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 Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 2:03 am
Ok so for the past two days or so [Since the day I came out]
Each morning my mom wakes up just about the time I do.
And yells at me, and tells me how much her and my dad hate Shirley, and how im not allowed to talk to her anymore. But this morning she said "I really can't deal with if you think your 'gay' or not, Courtney (my cousin) knows and shes got the biggest mouth in the family. And Aunt Dar (my aunt) if she finds out... Shes had the biggest inuendo about Devon (my brother) being gay."
When I certainly remember myself liking girls very much, I just have a slight infatuation with guys. Its terrible. I've been having suicidal thoughts ever since and its terrible for me to think like this. But seriously even my DAD doesn't seem to care, and Dads should think their son even thinking of another guy in that was is terrible. My mom is shallow and closed minded and I hate her. She twists words she abuses me emotionally and mentally, if I had no Shirley I wouldn't be here... And now they want to take her away from me.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 2:41 am
There are support groups if you seek them out.
Also, it's a very typical reaction. My parents wouldnt let me see one of my friends when I was a kid because I kept getting sunburnt every time we'd hang out. Seriously.
Your parents don't understand. Try to tell them that you're still their son and you still love them, even if they can't accept you.
Give it some time. You can't expect them to just suddenly readjust, especially since they seem a bit closed-minded.
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songwriterscramp Vice Captain
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Everlasting Chaos Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 8:54 am
See this? I want it. Why should dads think it's a bad thing? If your dad doesn't seem to mind maybe you can discuss it with him and have him speak to your mom about it. Otherwise do what Song said and find a support group.
Or claim you're actually bi and see if that makes things any better. ninja Donations luffed.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 1:31 pm
Hug her and say, There, you've got the gay now, too.
Or, hit her with your manpurse while she's Jazzercising, catching her off balance and causing her to topple backwards over a well-placed homeless child into a fish tank recently stocked with mal-tempered seabass with fricken' laser beams on their fricken' heads, which will shoot at her and miss, causing the tank to shatter and deposit her very angry and wet onto the Hot Wheels track you built for the occasion, at which point she'll slip on a previously-collectible Pontiac GTO (in metallic purple) thus bending the wheels and rendering it trash, then while she's hopping around on one foot cursing you, you can slip a trampoline under her and she'll bounce through the roof and land in a Kentucky Fried Chicken where she will promptly be rubbed with eleven herbs and spices, breaded and fried extra crispy, then sit on the shelves until they have to throw her out because KFC is gross and nobody likes to eat there.
Yes, that was all one sentence.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 1:44 pm
I know that school counselors aren't the greatest trained, but that's a start. You can find other people suffering from the same issues.
In other words, like people have said, find a support group.
And eventually, get your mother involved.
The thing is I wouldn't freak out about it. You said something about you remembering liking girls alot and just have a slight infatuation with boys. Who knows? Maybe it's temporary. It doesn't bother me either way, just so you know. However, these things can be temporary, definitely since you've had an attraction to females. Some girls go through phases where they experiement with other girls. Guys can do the same thing.
If it isn't a phase, then it's best to find comfort and acceptance elsewhere. Have you discussed with your father about what state you're in? I would recommend trying to find a friend, as well as Shirely, that is understanding and supportive. Support groups are a definite route, and seek counseling if you need it.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 1:52 pm
I'm not doubting that what you say is legitimate, DN, but I'm with Allah in that it's entirely possible it'll go away. Many of my friends went through similar things about your age. Some of them stayed there.
You're in high school right? Look for a Gay-Straight Alliance at your school. If there isn't one, maybe you and Shirley can start your own GSA. Schools usually don't like it too much but they can't shut you down. Keep remembering that you aren't going at this alone and you'll make it just fine.
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 2:14 pm
Ryan Ryan Ryan! ******** yo mommmmm. You should start going to Glass. I think Amber goes and Gabe.. maybe? AND HUNTER! So you could totally join. I'm too lazy to go, since I'm busy with debate. I freaked out on Devon today at lunch. . . I couldn't help it. I was like about to cry. We've made it this far, I'm not letting your parents get between us. Your moms always thought I was a druggie who was addicted to sex anyway. What makes being bisexual worse? SHE HAS A GAY FRIEND TOO! D<
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 5:12 pm
I don't like support groups.
I've thought about G.L.A.S.S but no thanks.
I'd rather rough it out.
D:<
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 5:14 pm
xd Then stop complaining!
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 5:17 pm
We can't help if you won't help yourself, if you're just bitching for attention take it elsewhere
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 5:19 pm
I'm hoping the best for you guys, I hate the fact that the world is so close minded to change and can't accept it because it's "unnatural." Eventually we will rule the world and then everyone will be open minded. ;D
@ Switters: I think this is more like venting than seeking attention. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:04 pm
Most kids who end up 'gay' and then just want to whine about how horrible it is do it for attention from the start, regardless of if its intentional
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:25 pm
Switters
Most kids who end up 'gay' and then just want to whine about how horrible it is do it for attention from the start, regardless of if its intentional
Then let him seek out momentary attention. Really isnt a big deal and looking for attention runs in the same category as venting, the guild is here for emotional support ^.^
OH, and like Chaos said before, talk to your dad about it 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 6:38 pm
Switters
Most kids who end up 'gay' and then just want to whine about how horrible it is do it for attention from the start, regardless of if its intentional
... Why are YOU bitching?
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 10:37 pm
Switters
We can't help if you won't help yourself, if you're just bitching for attention take it elsewhere
haha, oh come on. We ALLLLL do it...you included wink (especially me ninja )
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