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 Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 10:25 pm
The wheel of the year turns and we go on but, must it be so painful?
My mother is on her deathbed. Tonight I'm staying at home so that my father can stay at the hospital with her. She suffered from a stroke last Wednsday night and her condition has been uncertain almost all week until yesterday. She is basically brain-dead and entirely unresponsive. I'll be rejoining my father and others dear to her tomorrow. The whole thing is now just a matter of time. I want to have a meditation or ritual for her but I really have no idea where to begin. Most of my resources cover life and have little help for dealing with death. Not banking for sob points, I just want help connecting my faith with current situation.
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 10:48 am
I don't mean to sound like I don't care, but it seems there isn't much you can do for her. Be there for her, try to comfort her, but after her passing your family will need healing. Try to help them.
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:45 pm
Thank You, and I do understand. She did pass this morning a little before three. I was with her to the end. She was in no pain and I'm carrying out her wishes as I write. I just want to know at this point if there is any sort of blessing or rituals I could do to celebrate her life as best as I now can. She lead a decent, blessed life and I want the powers beyond me to know this.
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Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 5:58 am
I hear extremely good things about Starhawk's The Pagan Book of Living and Dying. You might want to read through the reviews on Amazon or something.
Best wishes. The Wheel turns, but that doesn't mean a loss isn't painful. May your mother dance in joy, and smile upon you.
Requiescat in Pace
Dis Manibus Sacrum
(Rest in peace, sacred to the deified spirits of the dead)
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Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 4:44 pm
Thanks, I'll check that one out.
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Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 2:54 pm
If your looking for something to ease your pain, I will let you know something I have done. I keep pictures of all the people close to me that have left us. I talk to them (the pictures) and burn their favorite color and sents in candles. I bring things from my garden and take them places they liked to go. It's not as drastic as the Japanese traditions, but it helps me deal with the pain. I remember all the good times we've had and how they have changed my life. I hope this has helped you or has given you an idea on how you can help yourself. Let me know if you want to talk.
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