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hello decora community...

i have a problem..

its kinde of personal..

see i have a boyfriend that i love,...relly dearly ive known him seince i was 12... and evry summer we alwase "hook up" and experment...but this time is diffrent because we started talking when school was still in session...and we where jsut friends,....but once we started hanging out we started doing that agin,...but this time i was his girlfriend,...not jsut a girl he messes with....
...and i lost my virginity to him then.....but later... he starts to ignor me...nd i feel like i got my heart crushed,...and i was sjut played with agin....and then ocne i tell him to talk to me he tells me he dosent love me anymore,...and that hes goign back to his X,...(she lives in CALI logn distince) And we brake up, i get depressed,...and i was unhappy for 4 months stright, and evry time i got hit on i jsut started to cry inside thinking that this man will jsut hurt me...
I know im just a kid, but For some reason i cant think of myself with anyone els but him....

I relly do enjoy him.
Well anyway,...we started tlakign agin jsut a little bit after the 4th, And he tried to hook me up with hsi friend,....but i ended up not attracted,...and by the end of the nite, He called me and told me he took advantage of me, and when he saw his friend flirting with me he got rlely jelus, and he cryed over the phone saying how much he wants me back, and how bad he feels for using me,...and of corse i lvoe him so i went back,...forgiveing him,...
(btw at this point i found out he was tlakign to his Xgirlfriend when he was with me last time ]: )
Now where together and weve been sososos happy, and we do absulutly nothing and we still have a good time together, and he says he loves me and alot of s**t like that...

...but sadly...
..he jsut got signed up for collage...
...and i sjut got signed up for highschool...
.............and im afride of us not spending enough time together...
....and also.......I was on his myspace today gunna leave a comment and this girl....not his X but some girl psoted, SHE MISSES HER FARIY...

and im worried he might jsut turn his cheek and hurt me again...
because he has had a swinger hystory in the past...
although i know hes mine right now...i dotn know who hes talking too..
........i jsut called him a bit ago telling him ow sad i was about all this (cept the cheating part,...im going tot lak to him toamrow),...but he said he was too tierd to talk...and to coem over in the morning...
but see im confused,. i dotn know what to belive,...
because he got relly drunk today and called me and told me he misses me even when its been only 1day...im so sad...and so confused..

DO YOU THINK HES CHEATING ON ME?
DO YOU THINK HES LYING TO GET IN MY PANTS?
DO YOU THINK HES PLANNING ON LEVING ME?
DO YOU THINK HES IN LOVE?
DO YOU THINK HES STILL HAPPY WIT ME?
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

p.s. sorry if this is agenst the rules...im jsut worried...

Aww man, I dunno what to think on this one...
I'd just sit him down and talk to him seriously, and if tries any of that funny business to distract you, tell him to stop.
You need to get some answers out of him, that's for sure.

Maybe you should wait awhile and see how things are, but if things are going bad, maybe YOU should break up w/ him.

Hmm, I don't know what to say, my social skills are s**t.

The only advice I could give you is that communication make things more clear, be it bad or good. At least you know what's going on.

in my vast experience.....(dated few.....had sex with quite a few....) once a cheater always a cheater... I was with a guy for 2 years....we lived together (keep in mind I am an adult...ish) he cheated on me with 5 different girls that I had NO IDEA about and that isn't counting girls I brought home to play with both of us. I've noticed....guys don't typically change. Girls...we change all the time (I'm not a slut anymore and I'm engaged to a different guy) but guys stay the same.....


if you had told me when I was with the a$$ I would have told you F*** off....but I walked in on him cheating on our couch.....it may not be what you want to hear....but you've got to tell him staight up... Lying and distance isn't for you and then if he tries to play games you need to be strong and leave.....just because you lost your v-card to him dosn't mean he is the one....and when the right one comes along you'll know who he is.........