SAFE: To start it must be said that nothing is 100% safe, including BDSM.
Safety involves many things. It means knowing your limitations, Dom and Sub alike. It means taking precautions like having safety scissors and having more then one key to anything that locks. It means keeping things clean and using condoms or other barrier protection when needed. It means having some simple first aid items handy, which isn't a bad idea anyway. Remember Dom's, you may have paid a zillion for that BDSM toy but a willing partner who gives you the gift of their submission is PRICELESS.
SANE: You will probably see more debate on this word than any other. It means understanding what's possible and what should remain fantasy. Seriously, knowing the difference between what must remain a fantasy and what you can actually do is an important step to being sexually responsible, even if you only play privately. It also means taking the time to learn about that newest thing you want to try, by reading, observing, talking to others, and practicing if needed. Trust and communication must always be present, but education is essential.
CONSENSUAL: This may be the most important concept of all. Its what seperates sexual play from abuse. Everything is based on consent. Consenting to play and then negotiating what will happen. Consenting to enter into a Dom/sub relationship. Consent once given can also be withdrawn. The ability to do that can be modified by negotiated agreements, but, if, and when consent is withdrawn, that withdrawal must be honored or trust will be lost, and rape/abuse becomes an issue.
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