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 Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 3:01 am
Okay, maybe that title's misleading. More accurately, I'd say it's a problem with lack of dating. Or initiating dating. Or something. Nevermind, maybe it's not.
Anyhoo. I won't bore you with details, so here's the whole thing: I'm gay, in an anti-gay community (one of the U.S. states that says it's illegal to have sex with the same gender), and because of this I have no freaking idea how to pick up a date. There are other gay girls in my school, which is a plus, and most of them are in my group of friends, which is another plus, and my group of friends knows that I'm gay, which is a huge bonus. No problems there. In fact, sounds great, right?
I'm horribly shy. I can be social when the situation calls for it, but rarely if ever do I bring myself into such situations.
There's no place to be alone because of the community lest it be in someone's private living quarters.
If I were to get over my shyness, how would I ask someone on a date? The entire anti-gay student body will be hovering nearby to hear every word and then try to run us over with a rusty ol' truck the next day when I'm at the crosswalk. (Bit of an exaggeration, but I know that some of them would definitely be up to it. Especially some that ride my bus, which means they know where I live.) I'm just glad I'm not a guy when it comes to the social aspect. That would be pure hell. I feel SO sorry for the gay guys at my school.
Anyways. If this topic doesn't need to be here, just say so. =3 Hope I haven't disturbed anyone if this isn't where this should be posted. ^^;;
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 6:01 pm
Perhaps a note asking the receiving party out to dinner, lunch or some other relatively private event?
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2008 4:42 pm
Oooh, that's a great idea! I know a lil' cafe not but a town over. =3 Thanks, I would've never thought of it for a dating area. XD
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 2:33 pm
Could you or your friend(s) conveniently need "help" with homework? Your friend(s) could come over to do homework with you in the privacy of your room, and when alone, you can talk about anything you want, including where and how to go for fun times together without arousing suspicion.
And if you had the house to yourself, maybe a, um, "slumber party" could be arranged on occasion? Maybe you could go for a bike ride down a quiet trail and atleast be able to talk? Are any of you old enough to drive? A girls day at the mall, or a picnic might be innocent enough, as long as you remember to be careful about who's around and what you say...
Just try to make it look like typical innocent girly stuff and keep it to yourselves what you talk about, or whatever else might go on, behind a closed door...
Hope this helps a bit. biggrin
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Posted: Wed Feb 20, 2008 8:43 am
Well you could always concentrate on growing relationships online, keeping it out of the public eyes, until you are able to get away from that state, which I suggest to do whenever you can. You need a place that you don't have to feel so scared to be yourself. There are lots of online communities and for all you know there might actually be a underground gay community near you. Where I grew up there were three gay clubs and I had to learn from others where the back entrance was hidden. You never know there might be a couple club nearby, they are everywhere.
Anyways, I wish you all the luck
Kat
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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 5:32 pm
whiskers210 Okay, maybe that title's misleading. More accurately, I'd say it's a problem with lack of dating. Or initiating dating. Or something. Nevermind, maybe it's not. Anyhoo. I won't bore you with details, so here's the whole thing: I'm gay, in an anti-gay community (one of the U.S. states that says it's illegal to have sex with the same gender), and because of this I have no freaking idea how to pick up a date. There are other gay girls in my school, which is a plus, and most of them are in my group of friends, which is another plus, and my group of friends knows that I'm gay, which is a huge bonus. No problems there. In fact, sounds great, right? I'm horribly shy. I can be social when the situation calls for it, but rarely if ever do I bring myself into such situations. There's no place to be alone because of the community lest it be in someone's private living quarters. If I were to get over my shyness, how would I ask someone on a date? The entire anti-gay student body will be hovering nearby to hear every word and then try to run us over with a rusty ol' truck the next day when I'm at the crosswalk. (Bit of an exaggeration, but I know that some of them would definitely be up to it. Especially some that ride my bus, which means they know where I live.) I'm just glad I'm not a guy when it comes to the social aspect. That would be pure hell. I feel SO sorry for the gay guys at my school. Anyways. If this topic doesn't need to be here, just say so. =3 Hope I haven't disturbed anyone if this isn't where this should be posted. ^^;; I'm singing the same song as you, I know exacally how you feel only I don't have gay girl friends!
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