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 Posted: Sun Oct 21, 2012 10:08 pm
So, I decided since captain obvious was actually not into me. (But still my best friend) I would try a dating website. I kept trying to get to know people who didn't live in the same town as myself. Bad I know...out of the whole thing I talked to 10 guys I had an interest in...finding out later and thank God not in person they were all a bit weird. As I was about to give up I took one look at the guys who live in my town. (A majority I knew from high school and college..yesh) but one I didn't recognize. I decided what the heck I'll message him about 3 weeks later he signed on and messaged me. Finding out that we had a lot in common. He's a Band director at a high school and also works out of town.
Anyways. We went on our first date to the Via Arte (Chalk Art) and had some icecream. Our second date consisted of a nice resturaunt then afterwards some pool. He kept holding my holds, and hugging me. But I wasn't so sure if I was ready to let myself be taken over by infatuation. As many of you guys read a lot of my posts I read into emotions the wrong way. Then I get hurt and leave Gaia for a good 3 months to a year with some new problem...I myself was am a band geek so I know how busy a life of a band director can be, but I'm worried that everytime we text I just get short answers, can't really call him because he's busy with his students.
I would love to give this guy a shot...and as my mother says just let it ride out. But I can't. It doesn't feel normal trying to get back into a relationship for the first time in 5 years, I feel needy, and a little desperate and I don't want to scare this guy away.
Any feed back would help! Thanks!
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Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2012 7:48 am
You've been on the dating site for at least three weeks. You've been talking to guys. You've gone on a couple of dates with this one guy in particular. And now you don't feel ready to date?
If you've been on the dating site for a few weeks and have been talking to guys, then it's not like your decision to start dating was totally spur of the moment or anything. I may be way off base, but it sounds like maybe you felt ready, but then when you thought about scaring off the only guy you've found on the site that you like, you got scared and were tempted to back away.
I'd give the guy a chance if I were you. See where it goes. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. At least then you'll know and won't be left wondering. If he's wanted to go out with you again and hold your hand, then it doesn't sound like he's being scared off. But you can even come right out and say something like, "I'm feeling a little clingy at this point in my life, so don't be afraid to let me know if you need a little more space than I'm giving you."
But that's just me. If you really don't feel ready for it right now, don't force yourself.
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Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2012 1:18 pm
Uhm. I haven't been on the site for three weeks. I've been on it for close to 6 months...
I'm very much considering to give him a chance..
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Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2012 4:21 pm
Sounds like giving him a chance would be a good idea. Worst thing that could happen is that it won't work out. Take it slow and make sure you stay at a pace you're comfortable with, but otherwise if you feel ready to date I don't see why it'd be an issue to ride this one out and see where it takes you. 3nodding
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