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i have been knowing i was bi since i was 13, but i haven't really came out to my friends. All not all of them. I have only came out to 3 friends and 1 family member. only because they were gay, bi, and lez so i knew they would understand. The ones i have told all came out and everyone who knows are very very i mean very uncomfortable with them now. It really makes me unsure to come out. What should i do?

Hmmmm, tough to answer, we know so little of your situation. I suggest that you talk with people you know are safe and who know your situation to get some specific help.

In general, it is probably not good to come out if you are not set up to deal with the fall out.

That means that first of all you need to be secure in who you are as a person so that you can bear the heartaches that will come your way, and second of all you should try to be in a position where you can move out or get on your own if need be, like if you get kicked out or something.

Here are some general pointers to consider and use or not use if they apply to your situation. Don't rush to do anything suddenly, take the time to make a plan. Being prepared will go a long way. As part of your preparation, try to see this from the point of view of the people you want to tell, think about how they might react (pain, anger, guilt, feeling they have failed, whatever) and be as gentle as you can. Timing is also important, telling someone in private after letting them know you need to talk is likely going to get a somewhat different reaction than just blurting it out at the dinner table. Also, if you have a really elderly relative who would be devastated by the news, maybe having the kindness to wait until they pass might be the better course, even if it means biting your tongue for e few years more.

I hope this helps a bit. We at this guild are certainly willling to listen, let us know how you are doing.