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 Posted: Wed Sep 18, 2013 1:03 pm
We either have or will be forced into questioning by family about our decision to opt out of the mommy/daddy scene. What are your thoughts/stories?
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Posted: Wed Sep 18, 2013 1:17 pm
I've made my opinion and plans clear to my own family. And their basic response has usually been "Well, when you get a little older you'll change your mind. You'll learn to like having kids." No, I won't Kathy. Stop undermining my true feelings. emotion_donotwant I also mentioned that if the disaster happened right now while we're in no shape to rear a child we'd find an appropriate home for it to be appreciated. My mom and brother were practically disgusted by that. Zak, your daughter is being raised by a stripper in a house with no air conditioning. I don't think you're in a position to give me advice.
Dealing with your own family can be frustrating on your own. But when a few more years go by and my husband's family asks us when we're starting a family, I'm scared of what they'll think about me when we tell them we probably won't. I'm currently in the process of convincing him how much more leisurely our life will be without the huge commitment of having a kid. We did have a very serious discussion that ended with me in tears and him having empathy for how I felt. That's something his family won't understand. And he hadn't considered the thought of not having children before we met and I'm afraid his family might resent me for it. His great aunt already has very traditional values and thinks we're living in sin because our marriage isn't in paper yet. And she already hopes we're going to have kids.
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Posted: Thu Oct 31, 2013 3:00 pm
I am of the overall opinion that people who reproduce think they are better than everyone else so their actions are immediatly more correct than those of us who have not reproduced. So I just ignore the family. xp which is awesome because my cousin reproduced and is furious that I refer to his spawn as "it" xd .
Lucky for me my super power of being able to repulse any female I would want to mate with makes it impossible for me to have accidents. My siblings have not reproduced either so I am sparred some of these talks for now. My mom is just playing the waiting game so she can say "I told you so".
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Posted: Fri Jan 03, 2014 10:41 pm
I know that I am late to post, but here I go...
My family knows better than to apply any pressure when it comes to me having children. I helped raise my three younger brothers, and have dated a woman who had a child from a previous relationship. I love my brothers, and I have nothing against children, but given these experiences I know that I would rather not play any role in raising children. And frankly, if anyone out there ever thinks of me as "selfish" as a result, I am also in the process of learning not to give a ******** what they think.
I find that it is quite liberating.
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Posted: Thu Jan 16, 2014 2:31 pm
>_> It was sad, the over the holidays my mom tried to convince me that I claimed I wanted to be the "cool uncle"... stare I called bullshit and she seemed to want to believe I would actually say something like that.
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