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I don't know about you, but even though i'm 20 years old i still get embarrassed when talking about....Man and woman parts. I just can't manage to spit out the sexual names and terms for things when talking to someone else, or even my boyfriend. Which makes it hard to talk about our sexual relationship. Sometimes i can say them, but most of the time i can't.

I have a friend who is a nympho. She has this odd obsession with sex. So much that she has toys and even gave me a novelty p***s candle for my birthday. redface
So it's all fun and games, but i tend to get quite uncomfortable in certain situations when it comes to sex, sex items or sex conversations. Obviously i don't squeal and say, "Eeewww, sex!", but i make it apparent to some point that i'm uncomfortable with it and some people get upset. They're confused that i'm a 20 year old who can't handle sexual humor/topics.

I just get embarrassed, okay?

What makes it so wrong for a 20 year old to be uncomfortable with those sorts of topics? If the appropriate age for a person to start having sex is 18-ish, then why do people believe that within the two year gap you have to become a complete sex expert?
What is it with the young adults (ages 20-29) and sex? Just because one person is uncomfortable or doesn't knowlegable, doesn't make them childish. They're just mis-informed and still exploring themselves.

Discuss:
Are you embarrassed?
Why 20 year olds apparently need to have sexual acceptance
Your comfort zone
Embarrassing sexual novelty gifts, and why
Young adults and sex

My boyfriend is 20 as well and he tends to fumble over the words as well. It's quite cute actually, probably one of the only times i'm able to actually say them just to tease him with the fact that i can. xD It's so bad, i know.

My Nympho friend and her sister both have obsessions about sex. They'd be in a public area full of people and just start talking about labia's and penises and having races with vibrators and i just look around and be all like, "Guys people are looking at us." sad

It gets to be pretty embarassing sometimes.

Some of the sex jokes aren't even funny, I just glare at the person who said it and they just stop, but doesn't work all the time xd

I'm not uncomfortable talking about sex, my problem is that I've never had the "need" to have sex. I've never been interested in having it, but for some reason I know so much about it, and people assume I've had sex (which is always funny). The only reason I'm pretty open about it is because my family and friends are open people, so it comes naturally.

I don't think it's childish to be uncomfortable talk about sex, some people just genially don't want to talk about it, some people think it's a privet thing, while others must let the whole world know who they shagged the night before. I don't care who they have sex with behind closed doors, I just don't want to hear every little detail about it, like some people I know stare

I do find it embarrassing sometimes when my friends shout about sex down the street, it's not what random passer-bys want to hear when they're going shopping.

So yeah, overall, there's nothing wrong to be uncomfortable talking about it, but really the sex stuff should be talked with a group of friends at home, and not shouted out in the top of their voice in public. There's a fine line wink

It may be a quite embarrasing topic, but it's human nature. There shouldn't be any reason to be embarrased to talk about sex, but because of the media and such, it's become quite the shy topic.

ok.



It's not wrong, it's merely outside of the norm because that's college age. College is the prime age of sexual curiosity.


Because, society is expecting you to have accepted and accomplished having lots of sex and reading sex f.a.q.


They don't talk about sex as much, they just accept it, and take it for granted that they think you've already gotten a good knowledge of sex and have some experience


I think you just answered your own question.




No

Okay, I'm probably the oldest person here (I'm 30) and I'll tell you when I was your age... I knew very little about sexual issues. I was, and still am to degree, embarressed to discuss sex in public. Personally I led a sheltered life and none of those issues really came up until late college (mid-20's). I didn't really date until college so there goes the theory that everyone in high school has some experience.

It's fine because you are who you are and you shouldn't be embarressed or ashamed of that. You have plenty of time to become a "sexual expert" for now just explore who you are and what you want in a relationship. ^^