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I put in my introduction that I would really like to learn more about this kind of lifestyle and I really meant it. I am open to PMs from anyone who would like to talk, RP, or maybe other things.

Sorry if this is inappropriate, but I am really eager to learn and this guild seems more serious than other guilds and I didn't know where to post it.

Stories, desires. It's not like I haven't been with girls in different ways, but never with someone who is into stuff like this.

Oh yeah, bondage forums. They are like the Penthouse forum. Total bullshit from dreamers and posers.

I appreciate the advice! I'll check them out.

I pretty much copied the BDSM Library as our encyclopedia. It's been added to and taken from, but most of that stuff is in here. Yeah, I'd say my favorite free vids are on DeviantClip.com It's a great site and pretty safe if you have any kind of protection at all. Pull up a search for Videos and there should be a section titled Fetish. Most of the bondage vids are in there.

hmmm.... I must say that I am happy that you are looking into the lifestyle, however I think you might be going about it the wrong way. You can't just walk in and start taking commands from people simply because that's what your basic sub does..... it just doesn't have the same effect, there's no emmotional or any type of attachments there. (Although I do wonder if there would be a type of way to make this into a game for our members to participate in, a type of BDSM truth/dare we can play perhaps?)

First off, make sure that you're getting into this because it's the lifestyle you have formed and you feel comfortable with, you should come into this and feel naturally at home, sorta... *attempts to think of a better way to explain.* Ok, it's a lifestlye, the style at which you live your life, you make it. Make sure you, and your personality and beliefs are making it. Don't come in here and look around and then let the stereo type, or someone elses views on the lifestyle, shape you.... Yeah, think I said that right.

I say this because everyone has different views on this lifestyle, no one person looks at it exactly the same, or every master would look and act just like every other, same with the slaves, there'd be nothing but a cookie cutter for each role. Instead you have many different *steroe types* Like the BDSMers and Gores. Basicly, as corny as it sounds, you need to sit down and do some serious 'soul searching'. You need to find out what can and can't you do without violating your religious beliefs, morals, sense of honor, respect, all that stuff.

If you would like to get involved I'd advise some experimentation yourself. small things, first off find out which role you would play, master/slave, dom/sub. Second off I'd advise journals, finding out what people do and what consequences that action has only does you sooo much good. But if you can get into someone's head, can learn why, how, how they feel, how they think, then you can really begin to learn.