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 Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 12:01 am
Just thought that there should be a thread where those who have, can help those who want to and maybe help those who aren't sure make up their mind. If that made any sense.
I actually kinda need some help myself, I made a New Year's Resolution to tell my Mom that I'm Pagan, before the end of the year, but I don't really know how. We're not christian, so I can't just say "I'm not christian" and I'm afraid if I say Pagan, she'll think of satanism or something.
Fortunately, she's fairly open-minded, unlike my step-dad.
Any advice?
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Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 11:49 am
The best way that I know of is to sit down and talk to her about what it is you do and don't beleive, then she won't have any questions about devil worshiping. Don't use any lables like 'Wicca, Wiccan, or Pagan' because people tend to have a bised on thoes words. Discuss how you beleive in nature, gods and goddesses, the elements, all thoes fun things, then towards the end you can use the word Pagan if you wish, because she will know what you beleive, and start to assoceate that view with the word it belongs to when you use it.
A bit of advice is to wait until she isn't buisy, and is relaxed, so that she can pay attention to what your saying, and think about it, not about what's for dinner, or what is going on the next day exc.
And remember, parents often know more about us then they let on... My coming out of the broom closet went like this.
"Mom, I'm pagan."
"Ya, I know"
"Oh" Me = eek
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Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 5:45 pm
Wow, you had it easy.
I never really thought that she might already know...
Thanks for the advice.
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Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 8:50 pm
Yes I had it very easy comeing out to her. But remember that your mom may be in the dark about it, we don't know, so make sure to tell her gently so her mind dosen't shut down and refuse to listen.
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Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 5:23 pm
well...my entire family is catholic so if i say "i'm a pagan" ...*shivers* any way...i'll give a letter to my mother on...April i think and i'll tell her everything..i'll let you know how it goes...
but if your mother is really open minded...you shouldn't have problems telling her what you believe in....
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 1:31 pm
I think the only advice I can give is to be honest with her, and answer her questions as best you can, even the ridiculous ones. I think the advice Shinys gave is good too, but she may ask for a label, as people are comfortable with them in general, so if she does you should give her one you're comfortable with her using even if you don't label yourself. And remember, it may take some time for her to get used to it, so patience is important as always. You should also probably tell her alone, as you mentioned your stepdad not being open minded.
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Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 6:48 am
While honesty is admirable, I think it behooves every pagan in the broom closet to ask themselves if they NEED to come out of it. I think that many times it creates a lot of fireworks and drama and bad feelings that weren't at all necessary. Is there something you want to do that requires her knowing about it ( eg, joining a coven if you're under 18 )? If so, then...well, other people have already given good advice. If not, then why tell her? Practice as you do, and answer honestly if she asks you anything, but I don't think it's necessary to bring up the issue out of nowhere.
Just my $0.02.
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Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 1:44 pm
When I told my mom that i was leaning towards the pagan path i was afraid she'd haul me off to church or make me gargle with Holy water or something.
She didn't, mostly because I did my best to explain to her about Paganism beforehand.
And i wonder if i should tell my father...
I recently found out that my Family wasn't raised into a certain religion because of him!
He didn't want to impose my mom's beliefs on us...
And that makes me happy.
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Did i get off topic at all there?
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Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 1:12 pm
No you're not off-topic, no worries heart
Wonderful! Parents can be really surprising sometimes. 3nodding If you talk to your father a lot and he's curious about your lifestyle, go ahead and tell him when it comes up; he sounds like he'd understand.
My family sort-of knows that I'm not Christian, but it's never actively come up because I'm rarely around them. I've explained bare basics of Paganism to my mother because she was worried when I told her about it, and she isn't offended by the pentacle on my ceiling (she actually said it was pretty confused ). When other people bring up my religion I don't say "Pagan" unless I'm just trying to avoid a conversation with them or until I explain it first, I usually just say that I follow an earth-based religion and people don't ask questions ninja
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