I have this problem with my friend.
Well, not with my friend but with, uhm...friendship.
Two years ago he became a priest (boy, was I proud - they grow up so fast *sniff*). I must admit that we always had this great connection, almost like the father-daughter type. It may sound silly since there's a 5 year gap between us, but that's just how it is. biggrin
So, he started his parish work, I had to move cities - got accepted into my dream university.
Now, whenever I'm home (winter break, summer vacation) I pay him a visit. That gives us, like, 2 days every year. biggrin
Last dummer wasn't any different. Except one thing. I told my mom I was going out. She says:
- "Where you going?"
- "Visiting Lukas, mom."
- "Are you sure you should be doing that?"
No, don't get me wrong, she wasn't mad at me. She was more, like, concerned than mad.
She explained that maybe I shouldn't be seeing him. That that might look bad, that people might start interpreting that in the wrong way... You know what I'm talking about.
To be frank, I never really looked at it that way. I mean, we're best friends. It's not like I'm, you know, sneaking around, meeting in secret or whatever. biggrin
Anyway, I felt bad that maybe I actually am a nuisance to him, that maybe I'm causing trouble. You see, he is a very gentle, warm-hearted person. I would never want anyone to see him in a bad light. Still,when I expressed my concerns, he only said:
"Yeah, I know. People might see it in the wrong way, but what can we do? I don't care what they think and neither should you. You are very precious to me and it brings me great joy to have the occasion to meet up with you and I would never give that up."
So, here I am. I simply have no idea what's the proper course of action. On one hand I really treasure this friendship. On the other hand, I wish all the best for him. I don't want others to talk ill of him. He would never deserve that.
Actually, last winter break I decided not to see him.
The last few days of the break I attended this charity hockey match. It turned out he was there too. He noticed me during intermission. He smiled and waved. I did the same. And then I ran of into the crowd.
And now I feel like a total a******. It pains me greatly and I'm not sure whether that's the right thing to do anymore.
Advise?
Well, not with my friend but with, uhm...friendship.
Two years ago he became a priest (boy, was I proud - they grow up so fast *sniff*). I must admit that we always had this great connection, almost like the father-daughter type. It may sound silly since there's a 5 year gap between us, but that's just how it is. biggrin
So, he started his parish work, I had to move cities - got accepted into my dream university.
Now, whenever I'm home (winter break, summer vacation) I pay him a visit. That gives us, like, 2 days every year. biggrin
Last dummer wasn't any different. Except one thing. I told my mom I was going out. She says:
- "Where you going?"
- "Visiting Lukas, mom."
- "Are you sure you should be doing that?"
No, don't get me wrong, she wasn't mad at me. She was more, like, concerned than mad.
She explained that maybe I shouldn't be seeing him. That that might look bad, that people might start interpreting that in the wrong way... You know what I'm talking about.
To be frank, I never really looked at it that way. I mean, we're best friends. It's not like I'm, you know, sneaking around, meeting in secret or whatever. biggrin
Anyway, I felt bad that maybe I actually am a nuisance to him, that maybe I'm causing trouble. You see, he is a very gentle, warm-hearted person. I would never want anyone to see him in a bad light. Still,when I expressed my concerns, he only said:
"Yeah, I know. People might see it in the wrong way, but what can we do? I don't care what they think and neither should you. You are very precious to me and it brings me great joy to have the occasion to meet up with you and I would never give that up."
So, here I am. I simply have no idea what's the proper course of action. On one hand I really treasure this friendship. On the other hand, I wish all the best for him. I don't want others to talk ill of him. He would never deserve that.
Actually, last winter break I decided not to see him.
The last few days of the break I attended this charity hockey match. It turned out he was there too. He noticed me during intermission. He smiled and waved. I did the same. And then I ran of into the crowd.
And now I feel like a total a******. It pains me greatly and I'm not sure whether that's the right thing to do anymore.
Advise?
