|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
 Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 8:52 am
Ok guys I have a question. My finance is just about the graduate from Naval boot camp. This friday actually. And I'm going to see him. I've been debating going into the military since I was in the 8th grade. And am planning on enlisting. I want to know from those of you in relationships where both spouses are in the military. How is that working for you?
|
 |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 9:14 am
Truthfully, it's pretty stressful. My husband and I are both Army but he's Active Duty and I'm a Reserve Component. I was almost deployed three months after him which would have been okay because then, we would have more money, and the year would go quicker for the both of us. But now I risk being deployed later this year or worse, at the end of his tour. It's a bit nerve-racking and there's nothing I can do about it. I won't say, "don't do it" but it might be better if you do it now or never so that both of you can get it done and over with near the same time. That way, you could just knock it out instead of extending it. because when one of you are military, then you're both military.
Another thing to consider is that the military can really change a person. But it might bring you closer together experiencing the same things your husband went through. You may gain a new bond knowing that you've both experienced such a life-altering experience as I did with my husband.
It's a measurement of of pro's and con's but just know that it won't be easy.
That's just me. Maybe other's are more prone to adjust better than I can.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:16 pm
To be honest with you its tough. It breaks up relationships easily unless the two of you were already in the military when you met. I joined the Marine Corps a year and a half after my husband. It's no easy task. A year ago in April he deployed. I deployed in August. He came back to the states in October. I came back in March of this year and I only saw him once during both our deployments. We were in different cities in Iraq. I will tell you it was harder for us both. If you really want to join the military I would suggest joining the same branch as him that way you both can get stationed at the same base if possible and both commands will work with you both about certain things.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Reply
