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This is going to sound like that typical story: two girls meet, one is gay (actually I'm bi, but let's not hairsplit, ne?) the other is straight but open-minded. They become the best of friends, and the one girl leaves her boyfriend for the chance with the other. But the other... is nothing.

I'm Alex, I'm 16. I met Corri when I had just turned 15. I had been with a guy, Deci, for over a year already, and I thought we were in love. Then I met her. I started dreaming about her, about talking to her or kissing her or anything else. I felt so guilty, I told Deci, who "understood" and told me to tell her, so I could get it off my chest. I told Corri, she was flattered and said it wasn't as impossible as I seemed to think that someone like her would like someone like me. I was happy, relieved, away from the feelings that threatened her relationship. Then everything goes wrong with the boy. Deci stopped being so amazig, so understanding of my "occasional" twinges for female interaction (not saying I did anything, just had feelings is all). I couldn't stand the sight of him. Plus, I was thinking of her while with him during a good time. So I broke up with him. That was last May.

Now I'm 16 and still infatuated with Corri. Deci has a new girlfriend, Seana, who is already just as attached to as he was to me. And Corri has said nothing. She has listened when occasionally I would mention something about him to her, but never brought up my not-so-newfound attraction for her. And it's not like she's forgotten or thinks it's gone away. She knows. But she still hasn't done anything.

She considers herself "genderless" meaning she can be attracted to anyone she wants, male female or unknown. She even told me recently that she knows for a fact that she could be attracted physically to a girl, something she hadn't before admitted. Plus, she seems very close to me. She always come to me if she needs something, which I welcome, because I always want to help if I can; she has acted rather strangely, almost flirtatiously, around me, playing with my hair one night at a sleep over as we lay together, and never missing a chance to say how "sweet" or "adorable" I am (her words, believe me).

So now I'm sitting here, confused as all hell, thinking "Corri! What is going on?! Do you love me or not??!"

Please help me. crying

agreed ask her !!!

I agree, ask her, the only way to be sure is just that.

Please don't undermine or disregard my opinion just on my bases of being a guy, I ask this of everyone in this guild not just one person. I have experiances Which I just want to share as knowlede and help, thank you and may the goddess and god bless you.

I can understand where you're coming from on the not asking bit. If she knows, but won't act, there's no way to force her affections back on you. Best thing to do is leave it to her and if she decides she likes you, she'll act upon it. For now, it's probably best to keep being the good friend you are, and support her in her actions, no matter how much it hurts deep inside.

ok, that was childish and lame... But I'm serious, it's difficult to explain my hesitation to speak to her about it because she's just not anything like anyone else in the world. I'm so incredibly comfortable around her, yet at the same time I'm terrified to say anything. She welcomes everything and never judges anyone, yet I'm scared she might judge me. I don't know how to describe her in a way that actually illuminates everything about her I love so much.

Minor update though: she recently revealed to me that she can develop a crush on someone, but she has two very distict types of crushes which never ever meld together. The first is based on who the person is, what they like, how they they think, etc. She basically falls in love with their personality and their mind. The second is a physical attraction, which pretty much explains itself. But she can only have one or the other for one person, never both. The people she likes for who they are are just incredible people she always wants to be around, but she could never imagine herself being with them in a physical way. It grosses her out, to the point where the very thought of it literally makes her drop to the floor and curl into a ball. When she likes someone physically, however, it's a deep passion, almost obsession, with their body or their looks, but she usually develops this type for someone she sees from afar, someone she doesn't know well. Often, it's a celebrity of sorts, like the lead singer from Gackt or Yulia of t.A.T.u. So, whenever she actually thinks of things in the physical realm, she thinks of people she could never possibly be around, and therefore who she could never possibly get emotionally attached to. She's scared of allowing herself to think of one person in every light, because she's afraid to lose herself in them. Maybe that's the reaso behind her very obvious silence? Who knows.