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Lately I've been thinking about maybe breaking up or taking a short break with me and my gf of about 8-9 months.

Things between me and her are starting to change for the worse. She doesn't communicate anything well, she's not very open about her feelings and she hasn't been the easiest person to talk to. When we started dating I knew that she was bi-polar and I discuss that with her and try to help her manage that the best I can. We now live 30 minutes apart so we mostly txt and talk on the phone occasionally, I think when she got her cell phone that's what caused things to go bad. But lately since her step-dad's father died things have gotten worse. She's been spending alot more time with a "cousin" that she's not even related to and it's a guy. Even when she stayed the night at my house she spent more time txting him than she did talking to me. I've talked to her about it, but it seems like things don't really sink in.

I was talking to her on Friday about it and I wasn't exactly done, but she got punished for walking the streets with her friends apparently so I have to wait a whole week if not more to talk with her. I might ask her to talk her mom into letting her use the house phone to talk with me for a little while and see how that goes, but apparently that might not work.

Another thing that's bothering me is that I've been talking with my friend's sister. My friend (female) suggested some time back that i should date her sister when she's 16, idk how old she is now. When she first mentioned it I was considering it since her sister is really cute and we have alot in common apparently. When I was talking to her sister on FB she seem to give hints that she might be interested in me.
I love my gf, even though I'm starting to think about breaking up with her and I won't break up with her just to date another girl I barely knew. And even so I feel like I can't break up with her. I'd like to date this other girl, I really do, but I don't want to break up with my girlfriend and I'll never cheat on my gf regardless of her knowing or not. I might be happier with this girl because we have alot more in common that me and my gf do, but I'm just confused right now.

So basically I'm not sure if I should break up with my gf or if we should just finish talking to each other. I know that if we would then I'd have atleast one option on for a new gf, but im not sure how my mom would feel about me being with this girl since she'd probably be "weird" in my mom's eyes.

Alright, and I'm thinking the same, and things have been like this since her grandpa started getting sick, and after she stayed the night things went from bad to worse. And no I'm not very happy with things the way they are and I'd like to change ASAP. I kinda wish things were back to how they were when she was staying with her uncle because things then were alot calmer and we were both happy I'm sure.

Question, what do you mean by, if she doesn't have any doubts then I might have to make a hard decision?

And the other girl isn't really weird in my eyes, but her hair is currently blue, she has a lip piercing and her stomach is pierced on both side (which she just got). She a really sweet and cute girl though, I guess that maybe she just has some issues she needs to deal with or something. I know she's very mature, mentally, because maybe her mom leaves them alone alot or something.

Oh okay, well I'd like to say that she won't be happy with things the way they are but she seems to be, but I'll ask her thanks for the advice. I don't know if I said this, but I really love her and the last thing I want to do is end things between us, but with the way things are now that might seem like that option might be my best one. And the thing I'm afraid of the most when talking or asking her anything really serious is her state of complete silence. I can go into this deep explanation of what might be bothering me and maybe ask a question and she doesn't say a word.

When I ask or when she finally speaks up she tells me she doesn't know what to say...