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So after listening to this it gave me the idea for discussion. Plus, I was bored and felt like it. XD

Anyways, how do you break up with people? For me, I'll use the most convenient way possible. I'll usually call the person and tell them or leave a message. Rarely will I go find the person or set up some meeting just to break up. I mean.. it seems like a wasted effort to me. However, should I see the guy in passing, I'll tell him then.

Also, what do you think the best way of breaking up with someone is and what's the worst?

Like, if I ever do plan on meeting someone to break up with them, it'll be at the mall or some place else where people are around. xd ;

More things to discuss:
Do you like massive drama involved and for there to be a fight that goes on for months?
Are you going to hope that the two of you will be friends after breaking up?
Is staying friends even a good thing to do?
How do you even decide to break up with someone? Like, is it a personal choice or do you talk about the idea with a few friends.. a lot of friends.. and so on.
More as I think of them.

-laughs-

And with my luck, I would see the person later in life and then would come that awkward silence.

Katie and I are off and on more than Ross and Rachel.

Yes I said it.

It helps to still be friends though, you never know when you will need a friend like him/her. whee

and oh my god
I could make incredible song lyrics out of that

and


"if you can't be a couple,
might as well just be friends." = great album name

although it's like "if you can;t leave it be might as well make it bleed.

That is the best freaking thing. . .ever

I've only dumped one person before, and it was an internet thing.
Also, he was WAY over possessive. It was scary ]:
I asked my friend to do it before I had no guts ~_~
But, in 5th grade, when I used my brain half-assed, which is more then I do now, I DID date someone.
During spring break, and basically only dated for 3 days non-vacation.
He dumped me, cried, and was going to become emo?
(I was going to break up with him anyway. Asdfg, confusing)

lol, the link about breakups was great.
&& the only time that i broke up with someone was an internet thing.
twas some guy i met off of some chatroom. && after he told me that he was dating two other girls at the same time as me, i left him. pretty pathetic, i am. but if i do ever have to break up with someone, i will probably write them a letter. just because i will feel badly for hurting them and would be crying anyway.

The times I've broken up with someone, it's always been in person. reasoning is that they deserve that much respect at least. I also think that breaking up over the internet is a cowardly thing to do and it's really not fun being on the receiving end (I know from experience). Granted, each time I've broken up with someone, it was conveneint to talk to them in person- they were either at school or with this recent one, I was living with him.

Most of my breakups have had some drama. One guy punched a hole in his wall and said he was going to kill himself. We were dating for a month. This recent one was for two years and I think we broke up... and then played video games or something.

Oddly enough, I'm on relativly good terms with all my ex's. It's a little bit more difficult because there's residual feelings and there has been a certain amount of akwardness. I think I'm still trying to determine whether these friendships are a good idea or not :S

I didn't read all the replies, but the worst way to dump someone is over text messaging or sending a friend to do it for you. It makes you seem foolish and immature for not being able to face the person. That would make it harder for you to find someone later in life if they know your history.

Dating friends can be a good, healthy thing if done with caution as to not damage your friendship. There is always a line that needs to be drawn that prevents things from getting to a point where IF you broke up, it would seriously affect your friendship.