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Speaking of mayhem, there comes a time in life when you as a human being have to realize that you cannot have everything you want in life. Sacrifice is the most common used word in the world. I am not talking about saying the word 'sacrifice', I am talking about doing it. In order to have something you must give up something else. This is true with everything you take in. You may not realize it, but everyone does it. In order to find 'The One' you have to have lost someone. In order for you to have something of value someone had to sacrifice money for it. Nothing in life is free. You must come to that conclusion for you to make a step forward. You must lose to gain. In some cases you must lose your happiness to gain someone else's happiness. You can not be completely selfish all the time. Even though it hurts you, your loved one is the one that matters in the end ..

Have you ever wanted someone to change so bad, but it seemed impossible? Think about this. Have you changed for someone? Or was it for yourself? Let me give you an example of a true story. I will not refer to anyone by name in this story:

There was a guy who began to date a girl. They fell in love with each other, but there was a problem. He constantly cheated. He was referred to as a 'sex addict'; he had sex with anyone, anywhere. By the end of his relationship he had cheated on his girlfriend with eight different people. She left him once she found out. She had given him many chances to quit, but then it was finally over. He begged and begged for months for her to take him back. He had never changed during the relationship, so why should she believe that he would change now? About a year later, he realized he needed to change his habits. Being the way he was lost him many relationships, not just with her. He was tired of it all. Eventually he changed, but it was not for anyone.

My point is, he did not change for her. People normally do not change for others. They change for themselves and themselves only. You cannot force someone to change. They are only going to change if they feel like they should change for themselves. The human mind is a selfish being. No matter who you are, you are selfish. I am not saying it is wrong. Take a minute and think about it. Why are nice people nice? To make others feel good, but it is also to get a satisfaction that you are being a kind person. Right? You do not do it for the hell of it. You do not like being mean. Anything and everything you do has a bit of selfishness in it. Selfishness also has to do with changing. A large percentage of the people who change for 'others' are normally doing it for themselves. Yes, it is to keep the other person, but in all reality why would they keep them? To make themselves happy, right? Do not force anyone to change for you, because it will most likely not happen. They have to be willing to change for themselves.