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 Posted: Fri Nov 09, 2007 5:39 pm
Ok i just found out that my mother might have cancer. She has been in pain for about three to four years and has been to the doctors but they wouldn't test for anything cause they didn't want to. Well now she has a growth and it could be cancer. In my family the girls always get cancer around age 34, my mother is 37. I am really scared she may die, cause they finally did a test and it turned out pretty scary. (can't remember exact test.
Your normal body is supossed to get a 20% on this test, she had an 80%. And the highest % it has been and it not be cancer is 50%. So i am freaking out.
I am only 15 and i have a younger brother who is 11 (who doesn't listen to me by the way) and my mom is a single parent. I don't know what i am going to do if she does die. My grandmother died of cancer befor christmas about 11 years ago and my grandfather is still alive and remarried, but the woman he remarried, is very disrespectful to me and my lil brother and cuz's.
So i don't really wanna live with them, I haven't talked to my dad for 4 years (cause he very much so wronged my family and he does not deserve to live.) so i don't wanna live with him either. My aunt is to poor to support two more kids, when she can barly handle her own two. And that is all the family i have. I have no idea what to do and i kep having meltdowns at school.
Can someone please help me.
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Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 10:15 pm
I'm so sorry that you're going through this.
It depends on two things, basically:
1) what state you live in (the laws are different from state to state)
2) what your mom puts in her will
It would probably be best to ask your mom what she has in her will, if she has one, and see if you two can collaborate
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 4:40 pm
Kleo, you say it as if its a sure thing that her mom is going to die.
Shes not sure of anything just yet, and cancer does not always kill.
Lets try to stay positive here..
It always helps to have someone to talk to, maybe your mom or a counselor?
You always have us, but someone in person, I found, is a lot better.
Someone who cares and gives hugs. n-n
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Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 5:16 pm
I know how you feel.
When I was 15, my mum underwent major open-heart surgery. One day later, and she would likely have had a heart attack and died. When I was 16, she went in again for an operation on her kidneys that was nearly as serious. When I was 17, my dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer.
But you know what? They both survived to tell the tale, and are stronger for it. It's amazing how people can react under pressure, and the human body is designed for survival.
Medical technology is pretty spiffy these days; there's a whopping big likelihood that your mum, like my parents, will come through absolutely okay.
I can understand your fears about the future. I only just sorted out my mum-almost-died issues with a psychologist this year, three years on. Put your trust in the universe, and be your mum's strength, but DON'T be afraid to have a good cry when you need to. Don't lock it away.
No matter whether parents are healthy or not, it's wise to have a will in order, so that if the worst happens, there is no 'other stuff' to worry about. So perhaps discuss that with your mum; she'll understand your fears.
But the chance that you will be left without a mother is slim. I send huggles, and my thoughts and prayers will be with you. heart
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 3:16 am
It's hard to know what to say without knowing what the test you mention is. Some tests are for actual cancer, some are just for the possibility of getting it.
Medical technology is good, but expensive, and not perfect, so I can understand your worry. But not everyone dies from cancer either. So there is hope.
You should talk to your mom about your fears, she might have already come up with a solution. Or you might be able to help make one with her.
At the very least she should sue the bastards who delayed getting her diganosed...
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Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 7:17 pm
Thanks to all who tryed to help and comfort me, i really really needed it, well my mom is home and ok, she doesn't have cancer, they went in and removed a growth and it was nothing, just a growth, even though her tests were really high.
Thanks again.
heart heart heart
~Ketsu
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Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 8:42 am
YAY!!! That's great news! I am happy for you! I wish her many, many long years of happiness with her loving daughter! ^_^
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 6:59 pm
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