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Beautiful_Bloody_Suicide

PostPosted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 9:33 am


[Begin rant]
I'm so tired of being in the middle of things. If two people are arguing, I'm always the one who is asked who is right and who is wrong. If I answer one way, one person will be angry. If I answer another way, the other will be angry. If I don't answer at all, both will be angry.
Well, I'm sick of it. If it doesn't concern me, well, guess what? I don't really care about who is right or wrong. I would rather both people stop being so childish and come up with their own solutions and leave me out of it. I don't want to know who is right or wrong about something. I don't care if they did that to you and should they do something to rectify the problem. If it's not my problem and it has nothing to do with me, I'm not going to care and I'm not going to put my energy into trying to act as if I care.
So, please leave me alone and act like the adults you are, thank you.
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PostPosted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 3:14 pm


I think I understand where you're coming from. Though I don't know if I'll ever give up trying to help those I know.

I wouldn't want either to feel they are wrong, while I usually have a positive or negative for both sides. Though whoever I start on first seems to feel the victor. Sure I can attempt to soften that victory by showing them their arrogance or whatever, I know that I can never fully balance the situation.

You could help them know how tripe their problems are by one-uping them with everyday town, country, or world problems. I would suggest never using personal problems since that would only make you their equal. And we all know you're better than stooping to ask assistance from someone else to solve a trivial conflict against an annoyance.[/sarcasm]

Larmyth


Beautiful_Bloody_Suicide

PostPosted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:13 pm


Well, I will continue helping ... mostly because people keep coming to me anyway. No matter what I tell them.

I have tried to make them see that there are so many other things in the world to be concerned about rather than who should have gotten their hair cut this time or who should have had control over the television. It's crazy how they let these small things bother them and make them argue. Things that will not matter in the long run.

I have often given positives and negatives. Not that it does much because then they think I'm trying to act like Dr. Phil, instead of just solving the problem. Then, they're mad at me.
PostPosted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 6:41 pm


I know that all humans are self centered and egocentric too an arguable point. So I have to look at myself to see if it is me that has the problem, am I too flawed to asses their problem. If I clear myself then I need to understand the problem from their perspective. If I know them, then I answer as their self awareness. If I am unsure of who they are then I tend to "answer the question with a question" or in other words guide them to self awareness.
Flick the switches and turn on the lights.


I would like to believe this is all true but I know better.
I don't recall ever "helping" anybody for some time now.

Larmyth

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