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 Posted: Tue Sep 11, 2007 10:15 am
I'm in a wonderful relationship with this amazing woman. She's been down in the dumps lately because she can't go back to school this semester, and I don't know how to help her feel better. It's making me really sad to see her so sad. I haven't seen her smile on her own for at least three days. I don't know, maybe I just have to wait for it to pass.
Last night I took her out to dinner, Borders and a movie. She loves Borders and she really wants to find a fantasy book that will pull her in from page one, and we were there for almost an hour and she didn't find anything. I found something that she settled for, but I want to do more to help her be happy. I'm picking up Grey's Anatomy Season 3 today, maybe that will lift her spirits a little bit. I hope so. If anybody has ideas on how I can help her out (preferably without spending a lot of money and without asking her to take days off work) I'd really appreciate it.
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Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 11:11 am
Well, I can only speak for myself, but when I'm in a bad mood, no one can pull me out of it. I just have to work through it on my own. I'd say the best thing you can do is let her talk about how she's feeling (and actually listen).
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Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 11:42 am
Just be there for her, even if she needs to cry or b***h. Little things like hugs, complements and such may not seem to help, but she notices and they DO help. So just stay sweet and she'll eventully come out of it, just give her a little time.
as for good fantasy, have her check out some of these authors:
Sharon Shinn (Summers at Castle Auber is my fav.), Mercedes Lackey, and Patricia A. McKillip (pretty much anything by her is good). Oh, Stardust by Neil Gaiman is cute, and the Sliver Wolf trilogy by Alice Borchardt is ok too, though the second book kinda dragged. I'm starting a new author Jacqeline Carey today, i'll tell you if its worth reading or not.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 2:53 pm
I get into funks all the time...and my sweetie is really supportive, and he makes sure he is always there for me.
Sometimes it seems like I am actually getting worse right before I get better (big crying fits and whatnot) so don't get discouraged.
If she seems like she is definitley not getting better, check around the community for counseling centers that she might be able to go to to chat with a professional. Even her campus may offer low cost services to members of the community.
Finally, find a way to help her resolve why she can't go to school this quarter.
Money? start saving now for next quarter.
Too many hours at work? Have her call a meeting with her managers and scheduling staff so that she can voice her concerns about her future and her desire to remain dedicated to her company but still finish school.
Stressed out or family problems/emergency? Definitely find a professional to talk to.
Bureaucratic nonsense or academic record? have her go into academic advising and try to find a counselor that will be her friend and ally, or at least give her step by step instructions on how to rectify the problem.
illness or pregnancy?maybe her campus offers online courses she can do from home until she gets better. Also, check with the Office of Students with Disabilities and they may have options as well.
There may be other problems besides these, but those seem to be common reasons that students cannot attend. I hope some of that is helpful, and alot of that is speaking from experience.
GOOD LUCK YOU TWO!
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 8:58 pm
Find the largest used book store you can find, and see if they have gift certificates. Then give it to her, and invite her to bring her used books over to that store for store credit.. gift certificate+store credit= lots of cheap books for her!
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Posted: Tue Dec 11, 2007 10:25 am
I'd have to say that all of the previous posters are correct IMO.
When I'm in a bad mood, nobody can pull me out of it. Sometimes I don't want to talk, and I certainly don't want to be *forced* to talk, but I have to go through the process on my own.
Does she own a livejournal or anything? Journaling is a good way to get through emotional stress and confusion.
If you can share, perhaps telling us why she can't go to school would be better for us offering solutions to you for her. If not, the suggestions given by SF are all good ones. I know I get stressed out about school a *LOT* and sometimes just wish people would tell me what to do, like they did when I was back in H.S. Except college isn't high school, advisors aren't your babysitters anymore, so I have to deal with it myself. Remind her that on the bright side, pre-summer +/ summer semester isn't that terribly far away, she'll get to expand her mind again soon.
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Posted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 12:17 pm
Thanks for everybody's help. I really appreciate all the wonderful advice, and thanks for the ideas on books.
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