mostly. I can relate, but if she was a rape victim, I'd feel so bad for her and tell her that I consider her a virgin. Sakura Moonflower If you mean "You're going to lose your virginity in this life because you settled for less to lose your virginity" then I have to respond: "Hell the ******** no!" I've got high standards, what can I say? I feel that I deserve a decent dude, damnit. D< I've been through some buuull CRAP. After surviving that s**t, there'll be HELL to pay if I don't at least find "The Love Of My Life" and have hot, kinky sex with him! Or her! Whoever the heck it is that I fall in love with! D< All I know is, I've made my mind up since a long time ago: I am GOING to be happy! Whatever it takes! >w< Also, Free Arsenal.... so you want to get with a virgin... XD I see what you're saying now... I am kind of both ways on it. If it was up to me, I'd love it if the guy was also a virgin, but I think I'd be okay with a guy that has had less than five/four sexual partners. ^_^; I don't want to risk a disease, right? >_>; It's your choice, dude. ^_^ Ezer Tornado (Responding to this with a short answer probably is not possible for me.)
In my world, circumstances will not improve. Please don't ask me to explain it - I don't know how. I'm not at all sure how to put the certainty into words. I do know that I will be this way for the rest of my life. My only regret is, well (and I must be honest), not ever being in love. It seems like such a beautiful thing as love is worth feeling, but, I do not think that everyone was meant to fall in love and have a family (by 'everyone' I mean 'me' - I don't want to speak for others.) What I am pretty certain of is that I can't love anyone else, partly because I can't love myself. It's strange, because everywhere I go and everyone I talk to - or hear talking - they always speak about a relationship they are in, or a person they like, or their spouse, or their wedding, or a wedding they went to, or a date they went on, or a baby shower, or relationship troubles. It never ends, and I can't, for the life of me, help but think about how much they take these things for granted.
Can someone tell me - do they know - what it would be like to live in a world where such things just are not possible?
How can they...have that stuff (for lack of a better word) so easily? How is it they are seeking and are actually sought after in turn?
I'm sorry, I don't meant to turn this into a rant. I'm just befuddled by it all. I guess what I would really like to know is: what is it like...living in a world where you believe love is possible?
Well, I'm too afraid of being rejected and too shy to walk up to a female and talk to her, let alone ask her out. I mean, I know it's supposed to start from one confronting the other, but I just can't. Not to mention that I don't go outside, don't have a job, no longer go to any school (graduated two years ago and still haven't done anything) and I just don't plain interact with anyone other than my guy friends and my mom. So I sleep to TRY to dream about it. I fantasize about it enough to sadden me throughout the day.
I did have about a three week relationship that, for me, ended badly. It happened a year ago (mid Dec into early Jan) and I am still torn up about it. I found out beforehand that one of the reasons she broke up with me was because I was too clingy. That's when I went to myself, "What?". I also thought finding out why it all happened would make me feel better, so I had a talk with her a year later. It turns out that I creeped her out by mentioning that "I think I love you" (which I can see why it'd be kind of bad to say early, but creepy? I don't get it.) and also mentioning wedding rings (I could also see why this would be bad as well), which to her, meant the white picket fence and kids. For me, it meant showing that we would be faithful to each other and that we wouldn't go off with anyone else. It was never clarified until now. It was also clarified that I was nowhere near ready to get married, but again, only afterward. I was able to talk to her without a problem. But after we finished talking, I somehow felt worse. Maybe it was because it rehashed the feeling that I had a year ago or maybe it was because I ended up regretting being in the relationship in the first place. It could also be because I boasted so much about how great it was to have a girlfriend and kissing for the first time and whatnot and then having that torn down in front of me so quickly. There's a saying that goes "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.", but I can't make heads or tales if it's right.
Just so it's clear, I didn't go past kissing and cuddling, but frankly, I was enjoying that to no end. Although I think I was liking it more than she was.
God, I f'ing ramble. But to tell you my answer to your question. For me, living in a world where I do believe it's possible, it's hard to live in. But as long as I have enough distractions, I can get by until I sleep again. And every time I awaken, I keep hoping that I will get to see my beautiful wife sleeping next to me peacefully to later watch her wake up and smile at me. Both of us just being glad that we get to lie in bed next to one another.
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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2011 7:24 pm
MegamanX0018 FreeArsenal For me it's more of the fact that I'm just unwilling to be with someone else's... well... I'm not willing to cope with left.... ov...er... nevermind. It would be mean to say this. Sakura Moonflower If you mean "You're going to lose your virginity in this life because you settled for less to lose your virginity" then I have to respond: "Hell the ******** no!" I've got high standards, what can I say? I feel that I deserve a decent dude, damnit. D< I've been through some buuull CRAP. After surviving that s**t, there'll be HELL to pay if I don't at least find "The Love Of My Life" and have hot, kinky sex with him! Or her! Whoever the heck it is that I fall in love with! D< All I know is, I've made my mind up since a long time ago: I am GOING to be happy! Whatever it takes! >w< Also, Free Arsenal.... so you want to get with a virgin... XD I see what you're saying now... I am kind of both ways on it. If it was up to me, I'd love it if the guy was also a virgin, but I think I'd be okay with a guy that has had less than five/four sexual partners. ^_^; I don't want to risk a disease, right? >_>; It's your choice, dude. ^_^ Ezer Tornado (Responding to this with a short answer probably is not possible for me.)
In my world, circumstances will not improve. Please don't ask me to explain it - I don't know how. I'm not at all sure how to put the certainty into words. I do know that I will be this way for the rest of my life. My only regret is, well (and I must be honest), not ever being in love. It seems like such a beautiful thing as love is worth feeling, but, I do not think that everyone was meant to fall in love and have a family (by 'everyone' I mean 'me' - I don't want to speak for others.) What I am pretty certain of is that I can't love anyone else, partly because I can't love myself. It's strange, because everywhere I go and everyone I talk to - or hear talking - they always speak about a relationship they are in, or a person they like, or their spouse, or their wedding, or a wedding they went to, or a date they went on, or a baby shower, or relationship troubles. It never ends, and I can't, for the life of me, help but think about how much they take these things for granted.
Can someone tell me - do they know - what it would be like to live in a world where such things just are not possible?
How can they...have that stuff (for lack of a better word) so easily? How is it they are seeking and are actually sought after in turn?
I'm sorry, I don't meant to turn this into a rant. I'm just befuddled by it all. I guess what I would really like to know is: what is it like...living in a world where you believe love is possible?
Well, I'm too afraid of being rejected and too shy to walk up to a female and talk to her, let alone ask her out. I mean, I know it's supposed to start from one confronting the other, but I just can't. Not to mention that I don't go outside, don't have a job, no longer go to any school (graduated two years ago and still haven't done anything) and I just don't plain interact with anyone other than my guy friends and my mom. So I sleep to TRY to dream about it. I fantasize about it enough to sadden me throughout the day.
I did have about a three week relationship that, for me, ended badly. It happened a year ago (mid Dec into early Jan) and I am still torn up about it. I found out beforehand that one of the reasons she broke up with me was because I was too clingy. That's when I went to myself, "What?". I also thought finding out why it all happened would make me feel better, so I had a talk with her a year later. It turns out that I creeped her out by mentioning that "I think I love you" (which I can see why it'd be kind of bad to say early, but creepy? I don't get it.) and also mentioning wedding rings (I could also see why this would be bad as well), which to her, meant the white picket fence and kids. For me, it meant showing that we would be faithful to each other and that we wouldn't go off with anyone else. It was never clarified until now. It was also clarified that I was nowhere near ready to get married, but again, only afterward. I was able to talk to her without a problem. But after we finished talking, I somehow felt worse. Maybe it was because it rehashed the feeling that I had a year ago or maybe it was because I ended up regretting being in the relationship in the first place. It could also be because I boasted so much about how great it was to have a girlfriend and kissing for the first time and whatnot and then having that torn down in front of me so quickly. There's a saying that goes "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.", but I can't make heads or tales if it's right.
Just so it's clear, I didn't go past kissing and cuddling, but frankly, I was enjoying that to no end. Although I think I was liking it more than she was.
God, I f'ing ramble. But to tell you my answer to your question. For me, living in a world where I do believe it's possible, it's hard to live in. But as long as I have enough distractions, I can get by until I sleep again. And every time I awaken, I keep hoping that I will get to see my beautiful wife sleeping next to me peacefully to later watch her wake up and smile at me. Both of us just being glad that we get to lie in bed next to one another.
Well that's fair enough. And that pretty much describes my life: no job (yet), I take online classes (which I despise, but my school is too far to drive to everyday), so I pretty much get no interactions from other humans, beside my family members - and even then, it's rare that I talk to them or spend time with them.
I'm pretty much shut in my room all day, minus going outside for walks at the park or going on an errand.
So yeah, it looks hopeless.
Don't know what else to say besides that...
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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2011 8:22 pm
Ezer Tornado MegamanX0018 FreeArsenal For me it's more of the fact that I'm just unwilling to be with someone else's... well... I'm not willing to cope with left.... ov...er... nevermind. It would be mean to say this. Sakura Moonflower If you mean "You're going to lose your virginity in this life because you settled for less to lose your virginity" then I have to respond: "Hell the ******** no!" I've got high standards, what can I say? I feel that I deserve a decent dude, damnit. D< I've been through some buuull CRAP. After surviving that s**t, there'll be HELL to pay if I don't at least find "The Love Of My Life" and have hot, kinky sex with him! Or her! Whoever the heck it is that I fall in love with! D< All I know is, I've made my mind up since a long time ago: I am GOING to be happy! Whatever it takes! >w< Also, Free Arsenal.... so you want to get with a virgin... XD I see what you're saying now... I am kind of both ways on it. If it was up to me, I'd love it if the guy was also a virgin, but I think I'd be okay with a guy that has had less than five/four sexual partners. ^_^; I don't want to risk a disease, right? >_>; It's your choice, dude. ^_^ Ezer Tornado (Responding to this with a short answer probably is not possible for me.)
In my world, circumstances will not improve. Please don't ask me to explain it - I don't know how. I'm not at all sure how to put the certainty into words. I do know that I will be this way for the rest of my life. My only regret is, well (and I must be honest), not ever being in love. It seems like such a beautiful thing as love is worth feeling, but, I do not think that everyone was meant to fall in love and have a family (by 'everyone' I mean 'me' - I don't want to speak for others.) What I am pretty certain of is that I can't love anyone else, partly because I can't love myself. It's strange, because everywhere I go and everyone I talk to - or hear talking - they always speak about a relationship they are in, or a person they like, or their spouse, or their wedding, or a wedding they went to, or a date they went on, or a baby shower, or relationship troubles. It never ends, and I can't, for the life of me, help but think about how much they take these things for granted.
Can someone tell me - do they know - what it would be like to live in a world where such things just are not possible?
How can they...have that stuff (for lack of a better word) so easily? How is it they are seeking and are actually sought after in turn?
I'm sorry, I don't meant to turn this into a rant. I'm just befuddled by it all. I guess what I would really like to know is: what is it like...living in a world where you believe love is possible?
Well, I'm too afraid of being rejected and too shy to walk up to a female and talk to her, let alone ask her out. I mean, I know it's supposed to start from one confronting the other, but I just can't. Not to mention that I don't go outside, don't have a job, no longer go to any school (graduated two years ago and still haven't done anything) and I just don't plain interact with anyone other than my guy friends and my mom. So I sleep to TRY to dream about it. I fantasize about it enough to sadden me throughout the day.
I did have about a three week relationship that, for me, ended badly. It happened a year ago (mid Dec into early Jan) and I am still torn up about it. I found out beforehand that one of the reasons she broke up with me was because I was too clingy. That's when I went to myself, "What?". I also thought finding out why it all happened would make me feel better, so I had a talk with her a year later. It turns out that I creeped her out by mentioning that "I think I love you" (which I can see why it'd be kind of bad to say early, but creepy? I don't get it.) and also mentioning wedding rings (I could also see why this would be bad as well), which to her, meant the white picket fence and kids. For me, it meant showing that we would be faithful to each other and that we wouldn't go off with anyone else. It was never clarified until now. It was also clarified that I was nowhere near ready to get married, but again, only afterward. I was able to talk to her without a problem. But after we finished talking, I somehow felt worse. Maybe it was because it rehashed the feeling that I had a year ago or maybe it was because I ended up regretting being in the relationship in the first place. It could also be because I boasted so much about how great it was to have a girlfriend and kissing for the first time and whatnot and then having that torn down in front of me so quickly. There's a saying that goes "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.", but I can't make heads or tales if it's right.
Just so it's clear, I didn't go past kissing and cuddling, but frankly, I was enjoying that to no end. Although I think I was liking it more than she was.
God, I f'ing ramble. But to tell you my answer to your question. For me, living in a world where I do believe it's possible, it's hard to live in. But as long as I have enough distractions, I can get by until I sleep again. And every time I awaken, I keep hoping that I will get to see my beautiful wife sleeping next to me peacefully to later watch her wake up and smile at me. Both of us just being glad that we get to lie in bed next to one another.
Well that's fair enough. And that pretty much describes my life: no job (yet), I take online classes (which I despise, but my school is too far to drive to everyday), so I pretty much get no interactions from other humans, beside my family members - and even then, it's rare that I talk to them or spend time with them.
I'm pretty much shut in my room all day, minus going outside for walks at the park or going on an errand.
So yeah, it looks hopeless.
Don't know what else to say besides that...
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