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 Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:26 pm
Okay, so I participate in martial arts, okay? Budo, to be specific. It’s a mix of like Judo and a couple of other styles. Basically it’s a bunch of throws where you end up on the ground. Throws that (if not landed correctly) will give you a bruise and (if on a hard surface) probably a concussion. I know how to land correctly.
But anyway, today at practice, there were six of us. Three new guys in street clothes and three of us in the uniform things. I was paired with one of the new guys, PJ, for a throw I knew like the back of my hand. We’re practicing on like a foot thick wrestling mat, so there’s really no way to get hurt. And he throws me, gently. Really gently. Then he asks if I’m okay. And then helps me up. After about the fourth time he did this, I was sorely tempted to tell him that I wasn’t made of glass thank you VERY MUCH. And he knew I was good at the landing. I’d been doing it longer than he had. Sexist pig.
Then I get to my old throwing partner, Kevin. We’ve thrown eachother around for a bit. Man, what a difference. I was landing hard, laughing and enjoying myself. “You know you’re doing it right when you are more tired from being thrown than from throwing.” I was exhausted.
Then I start getting thrown by this other new guy. He threw me even harder than Kevin did. It was the best ever.
The only really weak spots I have that I can't protect are my wrists, and the throw didn't involve wrists in any way. SEXIST PIG. He didn't treat the guys like that. Oh, no, but I was the only girl on the mat so I deserved OH SO SPECIAL treatment. Take your sexist ways and shove them up your ******** you ******** you.
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Posted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:35 pm
neutral It was probably his idea of being gentlemanly or considerate or some s**t. If you HAD just told him that you could handle it and didn't appreciate his going easy on you, he probably would have stopped. Sure, you're probably tough, but it's just one of those things that're still trained into guys-- you're supposed to be careful with women. You hit another man, you're just being a guy. You hit a woman, you're abusive. You may not be delicate but it never hurts to be careful, even to cover your own a**.
Guys = dense. You gotta tell men s**t like that or they're going to go with what they know and how they've been trained. It's not a sexist thing. You're just not supposed to hurt a woman.
Besides, as long as you end up on the floor you've been thrown. It's served the purpose, made the point that he can do it. He probably doesn't see any point to be needlessly rough if the point isn't to hurt your partner. A lot of guys don't know their own strength, so probably are worried about hurting you. Appreciate the fact that they're trying to be considerate before telling them to shove it. I doubt it's meant as an insult.
Just the way it seems to me.
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 3:24 am
Sorry, Lydia, but I'm gonna have to agree with Ffaux here. I understand totally why you're annoyed and I'm not telling you stop being annoyed about it. I just think it's unfair on guys that there are fair girls like you, and other girls out there that would happily get PJ in trouble just for the fun of it. Guys have to tread really carefully in this world, and it's true that many of us don't know our own strength, same with girls.
There are malicious girls out there that just love getting guys in trouble, demanding we're chivalrous and that we treat them as an equal, so it's difficult for us, too. Just tell the guy to be a bit more rough, and say, you know, you're not some prissy prom queen. Just don't convince him all girls like roughhousing.
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:47 am
Ending up on the floor =/= thrown if you've been laid down gently
Thrown = it would have bruised if it hadn't been on a mat, regardless of the way I landed
He had been there the week before and seen me get thrown around all over the place. There was no excuse.
Any girl that had been there on the mat would have been ready for worse, just cause they were THERE.
Girls like that drive me crazy.
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:31 am
I think I would call the "overreaction" card since you didn't say anything to him. Being annoyed is understandable but I wouldn't be pissed if I hadn't told him he was underestimating me. I can think of more sexist things then a guy not realizing he could throw you around like a bag of potatoes. I mean, if he had and you COULDN'T handle it and he did hurt you it would make him look like a jack-a** and he was more than likely taking precaution to that.
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Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 1:00 pm
You end up on the floor, don't you? And it probably takes more strength to be gentle about it, rather than to just let you fall, so he's working harder.
Seriously, you have to tell him or you're being a little - what Dyslexic said.
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 7:17 am
It actually doesn't take any strength at all. It's all about getting them off balance.
If he does it next week, I'll tell him.
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