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 Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 11:25 pm
aka_vashy13 Why do I still live where I do if no one here likes me?
If you can answer that, answer this:
Why do I let people use me as a doormat?  ELYZIA SAYS;
Well, I don't know nearly as much about your real life as I'd like to; but, what I do know is the reason why I'M currently living in a place that I hate: Because moving to a new location is much easier said than done, & ultimately it comes down to a matter of money, & I don't have the finances to just move wherever I want. Also, moving to a totally new place is scary by nature, especially when you're young. Perhaps you have the same reasons for not moving that I have, to some degree or another?
It seems you've caught on to the key of what ultimately makes or breaks your ability to enjoy where you live: The more people you have that you like & can spend time with in a certain area, the more you enjoy that area. Yes, it's a generalization, but one with a damn lot of merit.
You could always move in with meeee, I like you!! Then again, I don't know how I feel about living with people, but it's still a nice idea, lol.
As to why you let people use you as a doormat:
Obviously you & only you know all the information needed to know for somebody to figure something like that out, but I can definitely take an educated guess:
First off, some people just naturally have more trouble finding their voice than others do. &, us young women of course struggle with such things more than most other people alive. I'd imagine it also has a lot to do with your desire for love & acceptance, & to be loved & accepted, & it's awful how easy it is to get yourself into a situation without even fully realizing it where you have to choose between being a doormat when you've got to be or being alone & not even being a damn doormat to anyone.
I was actually talking to one of my few close female friends that I have in real life a few days ago about how we both felt like we had so much trouble saying "no" to guys, or being able to set any sort of appropriate limits & bounderies & all that with relationships. It's weird, 'cause saying "no" is supposed to be so easy, at least everyone talks about it that way. & I'm very good at saying no. But in relationships you have no idea how quickly even I can take on the whole "doormat" role because it's just the way things seem to go.
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 11:41 pm
ELYZIA SAYS;
I'll tell you exactly what logic is: Without question one of the best shams humanity has ever utilized on a grand scale.
It's also without question one of the best tactics towards figuring out the truth of ourselves, our species, the world around us, what's going on around us, etc. that humanity has ever utilized on a grand scale. [I feel the temptation to now answer the question of "what is truth", but if I try & go into that I won't even be able to follow this train of thought.]
Logic is a meaningless excuse costumed as a "Be All & End All"; However, logic is also at times in fact a genuine "Be All & End All". Yes, logic is illogical, & a paradox. Anything worth anything is, though.
Some may call the following "avoidance"; I call it insight: We live in a society in which we all struggle to grasp at the right words to employ to try to express the inexpressible; to throw around words of hollow defense because throwing around things that are fun to throw isn't very socially okay.
It's funny in a sick way to watch how we live in a world full of people so inclined to furiously construct logical argument after logical argument, acting as if they'll find answers to mankind within their own bullshit creations.
As much as I love logic regardless of all that, since my brain is incredibly inclined towards it, my brain is also inclined towards thinking on an "abstract scale" & all that, & one thing about logic that I believe with all my heart & conviction is that,
Ultimately, nothing anybody does that matters to them has a damn thing to do with "logic". In day to day life, logic serves as nothing more than a futile attempt to solidify & clarify & grasp & comprehend & expose & exhibit everything that only gets lost in attempts of solidification & clarification & comprehension [etc.] . I do think we all have a ... mystical essence of sorts inside ourselves that determines what we do & don't do in a "final decision" sort of way. Why did I do balblahablah? Well, why did you not? It's just who I am, & just who you are. But humans seem to demand answers that just seem to packed full of "meaning" that trying to understand any sort of large concept in a simple way just, doesn't occur to most people.
... Okay, so there are some flaws in there. But, you got to admit, that's got to be a much better answer than you at least expected xD
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 11:45 pm
You know i have come to realise that my life is finally starting to settle down (after everything blew up last month ) and yet i find myself feeling restless.
Maybe i'm so used to being stressed/upset/angry etc that i crave it and normalcy just seems boring....
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Posted: Wed Apr 07, 2010 12:04 am
elyzia aka_vashy13 Why do I still live where I do if no one here likes me?
If you can answer that, answer this:
Why do I let people use me as a doormat? ELYZIA SAYS;
Well, I don't know nearly as much about your real life as I'd like to; but, what I do know is the reason why I'M currently living in a place that I hate: Because moving to a new location is much easier said than done, & ultimately it comes down to a matter of money, & I don't have the finances to just move wherever I want. Also, moving to a totally new place is scary by nature, especially when you're young. Perhaps you have the same reasons for not moving that I have, to some degree or another?
It seems you've caught on to the key of what ultimately makes or breaks your ability to enjoy where you live: The more people you have that you like & can spend time with in a certain area, the more you enjoy that area. Yes, it's a generalization, but one with a damn lot of merit.
You could always move in with meeee, I like you!! Then again, I don't know how I feel about living with people, but it's still a nice idea, lol.
As to why you let people use you as a doormat:
Obviously you & only you know all the information needed to know for somebody to figure something like that out, but I can definitely take an educated guess:
First off, some people just naturally have more trouble finding their voice than others do. &, us young women of course struggle with such things more than most other people alive. I'd imagine it also has a lot to do with your desire for love & acceptance, & to be loved & accepted, & it's awful how easy it is to get yourself into a situation without even fully realizing it where you have to choose between being a doormat when you've got to be or being alone & not even being a damn doormat to anyone.
I was actually talking to one of my few close female friends that I have in real life a few days ago about how we both felt like we had so much trouble saying "no" to guys, or being able to set any sort of appropriate limits & bounderies & all that with relationships. It's weird, 'cause saying "no" is supposed to be so easy, at least everyone talks about it that way. & I'm very good at saying no. But in relationships you have no idea how quickly even I can take on the whole "doormat" role because it's just the way things seem to go. Well i have pretty much no oen here, not even family wants me here anymore. I was ganna move, but the ex bf ruined that. I had even started to pack and what not. I even started to make plans in my head. I have never really lived with anyone that was important to me, so I kinda liked the new idea of it. I was willing to do whatever it took. But I guess not.
And I do have a big problem saying no. Not just in relationships, but over all. I have problems being mean to people because eve if I dont like them, I feel bad about it.
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 8:07 am
Back from Cadaver Riding. What's up? mrgreen
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 3:32 pm
x x xelyzia
Incase you haven't noticed, Gaia tends to attract all the innocent, nerdy teens & stuff. The people 'round here are not an accurate reflection at all of the real world.
hey
bro
What's wrong with being innocent and nerdy? gonk x x x
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 7:28 pm
angelfromdown-under You know i have come to realise that my life is finally starting to settle down (after everything blew up last month ) and yet i find myself feeling restless. Maybe i'm so used to being stressed/upset/angry etc that i crave it and normalcy just seems boring.... ELYZIA SAYS;
I totally know what you mean. That's kind of like the story of my life right here, haha.
Here's the thing, though,
eventually living all crazy-like & "on-the-edge" & in constant emotional turmoil gets to be pretty boring too. Plus it generally sucks a lot more than normal [I'd imagine, whenever I try do to the whole "normal" thing it goes awfully, like with Oxy].
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 8:08 pm
Do you think We need Art together?? ;3
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 8:20 pm
This is a shout... that is a bear... Where... Bear??? Behind you!
How good are you in math?
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 9:06 pm
This is my first action as apart of this guild lol.
Why doesn't anyone want to get to know me better?
I'm talented, smart, nice, and I'm not THAT ugly.
Most people just blow me off and the first guy I ever went out with only wanted me for sex. I just don't understand.
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 9:23 pm
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 10:06 pm
 One hope, one dream, one world...
where the hell is everyone?
Did I just pop in at a bad time cause its like fricken dead in here
This fallen angel flies for you
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 10:22 pm
Strike Angel of the Wind One hope, one dream, one world...
where the hell is everyone?
Did I just pop in at a bad time cause its like fricken dead in here
This fallen angel flies for you ELYZIA SAYS;
Well, taking into consideration how many teens from the US there are, & the fact that it's currently 10:21PM - 1:21 AM in the US & kids got school tomorrow, that could explain a lot for why Gaia would be significantly slower right now.
Also, I'm really hoping you thought to check out the subforums too, not only the main forum. 'Cause I never allow much of anything to be posted in the main forum.
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 10:23 pm
ELYZIA SAYS;
I've been Vending/Exchanging throughout nearly my whole time on Gaia. It's how I've always made all my gold.
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 10:32 pm
elyzia angelfromdown-under You know i have come to realise that my life is finally starting to settle down (after everything blew up last month ) and yet i find myself feeling restless. Maybe i'm so used to being stressed/upset/angry etc that i crave it and normalcy just seems boring.... ELYZIA SAYS;
I totally know what you mean. That's kind of like the story of my life right here, haha.
Here's the thing, though,
eventually living all crazy-like & "on-the-edge" & in constant emotional turmoil gets to be pretty boring too. Plus it generally sucks a lot more than normal [I'd imagine, whenever I try do to the whole "normal" thing it goes awfully, like with Oxy]. so i guess just revel in the normalcy for now xD
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