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 Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 12:02 am
Here's me being stupid. [And bored]
Okay so basically I'm bisexual. I would say I would much rather be with a girl than a guy but honesty it doesn't really matter since it is sincerely doubtful that I'll ever be with someone.
There's this girl I met about two months ago. A co-worker. From the first time I met her I thought she was super cute. As I got to know her more I began to have feelings for her. I don't usually fall for anyone, just the occasional crushes.
The thing is... First off she's not gay. I'm 99% sure of it. Secondly, she's about 10 years older than me. [She soo doesn't look it. Such a pretty girl <3] It's not a problem for me but she doesn't really go for younger people. [Borderline *****??] There's also the fact that there's a chance she's leaving and going back to Japan in a few months.
I think about her so often and she just makes me smile when I see her. It makes me want to hug her so badly. [I gave her this hug from the back today <3 ..as a friendly hug, you know.. >__>;]
Oh.. there's also the little fact that I'm not exactly out of the closet. Only a few of my friends know I'm bisexual. And only one of my friends that I talk to every so often that knows about this girl. She likes to tease me about her >___<
This is more about me ranting than asking questions but free feel to state what you think.
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Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 10:51 am
Maye you should invite to do something (as friends) and see if she'd like to be friends, you know, get to know her better. Maybe you could go out to dinner or a movie or something else perhaps?
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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 8:36 am
Chieko A Maye you should invite to do something (as friends) and see if she'd like to be friends, you know, get to know her better. Maybe you could go out to dinner or a movie or something else perhaps? Sound advice.
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 9:35 pm
We have been going out. About once a week or so we go out to have dinner after work <3 I've been to her house too. We even bought the same bag together when we went shopping whee
I think I might be getting a little too touchy with her... Pretty much whenever I see her I just want to give her a giant hug and I'm finding that I'm hugging her [from behind usually =P] every so often.. I don't know if doing this is awkward for her or if she doesn't mind.
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Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 2:50 am
Hmm well .. being touchy is only a problem if the person getting touched has a problem with it... and to find out whether it is a problem or not, I say; ask her. Communicate. That's the only way you can know for sure, really... Her being older than you are, she is most likely adult enough to give you a straight (no pun intended) answer.
~J
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Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 6:10 am
By all means do talk, it is the only way you'll ever find out.
You said she was from Japan? As in she's Japanese? Or just someone who had lived there for awhile?
The Japanese tend to be a more reserved people than some, you may find that hugging her too much may be a turn off for her just because she's not used to it. And yes, there can always be exceptions to every rule. If you tell her you are trying to be friendly and ask if she minds, that would be a quick way to figure out if you are making matters worse or better. If she's okay with it you may even consider risking a frontal hug.
But again, be careful. Accepting a hug is not an announcement of her sexuality, it just means she likes you. And if she's straight that could change real quick when you tell her your gay. I highly recommend you don't tell her you are gay, and that you have feelings for her, at the same time. A staight person may not mind a gay person hugging them, but it doesn't mean they want to go any farther than that. Tell her you are gay first, and see how she reacts.
One more thing, if she's determined to go back to Japan you may not have enough time to get too far. I'm not telling you to hurry, that's how mistakes get made, but you don't have time to be too shy, either. If she is the one you want, then you want to at least have confirmed she likes you and is gay before she leaves, then you can keep in touch.
Hope this helps.
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 4:17 pm
I'm not expecting anything to happen though. I just..want to be around her more.
And yes, she's Japanese. She's here on a working visa so she has to go back unless work sponsors her or something. She seems to want to stay. Maybe not forever but for the time being at least.
*Sigh* I can't stop thinking about her. I want to see her <3
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Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 6:01 pm
He, he, well, "faint heart never won fair lady", and all that. I'm certainly not telling you that you shouldn't try for her, just advising not to go too far too fast.
As for her wanting to stay in Japan, well, it's just going home for her, a natural reaction. Hmmm, would she be open to tutouring you in the Japanese language? It would be one reason to have contact with her, maybe even a reason to keep in touch once she's gone back...
Well, I do wish you good luck! And I'm sure I'm not the only one here who does. wink
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Posted: Fri Apr 25, 2008 12:34 am
Right now it seems she wants to stay here even though at the beginning she was only planning to stay a year. Hopefully she can stay a bit longer. And I've been mentioning to her a lot that I've always wanted to go to Japan and she's said that she would show me around <3
She's actually surprised that I know a tiny bit of Japanese from watching too much anime. She's teaching me a few words/phrases here and there so I'm happy.
I am spending a fair bit of time with her since I work with her. And I'm also asking her out to dinner after work once or twice a week along with my other co-worker(s) too.
If she does end up leaving I would make sure that I get all her contact info. Especially for when I plan to go visit her <3
And thank you <3
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Posted: Sat May 17, 2008 2:28 am
Haha. She jokingly said "Ok then you're gay!" I think I died a little inside xD' I almost wanted to say 'Yes! Yes, I am!' But then I'm too afraid that she wouldn't be as comfortable with me as she is now since I do have feelings for her. Better off not saying anything since I'm not planning to do anything about it..ever.
*Random
She sits on the other couch. I want her to sit beside me and lean on my shoulder .___.;
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 11:10 pm
Well, sometimes these things don't work out. Don't forget that if 10% of the world is gay, that means 90% aren't. The odds are 9 to 1 against...
But was she being dismissive? Or was she being nervous because maybe you hit closer to the mark than she was comfortable with, about herself? Or was she even giving you an opening? Can you try again?
Not sitting on the couch with you, did you give her a reason to want to? From what you've said, she doesn't know how you feel yet.
But it's okay, even if all you can do is learn a bit more for next time you've made progress. First loves rarely work out, despite Hollywood. Go ahead and mourn if you want to, after all, a beautiful possibility died. Just remember, you will find someone, unless you stop looking.
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Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 12:26 am
I've never looked for it_
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Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 12:32 am
guuu ~
I decided to move over to the diaries section and rant over there instead.
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