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 Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 2:04 pm
Hey all you fine young women...
When you start dating (or if you have already started), what attributes are you going to be looking for in the guy you date, and potentially marry?
What is most important?
What isn't most important, but still important?
What is something you would like, but isn't crucial he have?
Is there anything that is a MUST HAVE?
Is there anything peculiar, that you think is important to you, but might not be important to other girls?
If the other young men in this guild read this, what message would you like to get across to them?
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Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 10:53 am
He'd have to be blind so he couldn't see how ugly I am. ._.
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Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 8:56 pm
Edited!
When you start dating (or if you have already started), what attributes are you going to be looking for in the guy you date, and potentially marry?
He has to be morman.
What is most important?
He has to be morman.
What isn't most important, but still important?
His looks!
What is something you would like, but isn't crucial he have?
His hair!
Is there anything that is a MUST HAVE?
He has to be morman.
Is there anything peculiar, that you think is important to you, but might not be important to other girls?
That he has to be kinda... MYSTERIOUS!
If the other young men in this guild read this, what message would you like to get across to them?
(Quoting Lucentas)
Why are you reading this?
Lucentas i bet your not ugly!
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Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 9:34 am
Nah. I bet I am.
But seeing as I'm in a more complacent mood than yesterday, I s'pose I'll fill this out as well.
When you start dating (or if you have already started), what attributes are you going to be looking for in the guy you date, and potentially marry?
Well, someone who'd actually want to date me, for one. I guess people like me can't be too picky.
What is most important?
That he have unwavering faith in the gospel and impeccable moral standards...but guys like that deserve good-looking girls, not this tired old piece of trash.
What isn't most important, but still important?
That he'll be a good father to our children. I guess that's the most I should ask for. I couldn't bear it if my children were miserable because of their own father.
What is something you would like, but isn't crucial he have?
I stopped caring some time ago. I guess I would like it if he wasn't a total jerk.
Is there anything that is a MUST HAVE?
See "most important" up above.
Is there anything peculiar, that you think is important to you, but might not be important to other girls?
Well, his standards of entertainment, I guess. I don't want to date anyone who plays violent/crude video games, watches movies that the whole family can't, or lists "anime" as one of his hobbies.
If the other young men in this guild read this, what message would you like to get across to them?
Why are you reading this? o_0
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Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 3:57 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 9:21 pm
I couldn't sum up what makes my boyfriend my ideal person. He just is, and in every aspect. Of course we have things we both can work out but it's those things that bring us closer together as we grow and help each other to improve. I think that is one of the key things, we are able to grow and improve together. To lift each other up to a higher level time and time again.
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 9:43 pm
Since I am one of the (young rolleyes ) men in this group, let me answer a question that many of you have asked:
Why are you reading this?
Are you girls completely crazy???!!! Don't you know that every guy wants and needs to know what girls view as important in potential boyfriends/spouses. The smart guys are the ones who pay attention.
You see, most guys, if you leave them to themselves, are basically clueless when it comes to the opposite sex. Boys are not that bright about girls. They talk to each other, make crude jokes and talk about what "sounds cool" to them, but in all actuality is a bunch of hooey!
When I taught sunday school for 15 and 16 year olds a few years back I hears a story that most of the boys thought was so cool. They told me that one guy who was about 6 years older was the biggest stud around. The story went something like this, and I am going to make it as clean as possible. After this guy and his wife got sealed in the LA Temple, they "consumated" their marriage in the lomo on the way from the temple to the reception. All the boys were laughing and saying what a stud he was. I took two of them aside (two that had the most sense about them) and told them a few things. First, I said it probably wasn't true. Secondly, I said that if it was, he showed no respect for his new bride by doing that. And lastly, again, if it is true, it shouldn't be spread all over the ward. She would be mortified if she found out that all these people she knew were talking this way about her. They had no idea about any of these 3 concepts that I told them, and these were 2 of the smarter boys.
So, you see, boys need alot of help.
Please, fill out this questionair as honestly as possible. I hope the other young men come and read this. They NEED to know this stuff! Boys may be very smart in other areas, but you would be surprised how little many of them know about girls. It is sad. They get tons of bad info from other boys at school and they oftentimes don't know what to believe.
So, you guys are the experts...help them out a little! wink
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Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2007 2:10 am
Wow. I feel a little under estimated here.
The whole "why do we read it?" question: we read it because it's directed toward us. Why wouldn't we read it? If it were a questionaire for the guys to describe their Juliet, the women would read it too.
I've never been stupid about girls. Sure I've joked around with them and play hit them but I've never said any crude jokes or talked about things that I shouldn't have around them. For me it was just common sense to treat girls like they were princesses. After all, they are daughters of God.
For me I can actually understand them. Sometimes more than guys. You know the times when guys say, "Girls are complicated," and the girls say, "Guys are idiots?" Well I can tell either sex why they're wrong or why each other acts the way they do. I think we say that because we don't take the time to actually understand where each other is coming from. Have you ever really put yourself in their shoes?
I guess that's also helped me understand women. I put myself in their shoes and I can tell a guy what to do, what not to do, what she's going to do, and how she's going to react to what he does. I guess that's why everyone likes to come to me for dating advice (even though I've never been in a relationship) because I've very seldom been wrong.
Just for the sake of it, I'll fill one out for all the ladies out there.
When you start dating (or if you have already started), what attributes are you going to be looking for in the girl you date, and potentially marry?
I'd like her to have a sense of humor. She should have a strong testimony of the church. Someone who is sweet and caring but who's not afraid to be outgoing. This is something that's really hard for me to put into words...
What is most important?
That she love her Heavenly Father more than she loves me. This is the one time where being #2 is #1 in my book.
What isn't most important, but still important?
That she have her Young Womanhood Recognition. It's just like if the guy has his Eagle Scout Award. It's not as important as being an RM but it'd be great to have.
Plus it's really a turn on for guys if she can sing, play an instrument or dance. Hey... it's the same for you ladies, right?
What is something you would like, but isn't crucial he have?
I would like for her to have some of the same interests as me. If not, it's okay as long as there is a comprimise on what we do together.
Is there anything that is a MUST HAVE?
Well... this is kind of one of those "unwritten rules" but she's gotta be shorter and younger than me. I won't go into much detail but it's kind of a big deal for me.
Is there anything peculiar, that you think is important to you, but might not be important to other guys?
I want her to be herself. I don't want a girl with two faces. I would love a girl who's not afraid to be herself. If she can burp, let her burp. If she likes video games, let her play video games. I want a girl who won't act around me what she thinks my ideal version of a woman is. You are you and that's who I want to get to know! Not they person you arn't.
If the other young women in this guild read this, what message would you like to get across to them?
Forgive us of our fault. We arn't perfect. Try not to hold the things that we've done wrong against us. You women of the church practically shape the world we live in. You have that much power over us though we try not to show it.
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Elder Artemis Simetra Crew
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Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2007 8:44 am
Allrighty then.
Since several (read: two) males have expressed their wishes to obtain accurate (read: not bogged down by a bout of depression, a low self-image, and other various issues) information about what females want, I shall attempt another one of these and be as honest and soul-searching as possible.
When you start dating (or if you have already started), what attributes are you going to be looking for in the guy you date, and potentially marry?
He's gotta be the next Captain Moroni. Valiant and brave, with an unwavering testimony of the gospel, and will settle for nothing less than temple marriage and living a life worthy of the highest exaltation.
What is most important?
His spiritual strength; after all, if you've got enough of that, most other positive attributes tend to fall into place. My idea guy would never skip church, make fun of points of doctrine, or fall asleep in the middle of general conference.
What isn't most important, but still important?
That he not be critical of others and their ideas. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people are overly critical and/or pessimistic. (Like, when they put down everything you say--you say you'd like to live in Hawaii someday and they tell you about how prices are too high there and the pineapples taste disgusting because they export all of the good ones.)
What is something you would like, but isn't crucial he have?
Maturity and a love of learning. I'd like to be able to do intellectual activities with him like going to museums, stargazing with my telescope, and doing research on subjects that interest us.
Is there anything that is a MUST HAVE?
I'd like to be treated as an equal human being. I wouldn't like being treated like a princess and being waited on hand and foot, but I would really like to be treated as a loyal comrade who will fight by his side 'til the end.
Is there anything peculiar, that you think is important to you, but might not be important to other girls?
He's got to have a good understanding of how dysfunctional society is, and therefore shun its most pervasive influences on our spirits--those of unsavory media (and not just of the immoral kind). I simply won't be in a relationship with a guy who watches horror movies or listens to screaming music, because anyone with a brain can see how stupid those kinds of things are.
Oh, and he's got to love God's universe and have a deep respect for all life. No hunting for sport or smashing spiders when they could just as easily be let out the nearest door.
If the other young men in this guild read this, what message would you like to get across to them?
Erm...I dunno. Be good, I guess. That's pretty much all the advice I can offer. You guys are really fun to hang out with; I just wish I wasn't too timid to enjoy being around you.
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Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2007 10:37 am
When you start dating (or if you have already started), what attributes are you going to be looking for in the guy you date, and potentially marry?
He has got to have a sense of humor. He should be somewhat polite, but still be fun to hang around. A good listener, RM, an active mormon (who wants to go to the temple), has some sense of...adventure (basically, I don't want a wuss for a husband, like Lucentas said, kind of like Captain Moroni. And he needs to be supportive of me, ex: if I am a bad singer, but I love to sing, he'd encourage and love to hear me sing anyway.
What is most important?
Mormon, and true love for God and me (if he was to marry me).
What isn't most important, but still important?
That he wouldn't mind driving four-wheelers all over my ranch, and he'd enjoy coming out there with me.
What is something you would like, but isn't crucial he have?
Sorry, but looks is something I would like. And beautiful eyes is definetly a plus (I have a thing for blue or green eyes...). wink
Is there anything that is a MUST HAVE?
Gentleman mixed with a funny guy. I would heart a guy who opens doors for me, holds a chair out, etc. But he should probably be somewhat funny too, and doesn't mind my weird "blondeness" issues... whee
Is there anything peculiar, that you think is important to you, but might not be important to other girls?
Love of nature. I love to sit by a brooke or camp out in a meadow and just look at the moon and the sky. I would love it if he would want to do the same with me.
If the other young men in this guild read this, what message would you like to get across to them?
Have fun! Don't be a boring, usual date, do something out of the ordinary and don't be afraid to break the ice when you're having a lull in conversation!
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 1:37 am
Art, don't look at what I read as a put-down. I din't say all guys are dopes, just the majority of them. You should know this. Think of lots of the guys you know. Most of them don't know how to treat a lady. I'm glad that you do, but we all can get better, as my wife keeps reminding me! rolleyes
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 3:29 am
Haha... I have a bad habbit of doing that. Maybe it's because we are all one and if someone says guys I just assume that I'm included in that statement. Wait... I sort of forgot what was said... I know not everyone fits into that catagory. But hey, someone has to stick up for those out there. Uhh... someone please tell me if I'm digging a grave for myself or not...
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Elder Artemis Simetra Crew
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 8:25 am
Yup, I think you are.
Don't worry--we got the gist of it.
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