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 Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 10:02 am
I can't even think of how to ask it so here's the scenario:
In college
Had a crush on a girl
A new friend of mine that I just met (girl) said she would would help me get close to this other girl
I asked out the girl I had a crush on and she said no because she promised God she would focus on school and her religion this semester.
Well the crush is over, but now I have really taken a liking to my new friend that said she would help me get close to the other girl.
You know back in Kindergarten when you could just meet someone and you're already best friends? That's how me and her are.
Thing is, she has a boyfriend (long distance since he moved for his job at Microsoft) and they've been together since May. They visit each other every so often (he's coming down Friday until Monday)
We have so much in common it's not even funny. When we go to study for our Anatomy class together we do more talking than studying because we enjoy talking to each other.
I don't want to be the guy that steals someones girl, so I was really just curious on peoples opinion. Like how often do long distant relationships actually last? It's something people have to be really committed to. She's about to graduate, but is coming back for more schooling. She has so many options to where she can continue her schooling after Spring semester and so she could move up to where he is, but I'm curious to know if people think it will last till then. I mean, my friends have said long distance like that usually doesn't work out, but who knows. I want to tell her that I'm attracted to her, but then again, I don't....Haha
Just felt I would post this here, maybe get some opinions since I have nothing else to do right now. >_<
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 1:15 pm
I was in an LDR when I was in early high school, but it ended due to reasons beyond our control. I'm in an LDR now, with my partner of almost 4 years, but we've only been in an LDR for the last two years on and off. We've only made it this long in an LDR because we had that foundation (friendship and then living together for 2 years) to build off of. If we had just met and gone right into an LDR, I don't think we'd still be together.
It's really hard to say how long an LDR lasts because it depends on the age, maturity and circumstances of the people involved. So even though your friend and her boyfriend have only been together since May, it really could go either way.
She's already in a relationship, so if I were you I (personally) would not say anything. If she's unhappy or having doubts, then you'll probably be able to pick up on them. But it's really crappy to "steal" someone's partner from them, and it's not something I would ever personally do.
Just my 2 cents though. smile
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 1:22 pm
It depends on the people. Some people are serious about long distance relationships and some aren't. If he is coming to visit her, that sounds serious though. You should consider how mature these people are. If they seem to be mature for the most part, it could probably last. If either of them seem to be pretty immature, then there's a bigger chance it won't last. I was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for about nine years, and now he has lived with me for about a year and a half. I always considered our relationship to be very real even though we met online and didn't see each other much.
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 3:10 pm
A lot of long distance relationships do not last. But many do last. It really depends on a lot of things.
But if I were you, then I would probably try to move on. It seems like if she was interested in you in that way, she probably would have given you a sign or broken up with her boyfriend by now. No sense sitting around waiting for something that might never happen.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 7:45 pm
Nikolita I was in an LDR when I was in early high school, but it ended due to reasons beyond our control. I'm in an LDR now, with my partner of almost 4 years, but we've only been in an LDR for the last two years on and off. We've only made it this long in an LDR because we had that foundation (friendship and then living together for 2 years) to build off of. If we had just met and gone right into an LDR, I don't think we'd still be together. It's really hard to say how long an LDR lasts because it depends on the age, maturity and circumstances of the people involved. So even though your friend and her boyfriend have only been together since May, it really could go either way. She's already in a relationship, so if I were you I (personally) would not say anything. If she's unhappy or having doubts, then you'll probably be able to pick up on them. But it's really crappy to "steal" someone's partner from them, and it's not something I would ever personally do. Just my 2 cents though. smile Not trying to steal her away from him. If I were then I would say something to her, but I'm not. I'm playing the waiting game as our friendship grows stronger.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 7:53 pm
LorienLlewellyn A lot of long distance relationships do not last. But many do last. It really depends on a lot of things. But if I were you, then I would probably try to move on. It seems like if she was interested in you in that way, she probably would have given you a sign or broken up with her boyfriend by now. No sense sitting around waiting for something that might never happen. That's all life is Lorien. Sitting around waiting for things to happen that may never occur.
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 2:04 am
Anbu Soran Nikolita I was in an LDR when I was in early high school, but it ended due to reasons beyond our control. I'm in an LDR now, with my partner of almost 4 years, but we've only been in an LDR for the last two years on and off. We've only made it this long in an LDR because we had that foundation (friendship and then living together for 2 years) to build off of. If we had just met and gone right into an LDR, I don't think we'd still be together. It's really hard to say how long an LDR lasts because it depends on the age, maturity and circumstances of the people involved. So even though your friend and her boyfriend have only been together since May, it really could go either way. She's already in a relationship, so if I were you I (personally) would not say anything. If she's unhappy or having doubts, then you'll probably be able to pick up on them. But it's really crappy to "steal" someone's partner from them, and it's not something I would ever personally do. Just my 2 cents though. smile Not trying to steal her away from him. If I were then I would say something to her, but I'm not. I'm playing the waiting game as our friendship grows stronger. Fair enough. smile Although to clarify so you don't think I was attacking you, the "stealing someone's partner" comment was meant generically, and not aimed at you specifically. Sorry for not being clearer in my last post. whee
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