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 Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 3:58 am
I'm in love with my best friend turned unoffical boyfriend of about a year now. To us we are dating just to the rest of the world we're not. We don't really want others to know yet. We have our little on off days when we have a slight arguement like any couple would ect...
My problem is, early august I went on holiday for three weeks, when I came back he was so happy to see me and wanted to spend all his time with me. Which I had no problem with. I found out two days ago at a party when I was away he cheated on me. We were just talking about the summer and I said to him "When I was away I was scared you'd find someone else and forget about me." He went all quiet so I asked him if he had and well he told me.
His defense was he was drunk and he was confused about his feelings for me at the time. He didn't tell me because he knew it would hurt me and he just wanted to forget about it and move on. I was very hurt as to be exspected but I forgave him because I do love him and he was drunk BUT...
Now I just can't get it out of my head its so hard to forget and now I just don't want him to touch me, hug me, kiss me ect because he did all those times since that party knowing what he did.
I just don't know what to do, I've told him that I'm still upset but I don't think he relises how much.
Help me.
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Posted: Sat Sep 29, 2007 11:47 am
The "I was drunk" excuse is such a load of s**t, by the way. Never let anyone say that. "Maybe you shouldn't be getting drunk without me there." would be my reply. You should know better to begin with. Don't let that help you get over it.
Otherwise, I'm sorry. If you're going to have enough issue with it, that it bothers you when he touches you, I don't know what to say. You're going to have to figure out your own way of coping with it. Maybe he should make it up to you somehow. He should be willing to do anything you want from him. He owes you. Especially with that s**t excuse. That's why I don't date people who do that kinda stuff, cause I don't wanna hear that.
You're really going to have to find your own way to cope. This is the kinda thing that depends on you. I'm cruel, so I would probably punish him in some way. It would make him sad, and regret it, and people's pain makes me kinda happy, so I would feel better. But you shouldn't be that way... Cause that's weird...
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Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:50 am
really if its gotten to the point where you dont want him to touch you i dont really know what to say, it really will be hard to forgive him if possible but if you really want to be with him and you dont want to leave him your going to have to get over it because right now your not in a healthy relationship.
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