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 Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 1:47 am
When I talk to people about sexuality and what-not, most of them seem to see being attracted to both genders as being actually physically etc. attracted to the bodies of both genders, i.e. "swinging both ways". Now, I see it as something rather different, as simply seeing all physical characteristics, including gender, as superfluous and shallow. I.e, "not swinging at all."
Most people treat the two mindsets as the same thing. Do you think that there's a difference, or does the fact that they amount to the same end makes them indistinguishable?
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Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 4:27 pm
My heart stops beating only for you, baby...
Ah, here's one of the many little snags you run into when trying to define sexuality so rigidly. There are so, so many different ways you can try to define your sexuality, and it's often just better to sort of go with the flow. Do what feels right.
And as for actually trying to answer your questions, I think that being attracted to both genders (or anything in between) is more than just a physical things even if you are physically attracted to both. It goes much deeper than that. I'm not a lesbian for the sole reason that I find guys unattractive and icky, to be honest; nothing else feels right. There's something beautiful about lesbian sex and lesbian relationships, and I don't feel like I could connect with a guy in the same way. I couldn't be emotionally attracted.
There is such a thing as asexuality, which means you feel no sexual attraction to any gender. Even people who are asexual may be emotionally and otherwise attracted to members of the same or opposite gender, without any real physical attraction. It's a perfectly alright thing.
I think it's really cool that you look deeper than physical characteristics and past them entirely.
And I think they're different, because there are many, many different sexualities. Probably more than we can even count.
Hope that helped, even if it's a bit wordy! heart For your loving...
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 12:58 am
Thank you very much, Messenger. That did indeed help, especially that you think it's cool and not weird.
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:12 pm
My heart stops beating only for you, baby...
Glad I could help. heart
And sorry it took a while for me to reply in the first place. I had to fight my laziness enough to be able to type up a post like that. Heh.For your loving...
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 4:52 pm
It's all rather reminiscent of the Platonic ideal of love, not in the modern sense where there is no romantic connection whatsoever, but in the archaic sense of the word, where it refers to love between two minds, with the body being of secondary importance, if that. sweatdrop Too much History of Western Philosophy....
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 2:07 pm
My heart stops beating only for you, baby...
:3 That's pretty cool. I can't really ever see myself connecting with a guy the same way I've connected with Steph. So it's morr e than just a physical thing. I could never see myself being in a relationship with a guy.For your loving...
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 2:22 pm
Ugh, I've gotten so confused about everything that I've stopped trying to really define my sexuality anymore. I'm usually attracted to both guys and girls, but I love the two in sort of different ways. Like, I love that guys are bigger than me and usually protective, and I love the softness of girls, and the emotional attachment I get with them.
I've never been in a "real" relationship with a girl, though. ><;
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 5:09 pm
Messenger_Of_The_Moon My heart stops beating only for you, baby...
Ah, here's one of the many little snags you run into when trying to define sexuality so rigidly. There are so, so many different ways you can try to define your sexuality, and it's often just better to sort of go with the flow. Do what feels right.
And as for actually trying to answer your questions, I think that being attracted to both genders (or anything in between) is more than just a physical things even if you are physically attracted to both. It goes much deeper than that. I'm not a lesbian for the sole reason that I find guys unattractive and icky, to be honest; nothing else feels right. There's something beautiful about lesbian sex and lesbian relationships, and I don't feel like I could connect with a guy in the same way. I couldn't be emotionally attracted.
There is such a thing as asexuality, which means you feel no sexual attraction to any gender. Even people who are asexual may be emotionally and otherwise attracted to members of the same or opposite gender, without any real physical attraction. It's a perfectly alright thing.
I think it's really cool that you look deeper than physical characteristics and past them entirely.
And I think they're different, because there are many, many different sexualities. Probably more than we can even count.
Hope that helped, even if it's a bit wordy! heart For your loving...
The phrase, "conditional sexual attraction" for asexuals; "primary sexual attraction" used by all "sexual" people. This terminology is arguably amorphose, as some asexuals may be attracted to physical characteristics as well as or instead of non physical ones.
Just throwin' that out there.
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Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:31 pm
duskydawn When I talk to people about sexuality and what-not, most of them seem to see being attracted to both genders as being actually physically etc. attracted to the bodies of both genders, i.e. "swinging both ways". Now, I see it as something rather different, as simply seeing all physical characteristics, including gender, as superfluous and shallow. I.e, "not swinging at all." Most people treat the two mindsets as the same thing. Do you think that there's a difference, or does the fact that they amount to the same end makes them indistinguishable? Hm. Now that question is what tormented me for so long about whether I "swing both ways" as bisexual, or if I "didn't swing at all" and was just plain lesbian. That really made me think about who I am and stuff like that. I am so darn confusing--even to myself. stressed
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