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 Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2013 1:18 am
A friend of mine who labels herself as a furry made a group for furs and non-furs. I started going to meets because one of my other friends was a little interested and it would be meeting new people who lived in the local area.
Started getting to know the people and realized shared a lot of similarities and interests. Also got to know the friend who help start the group a lot better too. My other friend however left the group saying a lot of them were immature with the exception of a few. I stayed and eventually started getting to know a lot of the members chatting online and meeting more offline. They're generally good people and I've learned some are Catholic, but aren't religious or really follow the ways anymore. A majority are uncomfortable with religion or openly hate it.
Still, we have a good time and it helps a lot of us to be social. Yeah, we're kinda stay at home people for majority of the time.
My friend who got out gave me a serious talk when I asked if she wanted to come on a camping trip. I was asking her mainly cause I wanted another girl there if I decided to go and someone I was comfortable sharing a tent with. There are few girls in the group, but I think two others besides her were going. It all came down to this:
"You are the company you keep."
If you know what a furry is then you probably have a good idea on how they act. The group is often majority of males and sometimes the conversations get out of hand. Lots of cursing and sometimes they'll openly talk about porn. I'm thankfully gifted tuning it out thanks to high school friends.
"You are the company you keep."...I don't want to be thought of like that or be seen like that, but I don't want to leave the friends I have. I do like animal anthro art, but despise those who do porn. I like doing group things like pizza at the park, going to an arcade, going to the movies and going to the mall with them. I like chatting with them offline when I can too...
A lot of my life I haven't had the cleanest of friends. But I'd like to think I meet the people I meet because God wanted our paths to cross for a reason. Maybe I'm supposed to be a positive representation of faith...idk...
I know for sure there are some friends from the group I wouldn't DREAM of introducing to my family...but then there are some I think I wouldn't mind. Still it hurts when they start bagging on religion...I just don't know what to do and I feel like I can't just suddenly leave them. <: ( I care about them all.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
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Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2013 1:21 am
Been in the group for nine months now.
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Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2013 9:16 pm
Often with furries (I'm a bit of one myself) it takes a particular amount of self-comfort absent than in most groups.
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Posted: Thu Apr 18, 2013 2:57 pm
I would not recommend hanging out with such a group, we don't cross paths only with those God wants us to associate with, we also run into many people who, though they may need our help, are nevertheless very poor choices in friendship,
True friendship is a very hard thing to come by nowadays, someone who cares more about the salvation of your soul than having your acceptance and love, is almost unheard of...but if you want such a friend, you ought to start by being such a friend,
I know it's hard to admonish others, especially in our modern pagan society, but "tolerating" those peoples sins is not what God wants, He wants us to help and instruct others, because like it or not, without beliving in Jesus and working out our salvation, and being baptized of course, we cannot enter into heaven,
And as far as friendship goes, we are not true friends to those who we love merely for how they are useful to us, we must love them for their own sake, because God loves them, and desires their salvation....and of course as i'm sure you know, the commandment Jesus gives us, to love our neighbor as ourself, which means we must not allow ourselves to be blind to the spiritual needs of those around us whose priceless souls are in distress...no more so than we would ignore our own miserable condition.
But to put it plainly, "He that walketh with the wise, shall be wise: a friend of fools shall become like to them." Proverbs 13:20
It's hard to see how we change into those around us, since it happens so gradually over time, but don't think yourself immune to the influence of others, God, through His holy church, does not exhort us to keep away from bad company only if we don't think we can withstand it's dangers, He tells us we must avoid bad company for our own good, because for one, the more attached and fond you become of these people, the more willing you will be to neglect God and the spiritual works of mercy, just for the sake of keeping their respect and kindness, and secondly, to listen to them bash religion, without defending God and His truths, is a sin, we cannot sit by and let those around us insult God and His teachings without some show of disaproval, even if it's just by getting up and walking off...because the important thing is not so much to change their minds, but to at least leave them knowing that you, as a Catholic, firmly beleive in your faith, and it is no light matter to you or other Catholics, when your faith is insulted,
But on the other hand, to let them say such things, knowing you are Catholic, and yet remain silent, will only serve to make them think they must be right, since this Catholic here(or others) have nothing to say.
And then aside from that, hanging around those who are careless in morality, will influence you, either by being careless with you own morals, or being careless about the morals of others.
Well...I hope that sheds some light on the subject, but if you have any questions at all, i'm happy to help. Take care
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Posted: Mon Nov 25, 2013 7:52 am
As open-minded as I try to be, I'll be honest: I really don't "get" the whole furry thing. But from what little I do know, I understand that it's not even a sexual thing for a lot of furries. It's just...I guess feeling a connection with a certain animal and cosplaying? Correct me if I'm wrong.
Anyway, if the group as a whole is making you uncomfortable, maybe it would be best to leave the group and just stay in contact with the people there whose company you genuinely enjoy.
I don't really think we are the company we keep, but the company we keep can certainly have a profound impact on our beliefs and actions. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable spending a bunch of time with people who talk about porn often, not because I think I'm better than them or that I'll suddenly develop a porn addiction from spending time with them, but just because I don't like porn, and I don't understand the appeal of porn, so that is simply not an interest I share with people who love porn and talk about porn all the time.
So I say ditch the group, but hang onto the good friends that you may have met through the group.
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Posted: Mon Nov 25, 2013 8:34 pm
Think about this. If there are members in the group who openly rag on religion, what's going to happen if they find out you left because they were bad company? They would probably hate us all the more because in their eyes, we think we're better than them and will drop anyone who's not good enough for us.
But I would suggest you have a private conversation with the founder of the group. Tell them you like the group, but you're concerned about the language and the way some are talking about your set of beliefs. There should be guidelines in any group to be considerate of other members. You're not there to bash them for enjoying porn or playing dress up after all. You're showing love by not judging them for wanting to have a certain connection with animals that many consider taboo. They could show the same tolerance towards you. And obviously, if all this talk about how great porn is and how stupid religion is continues, you should politely step out and ask that the leader of this group not tell the members your exact reason as they might judge you for it.
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Posted: Wed Dec 04, 2013 7:33 pm
Wow, it's been awhile. Thanks to everyone who responded back. It's nice to know I can always come here no matter how long it's been. I've took some of everyone's advice and not meeting with the group. I still keep in contact with those who still wanted to be my friend regardless if I was still in the group and it's really nice. smile
Again thank you everyone here.
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