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 Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 1:17 pm
... So I told my parents....
It didn't turn out so well... I gave my mom some resources I got from the health nurse to read. Apparently when she read through them she only decided to take head to anything that supported I wasn't transsexual. When we talked about it she sat there and tore up every aspect of it... I couldn't even talk because I wanted to cry... She even actually strait out said she thought this was bullshit and was sick of the "attention getting phases" I go through, apparently she doesn't believe I am Bisexual either... She doesn't believe anything I have told her and has become a total b***h about everything. Like she was on my heals the whole time I was doing chores being even more picky about s**t than usual. ******** I even was made to stay home and "visit" with the family yesterday. I am talking about like direct family too. She didn't even make me come out of my room she just was just trying to keep me at home... ******** I have wanted to cry so bad whenever I am even in the same room with her for the past several days. I don't know what to do sad
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Posted: Wed Aug 29, 2007 8:59 pm
Aww... that sucks. My parents didn't believe me either when I came out... come to think of it, they still don't.
Don't worry, Hun. We're here.
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 7:00 am
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 7:05 am
Hey... *hugs you gently* parents can be like that. You see... the reason that they deny with so much intensity about this topic is because of fear. When you say something like "I feel as if Im a girl" they feel as if they are losing their "son." My parents did the same thing. I first came out to my Dad and since my parents are divorced... it was easy to be able to just tell one of them. At first he was along the lines of "Your wrong! This is just a phase!" ect. We havent talked much about it since. My Mom was also very unaccepting but she did bring me to therapy like I asked. When the therapist called my by my chosen name (that would be Amber) she almost went into a rage. As we drove off she started "schooling" me on sex and gender, though I destroyed her on that topic. In the end when we got home I ended up escaping to my room and then later going to my older sister. I tried to talk to her to tell her that Im a girl at her but before I got anything out, broke down in tears. She comforted me a bit and gave me a book to read about it. After awhile I left my Mom a note asking about anti-androgens and describing what they do. She refused that though sad Some time before we talked for a bit about me being a girl and she asked me to just be questioning. I told her that I was through that many years ago and I am certain of who I am. So it has sorta been left at that, I think she guesses it is done and over with but Im just quiet about it. I saw how much it hurt her and my family so I have kinda zipped it but never will I deny it. So... so words of advice from one girl to another... stay strong. If you dont believe in yourself, know that at least I do, and probably many more people. You can do it, every girl is a queen in there own way and you are no exception! ^_^
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 7:53 pm
Thanks. My parents backed down a bit. I think that they are hoping I changed my mind after being assholes for a few days... I don't know how I am going to convince them. Something tells me now that mom will deny it till the day I have a sex change... Or a therapist tells her.
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 8:37 pm
Trust me, sweetie. Freud, Jung, Kinsey, and Benjamin could all come back to life and diagnose you and your mom will fight it. I speak from experience. FrozenRainOfBlood Hey... *hugs you gently* parents can be like that. You see... the reason that they deny with so much intensity about this topic is because of fear. When you say something like "I feel as if Im a girl" they feel as if they are losing their "son." My parents did the same thing. I first came out to my Dad and since my parents are divorced... it was easy to be able to just tell one of them. At first he was along the lines of "Your wrong! This is just a phase!" ect. We havent talked much about it since. My Mom was also very unaccepting but she did bring me to therapy like I asked. When the therapist called my by my chosen name (that would be Amber) she almost went into a rage. As we drove off she started "schooling" me on sex and gender, though I destroyed her on that topic. In the end when we got home I ended up escaping to my room and then later going to my older sister. I tried to talk to her to tell her that Im a girl at her but before I got anything out, broke down in tears. She comforted me a bit and gave me a book to read about it. After awhile I left my Mom a note asking about anti-androgens and describing what they do. She refused that though sad Some time before we talked for a bit about me being a girl and she asked me to just be questioning. I told her that I was through that many years ago and I am certain of who I am. So it has sorta been left at that, I think she guesses it is done and over with but Im just quiet about it. I saw how much it hurt her and my family so I have kinda zipped it but never will I deny it. So... so words of advice from one girl to another... stay strong. If you dont believe in yourself, know that at least I do, and probably many more people. You can do it, every girl is a queen in there own way and you are no exception! ^_^ Wow, that sounds almost like me, except I told my mom first and my sis isn't okay with it. Also, Amber happens to be my partner's name. Synchronicity is such a funny thing. Really, though, DL, listen to her. Believe in yourself and nobody can tell you who you are or aren't. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 10:31 pm
I know, it's just really hard some times. You gals must understand. ******** I have had so much trouble getting through days lately.
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 7:54 am
Hey... were here for you. The best things to have when you go though this journey are friends, self confidence, information and support. Luckily, we provide 75% of that *smiles and winks* You my good friend are your own 25%
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 8:41 am
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 11:36 am
-is late-
-but is back from extended vacation from the guild-
-so yippee-
I wish I had gotten some resources from reliable 'sites and stuff when I came out to my mom. It's hard to believe that was a year ago and she still doesn't believe me - she doesn't even want to talk to me about it. According to her, the reason someone 'becomes' a transsexual is because they're attracted to their own ********, if that were true, no one would be gay.
And there'd be no such thing as lesbians.
Or gay men.
Huh.
>______>;
OKAY, ANYWAY, I'M RAMBLING. : D
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:52 pm
The resources didn't help my case at all. My mom just found ways to twist the information against me....
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:55 pm
wow... ********!!! My mom just saw that post... Thank god she was in a ******** rush.... she is gonna ******** freek next time she talks to me...
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 5:15 pm
********... ******** I don't know what to do. s**t...
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 5:46 pm
If she doesn't know your Gaia account, say it was someone else? idk. >___>
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Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 5:54 pm
She knows I use dizy lizy on Xbox, and that it was in reference to her. She would totaly call me if I bullshitted her gonk
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